Excuse Me, Did True Blood’s Rutina Wesley Just Come Out By Announcing Her Gay Engagement On Instagram?

Exactly one day ago, Queen Sugar/True Blood star Rutina Wesley posted what seemed like a pretty normal and not-at-all gay quote on Instagram. “Overthinking is our biggest cause of unhappiness,” the quote proclaimed, “Keep yourself occupied. Keep your mind off things that don’t help you. Think positive.” Not bad advice. Okay, but it wasn’t just a quote. It was a photo gallery. Rutina and a pal having a nice meal. Rutina and a pal posing for a selfie. Rutina smooching her … gal(?) pal on the cheek. A diamond ring on her engagement ring finger. Hashtags:








@chef_shonda #ILoveYouMoreThanWORDS

Exhibit A (not gay)

Exhibit B (pretty gay) 

Exhibit C paired with Exhibit B paired with #AlwaysMORENeverLESSISaidYES (gay)

Go ahead, scroll through her Instagram gallery yourself; I’ll wait.

Rutina Wesley just came out by announcing her engagement to a woman on Instagram. Right? Y’all, right? Rutina and Chef Shonda, congratulations! Autostraddle wishes you all the happiness in this world!

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Heather Hogan is an Autostraddle senior writer who lives in New York City with her partner, Stacy, and their cackle of rescued pets. She's a member of the Television Critics Association, the Gay and Lesbian Entertainment Critics Association, and a Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer critic. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

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  1. I was checking her page last week like “Is Rutina gay? Naw, I’m tripping. That’s just her friend” Then I read some of the comments asking if that lady was her girlfriend and many replied, yes. I was just waiting for some kind of formal announcement because I don’t like to assume anything these days unless it comes from the person themselves.

  2. I have been circling through emotions since I first heard this news yesterday, but more than anything I want to wish Rutina the most heartfelt congratulations.

    Her work onscreen has provided me with such a sense of home over the last 10 years, I just wish her that same comfort and warmth in her life.

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