You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife
Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer — her own feelings did that.
You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?
Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your life — one where you are less dependent on your parents, and have the space to fully be yourself.
The Echo of My Friend’s Casual Biphobia Destroyed Our Relationship
“Remember your bi phase?” my best friend asked when we were in our 20s. I rolled my eyes.
“Yeah. It was never a phase.”
What People Said When I Came Out as Bisexual (Again)
A special shout-out to the friend who said “you know you can just be bisexual, right?” when I was spiraling about whether I’d have to give up being gay altogether and if the last five years of my life had been a lie.
You Need Help: Will I Ever Grow Out Of The Messy Questioning Phase?
Accept the messy questioning phase. It’s the whole point of being alive.
An Act of Service: Strapping My Dom As a Leatherdyke Bottom
I still love service, but strapping for the first time expanded my very definition of the word.
The Trans Body as a Work of Art
Burlesque is my loving manifestation of what all my ancestors deserved—not simply tolerance, but unbridled celebration.
Mirrors and Makeouts: Finding Trans Pleasure
Within the brief eternity of our car makeout, in touching her body, I felt my shame begin to melt.
100 Things to Try When I Have a Vagina
Of all the unexpected changes I encountered during my transition, the most surreal had to be transforming a part of my body.
The Night I Learned to Be In My Trans Body
My summer hookup with a rich businesswoman in Japan gave me something more valuable than even the room service wagyu steak.
Trans Love in Pandemic Times
Love without a blueprint leaves room for unknown possibilities. I spoke to seven trans people about how the pandemic has changed their relationships and how trans love has changed their lives.
You Need Help: You’re Gay but Oh No You’re Falling for a Man, What the F*ck
“How does one successfully navigate such a dramatic shift in a long-held and cherished identity?! Is it possible to have relationships with men devoid of internalized homophobia, misogyny, etc? Is it worthwhile to tell this person how I feel — could I possibly expect anyone to navigate all this baggage with me?”
Being Kinky Doesn’t Make You Queer
I’m queer, and I’m kinky. But being kinky doesn’t make me queer. Kink is not a sexual orientation.
You Need Help: Talking to Your Family About Your Partner’s Pronouns
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
The Things You Say
Was I so far from the idea of trans in her head, that there was no way I could be “one of them”? Or did she refuse to make the association because there was something so wrong with being a trans woman that she could never be attracted to one?
You Need Help: You Fell In Love With A Girl and It’s Exploding Your Whole Life
So you fell in love with a girl and it upended your life with family, kids and religion. What now?