“I want you to know, if you ever read this, there was a time when I would rather have had you by my side than any one of these words; I would rather have had you by my side than all the blue in the world.”
If you’re feeling sexual desire for friends or if you like the idea of a “friends with benefits” situation, then it seems that most widely-accepted definition of “demisexual” still encompasses your experience. But the more important questions here are: what do you want and why do you want it?
“As wonderful as this time together has been, as close as we’ve gotten, we both know that once the world opens up a bit more, we’ll finally get to have a lot of our “firsts” — and that it may be bittersweet to finally have our first date six months into being a couple.”
Cottagecore, simp, 🥺🥺 and now “hey mamas” lesbians – how are we supposed to keep up?! No worries, I got a little Dykey Dictionary to help you out.
An erotic witch comic, the new hot dating app keyword, why asexuality should be part of sex education and more.
A year into pandemic, America’s remaining lesbian bars are barely hanging on, a tribute to Beverly Cleary’s Ramona Quimby, and you’re about to hear a lot more about “ghost guns.”
Arkansas has now officially passed the most extreme anti-trans law yet, Tracy Chapman is the queer mentor you’ve been waiting for, ranking the 25 Best Muppets, and what happens if you lose your vaccination card?
“This was after that night, when I moved into the guest room with the little bathroom, when I moved my toiletries onto the shower floor, when I moved all the books I was reading, and my perfume bottles, my department-store boxes filled with eyeliner and lipstick. And I texted my spouse that we were separating and that I had moved into the guest room, and they called me and wanted to come back to the house and I said, ‘No, no, don’t, I don’t want you to,’ and then sat on the front porch smoking, waiting, as I had set the stage for another cinematic moment to happen. And my spouse did not come home.”
“How do I know this isn’t some quarantine induced haze and I’m just projecting my feelings of loneliness onto her?”
Polyamory is all fun and games until you get an STI from one partner and then your other partner shames you for it. STIs aren’t fun, but they do happen. Learn how to discuss safety frameworks, talk about the risks, and actively engage with consent.
Why people are bad at discussing sex, meeting up with internet folks you met in quarantine, how to make small talk when you do, and more.
Vaginismus can get in the way of essential practices and pleasurable activities, like penetrative sex, penetrative masturbation, inserting tampons or menstrual cups and receiving pelvic exams. But with the right guidance from a doctor and/ or a physical therapist, vaginismus can be treated.
Six tips from therapists on coping with your anxiety about returning back to “normal,” a scholarship for Black LGBTQ journalism students in Monica Roberts name, Brandi Carlile’s new memoir, and Tina Turner’s legacy, finally in her own words.
“I know we everywhere, but Black SOUTHERN people are and will always be my heart. The way we love up on each other. Take care of each other. Check up on each other, sometimes a little too much. It’s the cadence of our little sayings, the burst out loud laughter. The dramatics in the everyday stories of nothing. I love Black southern people.”
Aries is a sign that wants what it wants, when it wants it. Can this inherently selfish impulse can be harnessed for the greater good?
Here’s what I’m looking for: Short stories, 5,000 words or less. You, the author, must identify as trans. If you think you are trans, you are trans.
Being too eager or too worried about saying the right thing can be just as alienating as disapproval.
What does it mean to be sexually authentic? What will happen to our boundaries after vaccination? Remember Tumblr porn?
I tried to lead restorative justice in my own sexually abusive (former) t4t relationship. I did this because I am an abolitionist and know people are more than the worst things they do. What I didn’t know at the time: we should have not been the ones to facilitate the process. With leftist language co-opted, I didn’t know I was allowed to leave; I didn’t know I was allowed to have boundaries.
We were hoping not to have occasion to revisit this conversation as a one-year anniversary, but we do, so here we are, exploring the question: What do you feel like you’ve taken away from this past year of pandemic life?
Here’s why the filibuster is a Jim Crow relic, Raquel Willis and Richie Shazam on imagining our queer and trans futures, Megan Rapinoe playing soccer in a suit is today’s thirst trap of choice, and celebrating Jessica Walter with 13 of Lucille Bluth’s most iconic moments.