Results for: bisexual
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You Need Help: Am I Erasing Bisexuality?
There are many people who will try to be strict about the definition of “bisexual” and “lesbian.” At times, I have been that person. I have also been a person who identifies as both at different points in my life.
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You Need Help: Why Be Out As Bisexual?
There’s something about bisexuality that non-bisexual people project a lot of their fears and questions onto, maybe because it’s positioned as ‘other’ to everything else. So we become the focus of these questions that aren’t really about us in specific at all.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #12: Bisexual Marriage Blues, Sexting as a Bottom, and More!
Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!
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You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Bisexual or a Lesbian and Find Community?
There’s who you’re physically/romantically attracted to, and then there’s who you want to date, and then there’s who you want to sleep with — and all of these can be different things, all of which can also change! Yet we’re expected to align under a single label.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #9: Supporting Your Local Bisexual, Getting Your Girlfriend to Talk to You, and More!
First of all: Clean your sex toys! Also: homophobia at your day job, supporting your friend when they leave an abusive relationship, and how to start dating when… you’ve absolutely never dated before.
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You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?
You can’t control other people’s reactions to your coming out. But you can create for yourself a network of people who unequivocally support your bisexuality/queerness and who understand the specific joys and challenges we face.
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You Need Help: As a Transmasc, Am I Welcome in Lesbian Spaces?
You see, for me and you, dating women wasn’t the only thing that made us lesbians or gay. It’s an entire culture with a rich history of tradition, identity, protest, community, and so much more.
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You Need Help: My Work Mentee Came Out to Me but I Didn’t Come Out to Her
There’s definitely a middle ground here: You can come out but also be clear about your boundary of not wanting to discuss your own identity in depth.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #6: Being Out at Work, Surviving “Bisexual FOMO,” and More!
Real life worries from readers like you! Including: coming out at any age, getting comfortable with butt sex, and so many questions about moving! Get ready! It’s a party!
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You Need Help: Your Straight Partner Is a Great Ally – But His Parents Aren’t
Setting up boundaries around family members can be a complicated and painful thing, but doing so without the support of your partner will likely be more difficult, and could potentially create some challenging situations for the two of you to navigate.
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You Need Help: Three Classic Bisexual Questions, Now with Bisexual Answers
Today we look at a panoply of questions, which, while the situations of their querents are specific and concrete, encompass three of the most common questions we hear in relation to bisexuality: Am I actually bisexual or not? Am I pansexual or something else within the bi+ spectrum? How the fuck do I let people know I’m not straight?
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You Need Help: Is It a Crush Or Am I Just Lonely in Quarantine?
“How do I know this isn’t some quarantine induced haze and I’m just projecting my feelings of loneliness onto her?”
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You Need Help: Should I Try Again To Turn a Friendship Into Romance?
You have to evaluate if you can experience the friendship not as a consolation prize or a waystation for your ultimate destiny of romantic partnership with them but as a gift that is exactly what you want.
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You Need Help: I’m Afraid of Feeling Like Less of a Trans Man for Not Dating Men
Cool people who will appreciate you as a whole person exist, and I believe you can find them.
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You Need Help: I Can’t Get My Exes Out of My Head
We don’t need to be friends with our exes. One more time for emphasis. We don’t need to be friends with our exes.
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You Need Help: Why Do I Keep Crushing on Straight White Guys?
The dynamic between white men and Asian partners is uncomfortable. There’s always a worry that they’re interested in what you represent, not who you are.
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You Need Help: I Just Turned 65 and I’m Questioning My Sexuality
I think everyone in the queer community knows this but I think we need to say it more explicitly and more often: Queerness is a journey.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Friend Out of Her Toxic Relationship?
It can be really hard to watch a friend in a relationship that doesn’t seem good for them. At the same time, this situation isn’t entirely yours to fix or even diagnose for that matter.
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You Need Help: My Parents Want Me to Respect My Sister’s Homophobic Religious Beliefs
How do I get my parents to see that neutrality in this situation feels like they’re rejecting me too?
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You Need Help: Am I Bisexual If It Really Is Just This One Guy?
“I’ve identified as a lesbian for three years now, and this identity makes me happy. But… I made out with one of my closest male friends whilst drunk, and then again whilst sober, and we’ve talked about it and decided to pursue a friends with benefits situation. So now I feel guilty, but I feel silly calling myself or thinking about “coming out again” as bi because it really is just this one guy; I’m not into “men,” I’m into women (and some NB people) and him, and that’s it. Am I betraying everyone?”