Into the A+ Advice Box #36: How Do You Become the Mean Femme Top of Your Dreams?

Welcome to the 36th edition of Into the A+ Advice Box, in which we answer all the queer and lesbian advice questions from A+ members who submitted their queries into our A+ ask box! Here, we answer your questions in a space just for A+ members, safe from the general public. (No guarantees regarding your ex, however.) Here, the Autostraddle team’s doling out advice on everything from sex and relationships, to friend and family dynamics, career questions, style, and more! We’re doing this column TWICE a month, now.

AND a Special Announcement: we're trying a new thing where the second Into the A+ Advice Box of each month will be themed. This month's theme is DIVORCE. As always, this is meant expansively, for legal marriage/divorce or no. If...

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