Results for: sex toys
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You Need Help: Can My Spouse and I Boil Our Menstrual Cups Together?
“Is there any sanitary reason NOT to?”
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How Do I Learn To Trust Again After My Two-Month Situationship Ended Abruptly?
“I’m a cis queer woman in my mid-twenties, and I’m mourning yet another 2-3 month-long relationship that ended unexpectedly, and this time it’s messing with me in the way the others haven’t.”
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You Need Help: How Can I Make Penetration Less Painful?
You shouldn’t have pain during sex. If you want to explore penetration, that has to be a choice you’re making for your own pleasure.
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How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?
The lack of sex that resulted from our wildly differing needs has had a lasting impact.
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex — How Can I Still Foster Intimacy?
Sometimes in long-term relationships, our needs shift and/or our capacity to fulfill someone’s needs shift.
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You Need Help: How Can I Deal With My Own Sexual Shame?
I want you to know that your shame is not uncommon and you’re not alone in feeling it. While it does take a long time to undo, you’re on the right track by acknowledging it verbally.
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You Need Help: Are There Any Cheap Strap-Ons?
You may have to drop some cash for a toy that will last for more than one thrust.
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You Need Help: My Partner Can’t Have an Orgasm
“Release yourself from responsibility. You are not the keeper of your partner’s orgasms. You’re a supporting character. Your partner should play the protagonist in their Great Orgasm Quest.”
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Into the A+ Advice Box #9: Supporting Your Local Bisexual, Getting Your Girlfriend to Talk to You, and More!
First of all: Clean your sex toys! Also: homophobia at your day job, supporting your friend when they leave an abusive relationship, and how to start dating when… you’ve absolutely never dated before.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Sexual Confidence Back?
You’re at your most vulnerable when you describe how afraid you are of never being desired by another again. Own that vulnerability, because really owning our soft parts is part of what confidence is.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #11: Meeting the Parents, Department Drama, Friend Breakups and More!
Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an organizing coffee or a COFFEE coffee??
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Into the A+ Advice Box #10: Is She Straight or Into You? Can You Dress Gay? and More!
Be the cool queer cousin you wished for as a kid, the polite way to turn someone down, sex is still great without an orgasm, creating your own queer community when you feel alone in the world, and 20 other questions from everyday readers like you!
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The 8 Most Asked You Need Help Questions, Answered
Love and sex and internalized homophobia and, yes, straight girls.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #12: Bisexual Marriage Blues, Sexting as a Bottom, and More!
Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!
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You Need Help: Stop Gaslighting Yourself
What would it feel like to move forward with curiosity, rather than relying on the comforting familiarity of self-doubt?
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You Need Help: When Strap-On Sex Leaves (Accidental) Bruises
Strap-on sex shouldn’t leave any bruises unless you want it to.
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Into The A+ Advice Box #3: Summer Hookups, Bisexual Sadness and Gender Feelings
We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!
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You Need Help: Old Sex Toys, New Partners
“So I’ve met someone new. And I’m wondering about my toys. I’ve heard it’s taboo to use the same toys on a new partner.”
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Y’All Need Help #23: Spring Cleaning Part 2
30 questions! IS ONE OF THEM YOURS?? Wow!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #7: Gender Neutral Parent Names, So Many Questions about Crushes, and More!
Highlights include: going down while wearing a nose ring, surviving the United States as a queer immigrant, living on the same college campus as your ex, and also how to perfectly time your break up. That’s just the beginning!