Results for: Feel good
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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Has No Friends
Ultimately, you should remember that it’s up to your girlfriend to do the work of making friends, not you. I would encourage you to find a way to cheer her on from the sidelines in a way that feels good for both of you.
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I’m a Stone Butch Top Who Can’t Bring Myself To Penetrate Anyone Else
“I’m struggling to get over the empathetic feelings of ‘Aaa! Vaginal penetration is painful and bad.'”
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You Need Help: I Can’t Figure Out What I Should Wear and Who I Should Date
You don’t need to have one particular vibe, type, or style. You don’t have to have it all figured out now, next week, or next year.
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You Need Help: What Does “Going Slow” in a Lesbian Relationship Look Like?
I think what we’re trying to do here is enabling you to get comfortable judging the quality of your relationship not for your mutual willingness to prioritize emotional whims and romantic rapture over common sense but by the actual connection you feel to a person.
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You Need Help: What If My Mom Hates My Girlfriend?
Of course you’re being thoughtful about if, when and how you’ll introduce your girlfriend to your family — given your mom’s previous actions, there’s a chance she won’t grant you and your girlfriend the respect your relationship deserves.
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You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?
Our present selves can’t make promises for our future selves. Your partner is telling you what she knows about herself today. Is that enough?
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#PolyamoryProblems: Advice for Newbies with Too Many Feelings
For some polyam newbies, big feelings can make you feel out of control. Dating experienced people can be a gift, but it could also mean that you defer to your partner’s word instead of advocating for your needs. Find out why you should never stand for someone telling you that having feelings means you’re not really polyamorous.
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Assume Everyone Thinks You’re Hot, I’m Serious
The confident vibe you get from me? The “naturally sexy” way you (might) think I am? It’s not natural at all. It’s a choice; it can be learned. Here’s how!
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You Need Help: I Hate Not Having a Girlfriend
Why do you want a girlfriend? Why do you dislike being single? I’m serious! I want you to ask yourself these questions and come up with as many answers as possible.
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The Pause Project: How to Take Time for Self-Care, Slowness, and Joy
We could all do with a little bit more self-care right now; this how-to takes you through one dyke’s journey to find joy and slowness through The Pause Project. Learn about her process and read about some ways you can curate a self-care project like this for yourself.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #25: How Do You Explore Your Gender When Privacy Is Scarce?
Advice for when you want to nurture a partnership but also honor your independence, for when you’re not sure if you want contact with an ex, on working through discomfort with your own sexuality, and more!
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You Need Help: Your Future In-Laws Won’t Come to Your Wedding
It’s obvious you love your fiancé very much, and want to protect them from any agony the world wants to hurl at them. Unfortunately, you mostly can’t. But here’s what you can do instead.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #27: A Pattern of Growing Tired of Dating Cis Men
What if you don’t like receiving oral sex, but want to? What if you canNOT get your new crush/person out of your head, but need to focus on work? What to do if you’re longing for queer chosen family, but don’t feel like you’ve gotten there, and more!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #21: Crushing on Your (Probably) Straight Friend, and More!
Advice for the cis, presumably het parents of a trans kid, Zoom dating while in the house with your parents, an urban legend and gay panic, gender feelings, squirting ALL of the time, and understanding your expectations in a relationship with someone who is not nearly as out!
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Yes, Virginia, Queer Women Can Casually Date: Here’s How It Works
If casual dating is a thing you want, you can do it! I believe in you / us / our ability to not get married on the third date.
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You Need Help: I Feel Left Out By My New Friends
Don’t be afraid to say what you want — meaningful, ongoing friendship. There are people out there who are looking for the same thing.
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Feeling Like A Loser After Rejection?
Mentally replacing “this person rejected me because I’m not enough” with “this person rejected me because we’re incompatible” or “this person rejected me because they have their own shit going on” can be so helpful!
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#PolyamoryProblems: The Way My Partner Engages With Her Other Partner Makes Me Uncomfortable, What Should I Do?
Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.
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You Need Help: My First Girlfriend Broke Up With Me — Can We Be Friends?
Not every relationship is meant to last, and just because it ended doesn’t mean you didn’t learn and grow from it.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #23: What If Your Partner Didn’t Tell You They Were Potentially Exposed to Covid?
Your partner doesn’t want to talk about raising your kids to be anti-racist, longing to reach out to a former friend, and more!