Results for: love is a lie
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You Need Help: Is Love Really a Lie? Should You Even Try?
It’s a hard time to have hope, but friends, don’t give up.
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You Need Help: Will I Ever Get Over My First Ex or Is Closure a Myth
Closure is a choice — often one you have to make on your own. And it’s absolutely okay to not be friends with an ex.
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Thinking About the Ex Who Cheated on Me?
Betrayal burrows into brains. When cheating comes to light, there’s a tendency to obsess over the minute details. You’ll replay things in your head, wonder how they were able to get away with certain things, and sometimes even be hard on yourself for it.
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You Need Help: How Do I Date With Devastatingly Low Self-Esteem?
Approach cultivating a friendship with yourself as you would with other people.
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You Need Help: I Don’t Get Excited To See My Girlfriend
“I feel guilty about being so confused and not being able to decide if I like her or not. I’m worried that I’m leading her on.”
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You Need Help: Wanting To Move In Together but Unsure About Sharing Bed With Dog
“My girlfriend has a super sweet lab mix who I love dearly, but I’m very new to the concept of sleeping with a dog in the bed. I thought they made dog beds for this exact reason?!”
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You Need Help: How Do I Convince My Girlfriend That I Care?
It sounds like she’s looking for something you just can’t give her, and that’s okay. Your life is very full at the moment. It’s not too full for the right relationship, but it may be too full for THIS relationship.
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You Need Help: How Do I Make Myself Like My Girlfriend’s Cat?
You already did things right by talking about this before moving in together. Now it’s time to talk some more.
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You Need Help: You Fat-Shamed Your Beautiful Girlfriend
If your girlfriend wrote into this column with this story, I would tell her she should break up with you.
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You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?
I want to try to hold space here for both: for your (and my, really) pain and for the possibility that you may not feel this way forever.
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You Need Help: Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex, but There’s Something Deeper Here
You are telling me one thing, which is that your wife and you communicate well and she cares for you, and then I am seeing something different, which is that your needs are continuously deprioritized in the relationship, and that seems to be how things play out when it comes to your wife’s actions.
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You Need Help: How to Feel Good About Getting Older
You already escaped the lies of the patriarchy. Now — now! — you get to live.
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How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?
The lack of sex that resulted from our wildly differing needs has had a lasting impact.
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend Has No Queer Friends, Is That a Problem?
This is very clearly your problem, not your girlfriend’s problem, and resolving it will be your work, not hers.
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You Need Help: How Can I Make Penetration Less Painful?
You shouldn’t have pain during sex. If you want to explore penetration, that has to be a choice you’re making for your own pleasure.
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You Need Help: Am I Still Into Non-Monogamy or Not Really?
How do I navigate not knowing for sure whether monogamy or non-monogamy is for me? And how do I communicate that to my partner and my sexy friends?
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You Need Help: My Parents Want Me to Respect My Sister’s Homophobic Religious Beliefs
How do I get my parents to see that neutrality in this situation feels like they’re rejecting me too?
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You Need Help: How Do I Feel More Connected to the Lesbian Community?
This community would be so boring if we all had the same stories. And there’s no such thing as the “right” queer story.
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You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?
Our present selves can’t make promises for our future selves. Your partner is telling you what she knows about herself today. Is that enough?
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Over Breaking My Ex’s Heart?
Breaking up with someone does not make you an asshole.