Love & Canada: A Little Less Conversation, A Little More Action

This week, I've been sleeping in.*

I've been away from my parents' house and cat sitting for my best friend/ex-partner and even though the cat is very demanding with regard to feeding times and immediate litter box cleanings I've largely been able to actually sleep this week, in contrast to the rampant insomnia and "oh, I like waking up at 4 a.m., I have so much more time for exercise and journalling and showering and worrying I mean breakfast" that have characterized the past few months. (Also I don't feel like openly weeping all the time any more which is nice but I am still crying an amount that for me is significantly higher than average, what's up with that.)

Anyway for reasons about to be seen I am finally immersed in making this wedding happen for real and it feels great. I hate all talk and no action, so doing stuff and moving on and no longer having it sit in the back of my brain as something that might happen but wasn't for sure yet, not really, feels amazing.

* Unti...

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Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1068 articles for us.