Ex-Lesbian Mom on the Run: Lisa Miller Violates Custody Ruling, Vanishes

Lisa Miller and Janet JenkinsISABELLA HAS TWO MOMMIES, KINDA: Lisa Miller is pulling a Bette Porter except unlike Bette Porter, she is wrong & illegal and not the hottest woman of the year.

To recap: Lisa Miller and Janet Jenkins entered in a civil union in 2000. Lisa Miller is the biological mother of Isabella, who was conceived via artificial insemination after the civil union had been finalized. In 2003, the two broke up and Miller fled to Virginia in order to avoid the custody order which granted Jenkins visitation. Once she arrived in Virginia, Lisa Miller announced that she renounced homosexuality and now considered it a sin.

Because Lisa Miller refused to allow visitation, Judge William Cohen of Rutland Family Court in Vermont ordered that Miller hand Isabella over to Jenkins on Friday January 1st, 2010. LezGet Real reports:

The whereabouts of Lisa Miller cannot be verified currently. She has not answered her phone and does not appear to have had contact with her lawyers in close to a month. Jenkin’s lawyer, Sarah Star, stated that she hoped that Ms Miller was still at her Virginia home. “My client is asking, almost pleading, Ms. Miller to not make it harder than it is. It’s a difficult transition but as adults she is asking her to not make it any harder than it needs to be,” according to Star.Bette Porter and Angelica

The filings regarding the stay talked about the difficulties involved in the transfer. According to Miller’s lawyers, “The potential effect of any change in Isabella’s housing, school, community and environment could be to ‘induce devastating trauma.’” Liberty Council lawyer Rena Lindevaldsen was quoting a doctor retained to testify on Miller’s behalf. Ms Lindevaldsen also claimed that Jenkins was disdainful of Miller’s religious beliefs, and that Isabella attended a Christian school and held the same beliefs. These beliefs included that homosexuality was a sin.

So if you see an ex-gay asking for a f*cking sippy cup in Tijuana … no really this is serious business. Perhaps she is being hidden away by Exodus International.

ARGENTINA: Latin America had it’s first official gay wedding yesterday. An Argentinian couple who tried to get married in Buenos Aires last month decided to head farther south to Ushauaia rather than wait for the capital city’s courts to allow their marriage.

Technically, gay marriage is illegal according to Argentina’s civil code, but it isn’t unconstitutional.Gay Marriage

Correspondents say the governor exploited this grey area and gave the two men a special dispensation. (@bbcnews)

SCOUTS: An LAPD youth program ended it’s association with the Boy Scouts because of the scouts’ anti-gay policies: “It’s bittersweet in the sense that the Boy Scouts or Learning for Life have been part of this for a long time–in name only–but the LAPD is committed to a better program and we can do that without having discrimination,” Police Commissioner Alan Skobin said. (@edgeboston)

GAY MARSHAL: The Senate confirmed Obama’s pick for the first gay U.S. marshal. Sharon Lubinski is also the first female marshal in Minnesota. (@latimes)

SMEAR TACTICS: An Illinois race for a Senate seat has turned dirty. One candidate in the GOP primary, U.S. Rep. Andy Martin, is trying to hurt his opponent by spreading probs false gay rumors in an attack ad.

“Illinois Republican leader Jack Roeser says there is a ‘solid rumor that Kirk is a homosexual,’ ” Martin says in the ad. “Roeser suggests that Kirk is part of a Republican Party homosexual club. Lake County Illinois Republican leader Ray True says Kirk has surrounded himself with homosexuals. Mark Kirk should tell Republican voters the truth.”

Ooh, a homosexual club! I bet they play Glambert at their meetings! Oh wait, they’re Republicans. I don’t know what Republicans listen to.

But seriously, I’m really tired of gayness being used as an insult. Way to set an example, Martin! Also, Kirk is in the military right now, so that ad could have serious consequences beyond his candidacy. Not cool. (@chicagosun-times)

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  1. “a Republican Party homosexual club” sounds like the worst.club.ever.

    I don’t know what Republicans listen to. That’s easy…Toby Kieth, Sarah Palin, and of course the sweet sound of rights being ripped away.

  2. So tired of Illinois politics. I’m embarrassed. Unfortunately, Democrats haven’t been much better. Jacob Meister is a gay man running in the Democratic primary for the Illinois U.S. senate seat as well and has received some underhanded remarks from Democratic opponents about his sexuality. It’s some bullshit. I will on the real die though if Kirk is elected to the senate. I’m so done with him as my Rep as it is. The dude is totally sheltered, and all about making the wealthy wealthier.

    • I met Jacob Meister before I boarded the failed Join The Impact bus to DC (he was on a bus that made it) and he seemed very nice, unfortunately I didn’t really get to talk to him…

  3. Why should a woman who has no biological ties to a child get custody of said child? Especially when there is a biological mother on the scene. This is why fags shouldn’t be able to have children.

  4. Let’s play a thought game, Todd. Let’s suppose a husband and wife wanted to have a baby, but due to bio complications, they had to use a sperm donor to conceive. They raise the child, but a few years later the husband and wife divorce. Does the mother have the right to refuse the father his state-granted custody rights just because she feels like it?

    The state of Vermont doesn’t believe she does, and unlike most of the country, applies the same standards to homo and hetero couples. I’m really curious to know what you think though. Is this different just because we’re “fags” or would you deny nonbiological hetero parents their rights too?

    • For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

      27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

      28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

    • I don´t know who you are and I don´t care. Hate belongs to satan, all I want as a Christian is real justice. Christ died for you, do you call that hate? And we´re not bastards, God is our beloved FATHER. If you´re not with God then you´re a bastard because Satan doesn´t recognize his sons.

  5. Surely there are similar precedents to draw upon involving hetro couples. Namely, situations where the mother’s male partner/husband is not the biological father, and has not adopted the child, but at some point had a supportive relationship to the child as a stepfather.

    I can think of anecdotal cases involving people I’ve known (in which case the former stepfather has no rights), but I’m not a legal scholar so I’d appreciate any info on the matter. Anyone?

  6. I don´t believe in evolution theory. But sometimes seems so many people came from monkeys. How in God´s world can a Judge do this? Gays, lesbian, sin, sin, SIN. God is more than clear about it. You may change the world but you´ll never change God. Truth is only one. Believe and get saved, be a sinner and go to hell. We call love to sex, we give rights to perverts. The Lord´s day is about to come.

  7. The facts in this article are not correct. Miller did not leave Vermont to escape the court ordered visitation. The court was not involved at that point. In fact, Jenkins helped Miller pack her belongings knowing that she and Isabella were moving to Virginia.

    Janet Jenkins never wanted Lisa Miller to have a child, and after Isabella was born, Jenkins never spent more than an hour alone with her. She made it clear that she did not want to raise her. Jenkins and Isabella went to VA with Miller’s blessing. Only when Miller filed for divorce did Jenkins decide to make a political case out of these circumstances.

    Though Jenkins never claimed that Miller was an unfit parent, the Vermont courts ruled to give Jenkins FULL CUSTODY of this child who was not her biological daughter, based soley on the fact that Miller’s Christian beliefs were in opposition to the homosexual lifestyle. At the time of the ruling, the courts did not specify ANY VISITATION for Miller, the biological mother. What kind of government takes away the parental rights of a perfectly fit BIOLOGICAL parent and awards FULL CUSTODY to an UN-BIOLOGICAL parent? Lady Justice lifted her blindfold in this case and judged with an agenda, not with the law.

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