Results for: you need help
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You Need Help: What If My Mom Hates My Girlfriend?
Of course you’re being thoughtful about if, when and how you’ll introduce your girlfriend to your family — given your mom’s previous actions, there’s a chance she won’t grant you and your girlfriend the respect your relationship deserves.
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You Need Help: Your Straight Partner Is a Great Ally – But His Parents Aren’t
Setting up boundaries around family members can be a complicated and painful thing, but doing so without the support of your partner will likely be more difficult, and could potentially create some challenging situations for the two of you to navigate.
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You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?
Our present selves can’t make promises for our future selves. Your partner is telling you what she knows about herself today. Is that enough?
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#PolyamoryProblems: The Way My Partner Engages With Her Other Partner Makes Me Uncomfortable, What Should I Do?
Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.
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#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
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You Need Help: Long-Distance Relationships
So far away! Courtney Trouble gets blunt about LDRs.
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You Need Help: Even Sex Gods Get Anxious Sometimes
Share your feelings with your partner, stud.
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#PolyamoryProblems: Advice for Newbies with Too Many Feelings
For some polyam newbies, big feelings can make you feel out of control. Dating experienced people can be a gift, but it could also mean that you defer to your partner’s word instead of advocating for your needs. Find out why you should never stand for someone telling you that having feelings means you’re not really polyamorous.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Can I Make My Primary Partner Have More Fun?
Stop trying to make your vanilla partner more kinky!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #23: What If Your Partner Didn’t Tell You They Were Potentially Exposed to Covid?
Your partner doesn’t want to talk about raising your kids to be anti-racist, longing to reach out to a former friend, and more!
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How to Keep Your Relationship Healthy During a Global Crisis
Tips and tricks from a therapist and multiple queer couples about how to keep your communication and boundaries strong.
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You Need Help: Talking to Your Family About Your Partner’s Pronouns
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
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You Need Help: Will Studying Abroad Break Us Up?
Studying abroad or going long distance isn’t a death knell for a relationship, but I’m hearing something else in your question.
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You Need Help: Is She “The One”?
HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?
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You Need Help: You Want Different Things
You are in love with someone who wants different things. What do you do?
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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Says Offensive Stuff and You Aren’t Sure How to Deal
Sometimes we love people who don’t share our same value systems or knowledge sets. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t love them, but it can mean we need to work hard to make sure we aren’t compromising our own values just to placate them.
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You Need Help: Will You Grow Together or Grow Apart?
“When my boyfriend came out to me as trans, he was worried what that would mean for me and us. It’s a few months later and I should be really happy for him. And I am! But I’m starting to feel kind of lost and scared and I don’t know if it has to do with the fact, that he is, of course, changing.”
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No White Tears: A Non-Guide on Dealing with Microaggressions from Your White Partner
This is not a how-to guide; there’s no right way to navigate these situations. Let’s share instances of microaggressions and some ways to deal in the hopes we’ll all be able to make it out alive, looking sexy and loving our hardest.
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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend is Permanently Unemployed, Maybe
What to do when a temporary situation starts looking like a permanent personality trait.
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You Need Help: When Your Girlfriend is Abusive
“Two or three things I know, two or three things I know for sure, and one of them is that if we are not beautiful to each other, we cannot know beauty in any form.”