It’s a Thing: International Meet an Autostraddler Week

Remember last week when we put together a really special, informative and highly accurate / imaginative piece How to Make Gay Friends and Meet Girls: The Ultimate Guide to Effective Queer Socializing?

But it turned out that all you really needed in order to meet other queers was the freedom to post your current city and email address in the comments?


Just kidding, I love you. So much so, in fact, that we’ve declared next week International Meet an Autostraddler Week! WHAT, THAT’S EXCITING. Yes, I know. How does one celebrate International Meet an Autostraddler Week? Simple! You make plans to meet a fellow reader and then you go do that.

Some of you have celebrated early and that’s cool, don’t worry. Intern Emily apparently celebrates this holiday every weekend or something. Montreal lesbians are so lucky for so many reasons and Emily is one of those reasons! Also there’s something called ‘Faggity Ass Fridays’ which, I mean seriously, that sounds like a lot of fun.

A handful of Autostraddle team members have organized meet-ups in their respective cities. If you’re in or around these areas and would like to be part of the party, email for exact locations and more info!


Tuesday, November 9
contact: crystal [at] autostraddle [dot] com


Wednesday, November 10
contact: laneia [at] autostraddle [dot] com


Saturday, November 13 / Sunday, November 14
unknown time
contact: laura [at] autostraddle [dot] com


Monday, November 8
unknown time
contact: greenearthgirl4 [at] gmail [dot] com


Flexible dates & times
contact: heathergfroehlich [at] gmail [dot] com


Additional meet-ups have been / will be taking place
contact: ehmerrow [at] yahoo [dot] com


Thursday, November 11
contact: emilychoo19 [at] gmail [dot] com


Wednesday, November 10
contact: katelynhouck [at] gmail [dot]com


Thursday, November 11
contact: louberry76 [at] gmail [dot] com


Flexible dates & times
contact: daphne.vandevoorde [at] gmail [dot] com

If you’ve coordinated a meet-up in your city and would like to share your contact info, email me: laneia [at] autostraddle [dot] com. I will update this post with your name, city, email, etc.

I feel weird and nervous for you guys when you put your email addresses [you should spell them out to avoid spammers] in the comments – probably because I’m a mother and I want you to eat one green thing a day and not get abducted by strangers. So! It is with the utmost fear and hope that I encourage you to meet each other in well-lit, public places. If possible, meet in large groups and take a friend! Also it never hurts to carry a can of Mace / wiffle bat.

**DON’T POST EXACT MEETING LOCATIONS IN THESE COMMENTS! Please email each other. Jesus I’ve been gone for 24+ hours and you guys have lost your precious little minds. Email!

Additionally, several of you have emailed / tweeted / formspringed to say that Autostraddle needs a forum / social networking apparatus. Yes, we know. We’ve got big big plans for Autostraddle and I promise you’ll be super pleased. In the meantime, you’ll just have to make friends the old-fashioned way: interesting avatars, witty comments and compelling blogs.

Have you already met an Autostraddler?
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  1. If your reading this and you live in Caracas, Venezuela …PLEASE LET ME KNOW! laneta82 (at) gmail (dot) com. My life is miserable without gay friends who live close by.

    But I have met some of you in the past, including you Laneia (I won’t ever forget my 26th birthday lol), and I love u all.

    • So I unhopefully Ctr+F’d the comments for “France” and look! it turns up. I’m living in the south of France (ERASMUS from England), and there is a lesbian bar ON MY STREET but I have no gay friends here so just walk gloomily past it.

      Does anyone (incl. you, Lulu) live around the Languedoc area?
      I have an email also: pieuvres at hotmail dot co dot uk

    • dude, there was definitely at least one on the previous thread. I suggested she go to Sunset Tavern in South Miami on Thursday nights. Admittedly, I only went once when I was home last summer but it was wall to wall lesbians.

    • There’s Sunset Tavern (Sunkissed) and Mova (Pandora) on Thursday nights. Also, Sunkissed has a once a month event at Love/Hate on South Beach. There’s a new Sunday day event called Panty Raid (icandee) at Score that I haven’t been to yet. And coming up at the end of November is the White Party and there will be a lot of women at the women’s events. Pandora and Sunkissed also throw random other parties for holidays, etc…

  2. Oy! There are already so many comments! This might be a slim chance, but I’ll go for it anyway.
    Lubbock, TX

    yvette.loera [at] gmail [dot] com

    P.S. I keep wanting to spell “come” instead of “com” which is funny. It’s like, “come to me friendly lesbians, so we can go to Fuzzys Taco and have fuzzdrivers and intellectual yet funny conversation.”. And yes, there is a place here called Fuzzys Taco. No, it doesn’t really have anything to do with lesbians or anything gay, it’s just a very friendly place.

    So what do ya say, kids?

      • OMG YOU GUYS!!! Vida and I have been reppin Vegas on the last two threads about this where were you????? My gf and Vida and I plus you guys makes 6 I think! Definitely enough for a brunch. Or Yayo’s or Cafe Rio or U-swirl or whatevs! Let’s make this happen! Email me or find me on facebook, even though this was like 2 weeks ago.
        laurenoldfield08 (at) yahoo (dot) com

  3. Los Angeles Ladies!!

    So, I skate w/volunteer w/ the LA Derby Dolls and this weekend we have two bouts! You should come because:

    it’s this weekend: NOVEMBER 13 + 14

    1)Roller derby is amazeboobs
    2) Cool chicks knock each other down
    3) There are plenty of lezzies at the bouts

    AND, for you underages, there is a Sunday afternoon baby doll brawl which is all ages and still supergay!

    I’ll be volunteering @ both games (raffle tix what what!) so you can come buy raffle tix from me or just scream “autostraddle” at the top of your lungs…whatevs you feel like.

  4. I’m kinda sad. No one from Portland OR has put anything up. Boo! I am lazy and so was hoping someone else would do it. Oh well. Anyway, I know a bunch of ladies in Portland read this because that is how I found out about it. So, I was thinking either Powell’s or the Food Carts on Hawthorne so we could BYOB. email me if interested for the deets.

        • Does Vancouver count too? I’d also like to meet fellow Autostraddle readers. Although I’m still closeted, so finding an excuse to get out might be problematic. I’d still like to make more lesbian friends cuz I barely have any, even if it’s temporarily over the internet!

          • I think Vancouver could still work. I’m more wanting to meet more autostraddle readers as well, though it’d be great to get that lesbian posse ahaha

            I’d say email the Portlanders who show up. Then we can at least all get to know that we’re not alone in our lovely corner of the pacific northwest.

            And I’d say a daytrip to portland and the amazingness that is Powell’s some weekend is a great excuse. Or the portland zoo during zoo lights. We’ll think of something to get you out XD

          • When I first started attending queer collective events at my uni, I told my parents I was going to a feminist group. Perhaps you could do something similar? The good thing about this story was that it involved something which accorded with my interests, and I peopled my fantasy with the lovely ladies of the queer collective merely by omitting the fact of their sexual orientation. Since I was not using my existing friends in the lie, there was less chance of being caught out, but by using real people I had a better chance of remembering my story.

            I hope you work something out.

          • My problem is figuring out how to lie about where I’m going to be and avoid having to take my sister with me, have her ask me a ton of questions about where I’m going/who I’m with or have my parents tag along :\

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