VIDEO: If You Love Women So Much, How Come You Don’t Dress Like One?

I don’t get this question, I get the inverse β€” “if you don’t like men, why do you date women who dress like men”? I don’t recall “dislikes clothing stored in the ‘men’s section’ of mainstream retail outlets” being a requirement to earn my Queer Lady Badge, but whatever, people are idiots. Thus I thoroughly enjoyed YouTube user hartbeat’s response to the question she gets all the time: “If you love women so much, how come you don’t you dress like one?”

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      Yup, totally read that as “standing ovulation.” Not sure what that means, but I think it needs to be defined as “so awesome you immediately ovulate.”

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    Wow she’s a very big girl! Which is good like! She must have a lot of confidence to do that. I weight like 110 and not a hope could you catch me in a bikini!
    Hopefully she doesn’t care about the haters who say she’s too big!

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    What Ami is saying is that we can’t conflate “regular” with “skinny”, because saying that being fat or obese or overweight or big is not equal to being called “regular” is a reflection of the broken social system we live in where people’s bodies are policed and evaluated.

    And yeah, it is a funny video, but Hart is making a specific point with this funny video that people are too quick to police how others look or should look, so I think it’s totally valid to talk about body issues and expectations because it is perfectly within the context of this video.

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    So so great. LOVE the transition from eating watermelon in silence to the music and dancing and watermelon bikini AHHHHH πŸ˜€

    Now an amazing response to the question “if you don’t like men, why do you date women who dress like men?” is needed!

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    I’ve never gotten that question, only the reverse “If you like girls, why do you date people who dress like boys?” which is only half-true in terms of my dating history (of dating butches v. femmes) but whatever.
    But can we just acknowledge that two of the most amazing queers on Youtube are named Hart? Coincidence?

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