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15 Forms of Queer Exercise I’m Doing in 2020

I will be dedicating myself exclusively to the projects of maintaining my Taurus moon lifestyle and queering exercise with these rigorous activities.

By Kamala Puligandla| January 13, 2020 | 9 Comments

How to Live Alone Without Losing Your Mind

After trudging through years of roommates leaving their dildos on the dish rack, I was finally living alone. I hated it, and I didn’t know why.

By Ro White| January 13, 2020 | 20 Comments

Raising Baby T. Rex: Club Fawn, No Naps, and Reclaiming Procreation

Reclaiming queer procreation, dropping the last nap, stupid crows, Baby T. at A-Camp, and losta cute T. Rex pics.

By KaeLyn| February 23, 2019 | 39 Comments

Raising Baby T. Rex: Dinos Resist! A Guide to Raising a Little Activist

“What I’m saying is, if you’re sitting in the legislative chamber trying to hear the floor debate and someone’s kid starts crying or yelling “Baby Shark!” please be kind to them.”

By KaeLyn| January 26, 2019 | 20 Comments

Do the Damn Thing, Part 3: Fail and Refocus

You’ve done it. You’ve crafted long term and short term goals, made an action plan, set reasonable expectations, nurtured the skills that empower you to focus — and now you’ve failed. Welcome to being a human on this earth!

By Heather Hogan| January 4, 2019 | 14 Comments

Raising Baby T. Rex: Terrifying Sharks for a Toddler Ocean Explorer

Remi loves the ocean so very much wow, baking cookies with a two-year-old, some very cute holiday-ish pics, having it all is a lie, #Cativan, and more Baby T. updates for your face!

By KaeLyn| December 29, 2018 | 42 Comments

Do the Damn Thing, Part 2: Focus, Boundaries and Single-Tasking

You’ve crafted some longterm goals and set some realistic expectations. Now you’re ready to tackle the most important part of doing the thing: actually doing the thing.

By Heather Hogan| December 28, 2018 | 5 Comments

Do the Damn Thing, Part One: Setting Goals and Realistic Expectations

January is a time for resolutions, but I’m going to give you something better than that: A pre-New Year three-week lesson on figuring out what the heck you want to do and actually doing it.

By Heather Hogan| December 21, 2018 | 7 Comments

Raising Baby T. Rex: Temper Tantrums and Dinner Dance Parties

Dealing with a toddler having a temper tantrum is a lot like putting out a fire, plus mom bod nudies, Remi’s fav song for dinner dancing, cat baby watch update, and more!

By KaeLyn| December 1, 2018 | 32 Comments

La Boda Jota #4: Loving Another Queer Latina Is A Radical Act

I choose her, always, because she’s my home and my light.

By Yvonne| October 10, 2018 | 30 Comments

Raising Baby T. Rex: The Soft Underbelly of a Hard Femme Mama

I love how soft I am postpartum. It’s a reminder of how my body stretched and grew and changed to grow a tiny human. I didn’t know I could be that strong and that soft simultaneously. I didn’t know my softness could be my strength.

By KaeLyn| October 6, 2018 | 68 Comments

La Boda Jota #3: What’s a Fat Tomboy Femme to Wear on Her Wedding Day?

The first question people asked me when I got engaged was what I was going to wear to the wedding. My impulse reaction was to blurt out, “how the fuck should I know?”

By Yvonne| September 26, 2018 | 21 Comments

La Boda Jota #2: Wedding Planning Woes

“At the start of every year, I feel an itch to plan and make vision boards and examine my life and my goals. I knew one thing on my 2018 to-do list was certain and it was getting married and having a wedding.”

By Yvonne| September 12, 2018 | 22 Comments

La Boda Jota #1: We’re Not Gonna Wait ‘Til I’m 28

As I quickly learned from the jump, when two queer Latinas are trying to get married — something that sometimes feels like is unheard of — there’ll be some bumps in the road. 

By Yvonne| August 29, 2018 | 45 Comments

Raising Baby T-Rex: My Mom Says We’re Exactly The Same

I wasn’t at all ready for the feelings I’d have about being adopted and queer and raising a toddler who still isn’t as old as I was when I came to the United States on an airplane.

By KaeLyn| February 13, 2018 | 64 Comments

Y’All Need Help #16: You Can Do Things About You!

Being miserable at your 9-5 job, your family isn’t wild about your fiancee and you’re embarrassed to get married, you’re not wild about your current roommate, and people think you might be related to your gal BUT YOU’RE NOT. Come on in!

By Laneia| December 16, 2017 | 26 Comments

Also.Also.Also: Three Grown Women Touch a Silky Chicken and Other Stories

Fcking gummy bears man, Standing Rock documentary, a gay Disney character, Stranger Things stuff, and other things that are so good to read that I can’t explain it to you here.

By Laneia| October 26, 2017 | 9 Comments

Show Us Your Planners: A Queer Organization Roundtable

“I like my setup right now because it’s a visual reminder that little by little, progress adds up.”

By A.E. Osworth| August 15, 2017 | 58 Comments

Home Sweet Homo: An Autostraddle Homeowner Roundtable

Cee, Beth, Aja, and KaeLyn share their daring tales of real-life homeownership and their solid advice to future homebuyers!

By KaeLyn| August 8, 2017 | 18 Comments

Home Sweet Homo: A Guide to Buying Your First Home

Where do you even start the journey of finding your dream home? Right here!

By KaeLyn| July 25, 2017 | 88 Comments

What Actually Useful Things Did You Learn From Your Exes?

So grateful to our exes for opening our eyes to these tips and tricks and vital life skills. No really, we’re actually grateful. Sarcasm-free.

By the team| July 10, 2017 | 60 Comments
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