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Formspring Friday: These Queers Desperately Need Your Advice Because We’re Stumped

Boys creating problems, exes who won’t own up to stuff, flirty best friends, and how to start checking your own privilege in the name love. It’s time to give advice to anonymous strangers on the internet!

By Laneia| January 18, 2013 | 61 Comments
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Formspring Friday and the Special People Club

Text-induced anxiety, meditating around hot women, being in love with your friend (AGAIN), a pregnant sister who needs a cool gift, and being tired of pretending to be interesting. So many things need your help today!

By Laneia| December 7, 2012 | 24 Comments
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Formspring Friday Never Needs A Reason To Dance

This week we’re tackling how to have a first lady date, deal with homophobic parents and what books to buy.

By Laneia| November 16, 2012 | 44 Comments
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Formspring Friday Waited Up For You

I hope you’re ready to answer some questions! We’ve got location anxiety, general anxiety, feelings about age differences, and should you be offended when someone says you look gay?

By Laneia| October 19, 2012 | 64 Comments
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Formspring Friday Camp Edition

This week people need advice on going back to school after a decade, dealing with a breakup when no one knows you’re homosexy, and what it means when she likes you too much.

By the team| September 14, 2012 | 39 Comments
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Formspring Friday Didn’t Know You Could Jump So High

This week you’re helping out with a variety of mom-related issues, girlfriend feelings, touchy feely straight girls, coming out as trans* and a possible stone butch, among other things. Maybe our best FS Friday ever.

By Laneia| June 29, 2012 | 67 Comments
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Formspring Friday Can’t Sleep Without You

How will she come out to her sister? Is she a booty call? How can she make her friend feel better? ONLY YOU KNOW.

By Laneia| March 23, 2012 | 87 Comments
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Formspring Friday Wanted A Pony

Should a girl get breast reduction? Should another girl date a butch even though she usually likes femmes? A meddling mother, a slutty reputation, emotionally vacant gfs and much more!

By Laneia| March 9, 2012 | 55 Comments
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Formspring Friday: More Than A Feeling

Someone out there needs your help with revealing gayness to parents, disagreements with an activity partner, loaning friends money and other fun things!

By Laneia| January 18, 2012 | 52 Comments
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Formspring Friday: Your Chance to Give Advice to Hapless Queers Everywhere

There are twenty people out there who have asked Laneia, Riese and Rachel questions on Formspring that they can’t answer. Can you?

By the team| July 15, 2011 | 99 Comments
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Formspring Friday: Even Brighter Than the Moon

What’s the best city for a young lesbian couple? How do you feel about PDA? Should this girl tell her mom how she really feels? It’s your turn to give advice!

By Laneia| July 1, 2011 | 68 Comments
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Listling Without Commentary: Statements (NOT QUESTIONS) Left for Riese and Laneia on Formspring (Part #3)

“I’m high now and these pants are UNBEARABLE.”

By Laneia| May 20, 2011 | 44 Comments
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Formspring Friday: Ten Chances to Make the World a More Well-Advised Place

It’s just not the weekend until you’ve spent a few hours giving advice to total strangers on the internet!

By Laneia| May 6, 2011 | 131 Comments
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OPEN THREAD: How to Love, Date and/or Cohabitate with a Vegetarian

In which we discuss how not to upset your herbivorous ladyfriend.

By Laneia| April 29, 2011 | 172 Comments
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Formspring Friday: There’s No I in Team

Has she met Lil’ Bow Wow? Should she shave her girl parts? What the f*ck kind of granola do you recommend to these women? The world needs you.

By Laneia| April 8, 2011 | 88 Comments
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Your Turn to Help Some Helpless Queers: How About a Little Formspring in Your Friday?

We have already told you this week what kind of legwarmers to wear and what it means to put bacon on a cat. We cannot also tell you whether the girl at the checkout desk at the library is a lesbian. Don’t give up hope, though; maybe someone else can!

By Riese| February 4, 2011 | 105 Comments
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Formspring Friday: Save a Lesbian For Less Than the Cost of a Cup of Coffee

Advice time! Time for advice! We need you to give all of these girls advice! We trust you and think you’re all very wise, so.

By Laneia| December 17, 2010 | 130 Comments
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15 Lesbian or Otherwise-Inclined Girls Need Advice. Your Advice.

Tegan or Sara? Are sororities gay-friendly? How do you mess with Texas? I don’t have all the answers. But maybe you do.

By Riese| October 28, 2010 | 143 Comments

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