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Lesbian Sex

8 Queer Sexting Experts on How We Digitally Do It

Voice memos, FaceTime, short videos, live photos, nudes, role-playing, classic texting — sexting can look like a lot of different things. 

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and the team
June 12, 2025 4 Comments
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TV Reviews

We Watched Bravo’s New Show About Gen Z Nepo Babies in NYC and Wow Turns Out There’s One Thing We All Have in Common (Mommy Issues)

A queer critic who loves Bravo and a queer critic who went to NYU are truly the perfect duo to review this television program.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Drew Burnett Gregory
June 11, 2025 3 Comments
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Breakups

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

We broke up on a Wednesday at 10 p.m. Any other Wednesday, and we might have been watching a show, taking a bath together, or sitting at our desks in the office we shared.

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DOECHII AT DC WORLD PRIDE
Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)

No Filter: Doechii Brought the Swamp To DC Pride

Pride is a MARATHON and we’re only at the beginning.

Christina Tucker June 11, 2025 1 Comment
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Politics + Activism

Thailand’s First Out Trans Diplomat Is Changing the Perception of What Thai Trans Women Can Do

When 23-year-old Dew Siratan Sittitanyawat reached the third round of her application to become a diplomat in Thailand, she was faced with a decision: attend her in-person interview as herself or cut her hair last minute. 

Audrey Black June 11, 2025 3 Comments
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Puzzles

Mini Crossword Is Watching the ‘Night Shift’ Music Video Again

How does one get invited to a ‘Wizard of Oz’ fan convention, anyway?

Emet Ozar and Rachel
June 11, 2025 1 Comment
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Music

65 Gay Pop Icons and Rising Stars

Gay pop is a dynamic, enormous genre of music that has defined our community’s parties and culture for years. Here are just some of our favorite, most iconic, and exciting gay pop artists.

Riese and The Editors
June 10, 2025 21 Comments
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Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)

It’s Okay, We Don’t Need Fletcher To Sing About Girls

In theory, ‘Boy’ was an opportunity for Fletcher to connect with a new group of fans within her overall base. But the framing of her new release kicked up more controversy than compassion.

Riese June 10, 2025 48 Comments
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AF+ Lesbian Sex

The Polyamorous NYC Couple with a Daddy / Baby Girl Dynamic

Group sex, mutual masturbation, radical honesty, and lots of oral! The classics, really.

Sex/Life June 10, 2025
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Relationships

‘My Girlfriend Thinks My Music Taste Is Trash’

She’ll often play recent music and ask me if I know who it is when she knows the answer is no.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya June 10, 2025 5 Comments
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Music

Doechii’s BET Awards Speech Models the Political Courage We Need Right Now

“Our collective struggle will not be decided at award shows. But recent history shows us the power of solidarity from a recognizable name.”

Drew Burnett Gregory June 10, 2025 2 Comments
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Culture Parenting & Family

Can Immigrant Mothers Heal With Their Queer Kids? These Desi Aunties Are Trying

Desi parents get a bad rap in America. Across TV and social media, immigrant aunties are typecast as judgmental or conservative, or else passive victims of circumstance, unable to navigate American society as fluently as their children.

Malavika Kannan June 10, 2025 4 Comments
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First Person Health

My Childhood Was Abusive. The Effects of CPTSD Kept Me From Realizing It

It took me over two decades to readily consider myself a victim of abuse.

Summer Tao June 10, 2025 4 Comments
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Culture

Too Thirsty? I Asked To Sit With a Stranger at a Coffee Shop

I’m not suggesting we throw caution to the wind and enter conversations with the fervor and gall of a straight man, but I’d argue we can be a little less careful.

Hope Cassandra June 10, 2025 1 Comment
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LGBT Pride LGBTQ+ Businesses

36 LGBTQ-Owned Businesses Selling LGBT T-Shirts To Support This Pride Season

Wanna spend your Pride cash on original t-shirts from lesbian and queer-owned businesses and LGBTQ+ stores? We’ve got a great list!

Riese June 9, 2025 93 Comments
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Pop Culture Fix

Hunter Schafer Won’t Be Zelda, but She Might Be Joining the MCU

Another member of KATSEYE has come out, a new queer Lili Reinhart character coming to streaming soon, the trailer for ballroom reality show House on Fire, and more!

Valerie Anne June 9, 2025 34 Comments
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First Person

At 28, I Blew Up My Life To Train in Jiu-Jitsu and as a Dominatrix

Beneath the latex and leather is sacred work.

Mistress Eris June 9, 2025 3 Comments
TRANS LIBERATION NOW
Politics + Activism

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I can’t think of a better time than Pride Month to celebrate our triumphs and rededicate ourselves to standing up for the liberation of everyone everywhere.

Stef Rubino June 9, 2025 2 Comments
Theater

The 2025 Tony Awards Gave These Queer Icons the Stage They Deserve

There’s no such thing as a straight Tony Awards. But the 2025 Tony Awards was notable for celebrating several queer people who really deserved it.

Drew Burnett Gregory June 8, 2025 1 Comment
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Quizzes

Quiz: Which Gay Hat Are You?

Welcome to Hat Gay Summer! Take this quiz to find out which piece of headwear captures the essence of your soul.

Drew Burnett Gregory June 8, 2025 2 Comments
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