It’s been a special week, right? Probably because of the full moon. I was going to go to lunar yoga, but I injured my foot on a plastic pirate ship and also I have a cold, so instead I’m sitting here with a bowl of miso soup, green tea, reruns of The Office and YOU. Hi!
Tonight you’re gonna be helping all the people we couldn’t help, either because we can’t or because we thought you’d be better at it. Sometimes you’re better at things, which is how Formspring Friday came to be a thing. The girl from question #1 is at Smith TODAY, trying to hook up with you and your friends, so be on the lookout for her!
13 Formspring Questions For You To Answer:
1. I’m newly out and visiting my friend at Smith tomorrow. I also have no game. HOW DO I HOOK UP WITH HOT SEXY LADIES?!
2. I’m a thin girl with large (DD) breasts. They make me very uncomfortable (in my head) but everyone else thinks they’re beautiful. Is it better to try to love my body as it is or to reshape it into a form that helps me feel freer and more like myself?
3. She’s getting too clingy and dependent on me. Is leaving her so that she can be her own person the only option here? Or is this fix-able.
4. My girlfriend is an asshole when she drinks. She ignores me and becomes a total frat boy. I don’t have many friends outside of our group, but I don’t know how to handle this situation, it upsets me a lot. She loves me and is a nice girl and she apologises.
5. I’ve been getting to know this girl and I’m sooo into her as a person, but physically…idk. I like really femmy girls and shes super butch. Is it worth it to try and see what happens? Or is that an asshole move since I’m not 100% sure how I feel about it?
6. I’ve been dating this girl on & off for a few months, and it wasn’t until yesterday that she told me that she thinks she’s straight, but likes me. She says she wants to try things out, but also that after our dates she questions herself. What should I do?
7. Is it wrong of me to be wooing a girl if she’s liked me for a year but has a girlfriend of a few months with whom things aren’t working well and I’m waiting for them to fall through? Nothing sexual has happened between us, so it’s not cheating, right?
8. So I have a crush on this girl, who I know at the very least finds me attractive but she is an open relationship. What do I do?
9. If your long term girlfriend is emotionally retarded and you thought she would change (but is great in other ways) do you leave or do you learn to accept that she isn’t good at understanding feelings?
10. I’ve been using okcupid a while, and it’s rad! but. I’m a submissive, and it’s kind of a big part of my sexual life/identity. It feels disingenuous/misleading not to mention, but too big of a Thing to have out in the open on my profile. Thoughts?
11. I feel like the reputation (no feelings/very slutty) I’ve built in my citys lesbian circle keeps me well out of the “dating material” category. but now ive reached a point where I want a gf or at least some feelings? I dont know how to make that…shift?
12. My mom has told me specifically that I may not tell any other family members that I’m a lesbian. The problem is, I’m really close with my whole family and I really want to. What should I do?
13. My girlfriend was sexually abused by her boyfriends previously. The more emotionally close we get, the more physically distant she’s gotten. I understand and want to help, but what do I do?
Lots of feelings! Lots of questions. Take your time. Hurry up.
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