Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?
Our present selves can’t make promises for our future selves. Your partner is telling you what she knows about herself today. Is that enough?
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Can I Make My Primary Partner Have More Fun?
Stop trying to make your vanilla partner more kinky!
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You Need Help: What If My Mom Hates My Girlfriend?
Of course you’re being thoughtful about if, when and how you’ll introduce your girlfriend to your family — given your mom’s previous actions, there’s a chance she won’t grant you and your girlfriend the respect your relationship deserves.
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You Need Help: Your Straight Partner Is a Great Ally – But His Parents Aren’t
Setting up boundaries around family members can be a complicated and painful thing, but doing so without the support of your partner will likely be more difficult, and could potentially create some challenging situations for the two of you to navigate.
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#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #23: What If Your Partner Didn’t Tell You They Were Potentially Exposed to Covid?
Your partner doesn’t want to talk about raising your kids to be anti-racist, longing to reach out to a former friend, and more!
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You Need Help: Long-Distance Relationships
So far away! Courtney Trouble gets blunt about LDRs.
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You Need Help: Talking to Your Family About Your Partner’s Pronouns
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
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You Need Help: Will Studying Abroad Break Us Up?
Studying abroad or going long distance isn’t a death knell for a relationship, but I’m hearing something else in your question.
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You Need Help: Is She “The One”?
HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?
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You Need Help: Will You Grow Together or Grow Apart?
“When my boyfriend came out to me as trans, he was worried what that would mean for me and us. It’s a few months later and I should be really happy for him. And I am! But I’m starting to feel kind of lost and scared and I don’t know if it has to do with the fact, that he is, of course, changing.”
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You Need Help: You Want Different Things
You are in love with someone who wants different things. What do you do?
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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Says Offensive Stuff and You Aren’t Sure How to Deal
Sometimes we love people who don’t share our same value systems or knowledge sets. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t love them, but it can mean we need to work hard to make sure we aren’t compromising our own values just to placate them.
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How To Keep A Girl For Ten Years: Don’t Suck When She’s Sick
Through sickness and in health, not just a meaningless vow. Ten easy ways to nurture your girl through illness for the nurturing impaired, plus cute animal pictures!
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Mind The (Age) Gap: How to Do a May/December Lesbian Relationship
May-December (or even May-October) romances can present occasional challenges, they can also be awesome.
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You Need Help: When Your Girlfriend is Abusive
“Two or three things I know, two or three things I know for sure, and one of them is that if we are not beautiful to each other, we cannot know beauty in any form.”