Results for: you need help
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You Need Help: Should I Cut Off My Racist Dad?
My family is part of the problem, but if I choose to just ignore this fact, do I become part of the problem too?
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NY Needs More Midwives: Here’s How You Can Help
The violence against Black and Indigenous birthing people is intergenerational violence and trauma happening in real time, in each birth. Healing it – by making midwifery more accessible for more people, in the contexts and environments that are centered on the comfort, care, respect, and empowerment of birthing people – is one deeply important step forward in creating that world.
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You Need Help: Coming Out When Your Girlfriend Is Amazing but Your Family Super Isn’t
“I feel like I’m lying to my my parents, hiding part of myself, and disrespecting my girlfriend by constantly avoiding mentioning her or referring to her as my friend when my parents ask what’s going on in my life. Of course, I know coming out can be difficult in general, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for coming out in the context of a toxic family relationship? How can I best protect myself from the inevitable insults, yelling, and criticism while still being honest?”
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You Need Help: Do I Really Have to Go to My Biphobic Brother-in-Law’s Wedding?
When an in-law has a terrible reaction to your coming out, do you still have to go to their wedding?
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Y’All Need Help #16: You Can Do Things About You!
Being miserable at your 9-5 job, your family isn’t wild about your fiancee and you’re embarrassed to get married, you’re not wild about your current roommate, and people think you might be related to your gal BUT YOU’RE NOT. Come on in!
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The Illusion Of Safety
I don’t want to be caught parading around in last generation’s false sense of security. I’m kicking off Autostraddle’s first Asian Pacific Islander American (APIA) Heritage month by exploring the values my own South Asian and Japanese American parents and grandparents imparted to me, to learn to carry them forward.
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One American Goes to See “30 Americans”
“And I thought how interesting is it that America can be this dark star, death star, and also at the same time this incredible shining light.”
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Y’All Need Help #20: Is This Too Many Metaphors?
Your family buys you weird gifts, your mom is kinda rude about your long-distance girlfriend, and you can’t move on after this breakup. Let’s get some shit done! Come on!
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You Need Help: Talking to Your Family About Your Partner’s Pronouns
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
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Queer Sex Coven: Protect Yourself From Homophobic Parents
Queers, allow me to introduce you to Saint Martha.
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How These Lesbian Couples Decided to Get Pregnant
For queer couples, deciding to get pregnant often involves a lot of planning, money, and time.
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Y’All Need Help #5: Being a Virgin Doesn’t Make You Straight
Do you have to go to your homophobic asshole cousin’s wedding? How do you tell your more-than-friends friend that you’ve slept with her ex? Is 22 too old to still be as pure and virginal as the driven snow? Get in here and find out!
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Bearing Life With and Alongside: On Masculinity, Pregnancy, and Medical Trauma
I hadn’t experienced transphobic violence in medicalized form before. But I’d experienced it in many others: in punches and pushes, through threats with weapons, or by being run off the road by cars while I was on foot.
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Six Tips for Dealing with Your Difficult Family Members Over the Holidays
I’m sharing tips and techniques that have been useful to me in the face of conflict for those of you who’ll need to advocate for yourselves in difficult conversations and fight the good fight this holiday season. We can do this. Hopefully one day we won’t have to.
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You Need Help Helping Your Parents: Cis People Teaching Cis Parents To Be Trans Allies
It will take time. It will take a lot of patience. It will be worth it.
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EXCLUSIVE: Center for American Progress Calls for Paid Leave Policies That Cover Chosen Family
The first-of-its-kind study revealed some surprising findings on queer and disabled folks in particular.
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Making a Home in the Closet
I was a newly minted queer and everything I knew about queerness was rooted in coming out. I’d heard about the relief that came with coming out from everybody. If TV was to be believed, I would feel free even as my parents stopped looking me in the eye.
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Queer Crip Love Fest: Nana’s Stories and Ginger Loaf
“I think for many of us as disabled folk, we’ve come to terms with what we experience — but Nana’s experience of dementia is sort of different in that she doesn’t always know what’s happening or who and what she can trust. We can be empowered about disability at the same time as acknowledging that some of it really, seriously fucking hurts.”
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You Need Help: I Came Out To My Mom (Again) And You Can, Too
“I cried on the plane. I realized, stark as night, clear as day, that the silence was killing me. Instead of moving through a moment, I was trapped inside of purgatory.”
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You Need Help: Where Do I Go From Here
“When you unearth one thing you didn’t know about yourself, it can be an opportunity to dive in and know all the things you were afraid to. It’s the scariest thing you’ll ever do and the most valuable.”