Results for: bisexual
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Bisexuality, Queerness, Labels, Perception: A Conversation Between the EIC and the HBIC
Autostraddle’s Editor-in-Chief and Head Bisexual-in-Charge talk bisexual discrimination on dating apps, biphobic stereotypes in queer relationships, “the patriarchy,” and having tent sex in the woods.
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15 of the Most Chaotically Bisexual Things I Did as a Bisexual 15-Year-Old
My bisexuality was a resistance and a freedom and a liability. It was such a defining part of my life that I still cling to the word, to its shifting meaning, to all it can be and all the defiance it stands for.
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What People Said When I Came Out as Bisexual (Again)
A special shout-out to the friend who said “you know you can just be bisexual, right?” when I was spiraling about whether I’d have to give up being gay altogether and if the last five years of my life had been a lie.
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You Need Help: Why Be Out As Bisexual?
There’s something about bisexuality that non-bisexual people project a lot of their fears and questions onto, maybe because it’s positioned as ‘other’ to everything else. So we become the focus of these questions that aren’t really about us in specific at all.
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Three Bisexuals in Their 30s on Coming Out While in Long Term, Monogomous Relationships
“I didn’t want a divorce, didn’t want to open our relationship, didn’t want to start dating other people — I just wanted to own this piece of myself that I’d spent a lifetime denying.”
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Navigating My Biracial, Bisexual Identities Is a Lot Like Physics (Stay With Me Here)
What is Black enough? What is queer enough?
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The Echo of My Friend’s Casual Biphobia Destroyed Our Relationship
“Remember your bi phase?” my best friend asked when we were in our 20s. I rolled my eyes.
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How Did We Get Here? 6 Bi People on Coming to Their Identity for Bi+ Week 2020
“So many people come to the table with preconceived notions about bisexuality — namely that it excludes trans, non-binary and gender non-conforming folks — and if I was out in the world, identifying solely as bisexual, was I coloring how people saw me? Did my definition of bisexuality matter outside my comfort zone?”
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How YA Novels Unexpectedly Enabled My Own Bisexual Revelation
I wonder why the story of a bisexual teenage boy is the one that allowed me to explicitly consider my identity as a bisexual adult woman for the first time.
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Rosa Diaz’s Big Coming Out on “Brooklyn Nine-Nine” Was Bittersweet — and Specifically Bisexual
Rosa’s full coming out on Brooklyn Nine-Nine is rocky and bittersweet, incorporating uniquely bisexual experiences to cement itself as a uniquely historic TV moment.
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You Need Help: My Mom Supports My Bisexuality, but Not My Butchness
Kristin of Everyone Is Gay and My Kid Is Gay gives advice for a 16-year-old and her mom trying to deal with coming out as bisexual and gender nonconforming!
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You Need Help: You’re Gay but Oh No You’re Falling for a Man, What the F*ck
“How does one successfully navigate such a dramatic shift in a long-held and cherished identity?! Is it possible to have relationships with men devoid of internalized homophobia, misogyny, etc? Is it worthwhile to tell this person how I feel — could I possibly expect anyone to navigate all this baggage with me?”
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Impossible Machinery: On (Not) Coming Out to My Dad as Bisexual
“I feel as if I am filled to the brim, fit to spill, with how much I love her and how much I resent being a secret. It makes me feel invisible and alone but I stand by her. I stand by her until I can’t anymore. When we break up, I am more determined than ever to come out to my father.”
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Loving the Whole Me: A Bisexual Mom on Coming Out to Her Family
“I sent a short, simple message saying that although I didn’t realize it fully until recently, I was indeed bisexual, that this was an undeniable part of my identity, and I could no longer comfortably hide this fact.
He never responded.”
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You Need Help: Coming Out When Your Girlfriend Is Amazing but Your Family Super Isn’t
“I feel like I’m lying to my my parents, hiding part of myself, and disrespecting my girlfriend by constantly avoiding mentioning her or referring to her as my friend when my parents ask what’s going on in my life. Of course, I know coming out can be difficult in general, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for coming out in the context of a toxic family relationship? How can I best protect myself from the inevitable insults, yelling, and criticism while still being honest?”
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You Need Help: Do I Call Myself Bisexual?
“I’m attracted to more than one gender, but am not sure what label to use. “Queer” resonates with me, but am I contributing to bisexual erasure if I don’t ID as bisexual?”
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Becoming Visible: On Coming Out As Bisexual
“I guess I’m still sort of coming out. I’m learning to embrace my sexuality as a primary part of my identity rather than an afterthought. It feels really good.”
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You Need Help: What’s My Label?
“We want these labels to tell us who we are and what we want because figuring out who we are and what we want in a big expansive lawless space is HARD.”
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You Need Help: 7 Highly Effective Habits of Dealing with Biphobes
Just kidding it’s not quite 7. They’re still good ones though.
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You Need Help: Where Do I Go From Here
“When you unearth one thing you didn’t know about yourself, it can be an opportunity to dive in and know all the things you were afraid to. It’s the scariest thing you’ll ever do and the most valuable.”