Results for: polyamory
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#PolyamoryProblems: How to Approach Safer Sex with Multiple Partners
Polyamory is all fun and games until you get an STI from one partner and then your other partner shames you for it. STIs aren’t fun, but they do happen. Learn how to discuss safety frameworks, talk about the risks, and actively engage with consent.
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#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Do I Know When It’s Time To Break Up?
The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.
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#PolyamoryProblems: The Way My Partner Engages With Her Other Partner Makes Me Uncomfortable, What Should I Do?
Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.
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You Need Help: I Live With My Partner and Their Ex-Girlfriend and It’s Getting Hard
“I’m a lesbian in my early twenties and I have been in a relationship with my enby partner for a year and a half. We share a flat with several other (queer) people in Copenhagen, one of whom is my partner’s ex-girlfriend.”
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You Need Help: I Want To Ask My Couple Friends Out but Don’t Know if They’re Poly
“I have a crush on a lesbian couple I know, and I want to test the waters to see if they might be interested in dating, but I don’t want to make it weird if they’re monogamous.”
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You Need Help: Can I Open My Relationship and Have Casual Sex Without Relying On The Apps?
Sure, maybe some nights you’ll encounter a confident queer who makes a beeline for you and starts chatting, but you know how you can guarantee a confident queer is in the room chatting to new people? Be The Confident Queer You Want To See At The Bar!
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex — How Can I Still Foster Intimacy?
Sometimes in long-term relationships, our needs shift and/or our capacity to fulfill someone’s needs shift.
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You Need Help: Am I Her Best Friend or Am I Being Emotionally Manipulated?
It’s possible your needs and views when it comes to intimacy are incompatible.
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You Need Help: Am I Still Into Non-Monogamy or Not Really?
How do I navigate not knowing for sure whether monogamy or non-monogamy is for me? And how do I communicate that to my partner and my sexy friends?
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.
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You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?
You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.
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You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Being Monogam-ish With My Bi Girlfriend?
“Right off the top, it’s crucial for me to say this: being monogamous and being bisexual are not mutually exclusive. This is a really problematic stereotype that has to go, like yesterday.”
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You Need Help: Can I Tell My Poly Roommate Not to See Her Partners Because of Coronavirus?
It becomes increasingly difficult to ask individuals to make huge personal sacrifices, at great cost, when it is clear the government is doing almost nothing to move us toward a different world.
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You Need Help: Seeking Poly People and (Relationship) Anarchy in Small Town, U.S.A.
The first statement of the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto is that “Love is abundant,” so why don’t we start there? Love is abundant. What kind of love do you want to create in your life?
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You Need Help: Navigating Aggression, Desire and Gender in Dating
You don’t need to measure up to any of the things you’ve been taught are the “right” ways to be as a sexual being. There is no way to do sexuality “right” by any objective, external standard.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #11: Meeting the Parents, Department Drama, Friend Breakups and More!
Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an organizing coffee or a COFFEE coffee??
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You Need Help: Your Potential Throuple Turned Into a Couple and Someone’s Feeling Left Behind
“If y’all are close friends, you might want to make this sacrifice/compromise to preserve the friendship. Generally speaking, friends are more important than lovers, depending on how close of a friend they are.”
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The 8 Most Asked You Need Help Questions, Answered
Love and sex and internalized homophobia and, yes, straight girls.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #9: Supporting Your Local Bisexual, Getting Your Girlfriend to Talk to You, and More!
First of all: Clean your sex toys! Also: homophobia at your day job, supporting your friend when they leave an abusive relationship, and how to start dating when… you’ve absolutely never dated before.