Results for: you need help
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You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?
Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your life — one where you are less dependent on your parents, and have the space to fully be yourself.
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You Need Help: I’m 49 and Questioning — Is It Too Late for Me?
It is not too late for you! Every day, we wake up and make our lives anew. What do you want your life to be today?
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You Need Help: What If I’m Lying to Myself About Being Queer?
I absolutely remember this feeling. “Am I crazy? Am I just making this up to complicate my life?” The answer is, no, you’re not. You’re not making it up. It’s real, and it’s fine, and it’s gonna be amazing.
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You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?
You can’t control other people’s reactions to your coming out. But you can create for yourself a network of people who unequivocally support your bisexuality/queerness and who understand the specific joys and challenges we face.
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You Need Help: Will I Ever Grow Out Of The Messy Questioning Phase?
Accept the messy questioning phase. It’s the whole point of being alive.
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You Need Help: I Can’t Figure Out What I Should Wear and Who I Should Date
You don’t need to have one particular vibe, type, or style. You don’t have to have it all figured out now, next week, or next year.
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You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?
I am not of the belief that “everyone should come out in order to live their best lives,” but I do want to acknowledge how incredibly difficult it is to have so many areas in your life where coming out simply isn’t an option.
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You Need Help: I Just Came Out, and I Feel Weird
Coming out isn’t a magic trick that makes us suddenly understand ourselves completely.
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You Need Help: I Never Imagined I’d Live Past 20. Now What?
Babe, I promise you’re right on time. In 2020 I can’t be sure of hardly anything, but I am sure that you are good. You belong right where you are, and you get to do the messy work of finding out what’s next.
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You Need Help: My Mom Is Offended I Didn’t Come Out To Her Sooner
Your mom is making this about herself, and it’s not fair to you.
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You Need Help: How Do I Let Go of Feeling Guilty After Coming Out Late in Life?
I’m happy and grateful to be out, but I can’t get past feeling like I have created pain and difficulty for so many people.
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You Need Help: Coming Out When Your Girlfriend Is Amazing but Your Family Super Isn’t
“I feel like I’m lying to my my parents, hiding part of myself, and disrespecting my girlfriend by constantly avoiding mentioning her or referring to her as my friend when my parents ask what’s going on in my life. Of course, I know coming out can be difficult in general, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for coming out in the context of a toxic family relationship? How can I best protect myself from the inevitable insults, yelling, and criticism while still being honest?”
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You Need Help: How to Navigate Disabled Kids Coming Out
“That she talked to you about this at all is a beautiful and important thing that a lot of young people don’t have. So know that just being there for her is already making an enormous difference!”
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Y’All Need Help #15: With a Face as Deadpan as the Aubrey Plaza Sea
Checking on your ex, being honest with coworkers, being honest with everyone including yourself, and pulling yourself out of a year-long sad thing! Come help give advice!!
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You Need Help: How to Best Be There for Your Newly Out Asexual Friend
In which I talk to my asexual brother about what they wanted and what they did when they first came out as ace.
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You Need Help: Coming Out In Your Mid/Late 20s
The fact that you’re working through all this now doesn’t say anything negative about you or the way you moved through life for the past 24 years. What you did then was valid, and what you’re doing now is valid.
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You Need Help: Do I Call Myself Bisexual?
“I’m attracted to more than one gender, but am not sure what label to use. “Queer” resonates with me, but am I contributing to bisexual erasure if I don’t ID as bisexual?”
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You Need Help: I Came Out To My Mom (Again) And You Can, Too
“I cried on the plane. I realized, stark as night, clear as day, that the silence was killing me. Instead of moving through a moment, I was trapped inside of purgatory.”
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You Need Help: Where Do I Go From Here
“When you unearth one thing you didn’t know about yourself, it can be an opportunity to dive in and know all the things you were afraid to. It’s the scariest thing you’ll ever do and the most valuable.”
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You Need Help: You Fell In Love With A Girl and It’s Exploding Your Whole Life
So you fell in love with a girl and it upended your life with family, kids and religion. What now?