Lady Gallery: 125 Smokin’ Hot Actresses, Musicians, Directors & Models Over 45

When we wrote last week about the Allure survey that revealed lesbians love dating women 10 or more years older than them, you all came in your pants and then also requested an over-40 gallery. 40 seems super-young to us though, so we went ahead and made an executive decision that what you actually wanted was a gallery of over-50s, but then we realized that Tami Taylor is only 46, so we made an executive decision that it’d be a 45+ gallery. (You know what’s really hard? Finding photographs of famous women that haven’t been airbrushed so you can actually tell how old they are in the picture! Wrinkles are sexy and airbrushing ruins everything, sigh.) Members of the LGBT community are indicated as such in parentheses.

125 Smokin’ Hot Actresses, Musicians, Models & Directors Over 45

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Riese is the 40-year-old Co-Founder and CEO of as well as an award-winning writer, video-maker, LGBTQ+ Marketing consultant and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, lost her mind in New York and now lives in California. Her work has appeared in nine books including "The Bigger the Better The Tighter The Sweater: 21 Funny Women on Beauty, Body Image & Other Hazards Of Being Female," magazines including Marie Claire and Curve, and all over the web including Nylon, Queerty, Nerve, Bitch, Emily Books and Jezebel. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! In 2016, she was nominated for a GLAAD Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism. Follow her on twitter and instagram.

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  1. Oh my, it’s like my fairy gaymother smiled upon me today. Excuse me while I sigh in admiration and attraction. And may I say, to whoever included the gorgeous Juhi Chawla, you have excellent taste.

  2. Riese, I love you so much for putting this gallery up. Toni Braxton is my future lady. I was hoping to see her on here and my heart skipped a beat when I did. I’m so crazy about her…no words can describe how I feel and I seriously mean that. After seeing her and the rest of the women on this list I can “breathe again”.

  3. Oh, kd. Had a crush on her ever since I was in high school and saw the video for Trail of Broken Hearts and couldn’t tell if she was a boy or a girl and quickly became obsessed with waiting for that video to replay on VH1.

    Also, swoon @ Cheryl Dunye, one of my other first crushes.

  4. Lauren Velez, Alison Janey, Viola Davis, Meryl, Jamie Lee Curtis, Angela Bassett, Toni Braxton, Connie Britton (forever and ever and ever), Elizabeth Pena, Jennifer Beals (BETTE PORTER!), Melissa De Sousa, Pam Grier, Alfre Woodward, Mary Louise Parker, Juilanne More, Felicia Rashad, Annette Bening, and (omg!!!) Kate Walsh.

    Autostraddle, you continue to know me so well. These are the crushes that I tell few about. It’s like you went into my SOUL, haha.

    (only sad part is that Gina Torres missed the cutoff by 2 years. Let’s do this again some day!)

  5. ah! I want to send this to my 48-year-old stepmom who is so super awesome and a director and just gave birth to twins. But alas I cannot bring myself to send her something with the term “came in your pants” in the intro paragraph. We haven’t reached that level in the stepmom/stepdaughter relationship.

  6. I *literally* just created an account just so that I could commend you guys on the diversity of women represented in these photos. I mean, obviously age, but also race/sexuality/size/(dis)ability, really almost everything I could think of. It’s rare to be able to see all types of folks being celebrated as sexy. I think it is why I come back to this list time and time again. Thank you, autostraddle!

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