Breaking up with someone does not make you an asshole.
As we close out 2020, let’s remember that the revolution is just beginning. There is no “return to normal” but there can be a better future.
“The first months of Lex were frenzied and horny and I loved it so much. Even if I didn’t match with anyone I loved the energy. Now it’s people talking about longing and dread and looking for roommates?”
Come vibe and think back to a sweet memory that centers you. Also, “A Goofy Movie” nostalgia, Black girls surfing, and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex asks us — “Are You Ok?”
Your new favorite sex toy, how to fist a turkey, what it means to “soft launch” a relationship, when your cat won’t leave you alone during sex and more.
“After I was about 20 years into my life as a trans woman, I was getting very frustrated by seeing that nothing much was changing. Transgender people were still being assaulted, killed, committing suicide. I felt that since I was a writer, I was a performer, I could put that together and maybe do a show and break down some barriers.”
It has felt hard to state how much I’ve been missing my family lately. But Audre Lorde and Pat Parker’s relationship is a testament to the life-affirming power of queer kinship. Their enduring love attests to the power and beauty of Black queer sisterhood.
While there are certainly other (and arguably healthier) coping mechanisms besides stress shopping, I don’t think we should totally rule out any options just yet. And sometimes impulse buys work out really well! We’re here to tell you which emotionally compromised quarantine purchases we heartily stand by and would enthusiastically recommend.
Was Josh Hartnett a millennial gay stepping-stone? What’s next for the #Resistance if Trump isn’t there to kick around anymore? Also: readings from both Kristen Arnett and Roxane Gay, the public libraries that shaped Octavia Butler, and dreams of a Black utopia.
While there’s broad societal acceptance of which season is the happiest season, what about the happiest seasoning? Considering the internet can’t really agree on what a seasoning even is, I realised I had my work cut out answering this pressing question. So, after minimal research and a commitment to “following the science” to the level of the average Western government, I present a shortlist of seasonings.
“He has been, without fail, late to everything we’ve ever planned. His tardiness ranges from one to three hours. Sometimes, I wait an hour and politely ask “what’s your ETA?” and he replies with “Sorry, I’m just going to do my hair and 15 other things and I’ll be on my way!””
There is, of course, no such thing as a perfect or universal dildo. However, if we were, for a moment, to pretend that there is a most-likely-to-fit-your-needs dildo for most folks who are interested in one, the Magnum really might be it.
“People were always so impressed that you didn’t leave me, but your gift wasn’t staying — it was seeing. Most people don’t get to transition under the pansexual gaze of someone who loves them the way you loved me.”
I don’t think it matters much whether Avatar: The Last Airbender is “respectful” of Asian culture. I think the show is racist, and also I like it. I’m interested in what we do with the sense of agency it gives us, how it allows us to critique the structures that exist and envision our own worlds.
This week I’m taking you on an emotional rollercoaster with my playlist, continuing to stan for P-Valley’s Uncle Clifford, learning what it takes to mend broken friendships, and droping a link to help a Black skate collective in Chicago feed families for the holidays.
The transcendence of queer T4T sex, a thought experiment about public kink, the peak dating question of our time and more.
It’s not like traditional chicken pot pie filing is knocking anyone’s socks off, so Sarah and I decided to try out chicken korma pot pies with a turmeric crust. She gave them her highest food rating — “f*cked up” — so I’m sharing the recipe with you.
As we step into this new season of mutable fire, as we prepare to fully leave behind all that Libra and Scorpio have excavated, Sagittarius urges us to open our eyes wide, to take in the world as it is and as it could be, to look for possibilities and magic around every corner.
Lots of us will be spending the holigays on our own, which may be exactly what you’ve always wanted! But if you are trying to create a sense of togetherness, these activities might help you and your loved ones feel closer in far-away times.
Your partner doesn’t want to talk about raising your kids to be anti-racist, longing to reach out to a former friend, and more!
How Much Bisexual Energy Do You Radiate? It’s time to find out! Also: searching for the “Ethereal Bisexual” woman in Barack Obama’s memoir, Cara Delevingne is now co-owner of a sex technology brand, and Stacey Abrams on finishing the job in Georgia.