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You Need Help: How Do I Get More Comfortable With Dirty Talk?
We learn so much about how people act during sex from TV and movies, and those people always seem to know exactly when to moan or how to say the right thing during sex. Of course they do — it’s been written for them!
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You Need Help: How Can I Deal With My Own Sexual Shame?
I want you to know that your shame is not uncommon and you’re not alone in feeling it. While it does take a long time to undo, you’re on the right track by acknowledging it verbally.
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You Need Help: Will I Be A Virgin Forever?
There are a lot of harmful messages in our society about lack of experience, specifically about virginity. But you have so many things to offer, things which are far more vital to a good experience than whether you’ve had partnered sex before.
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You Need Help: How Do I Ask My Girlfriend To Freshen Up Before Sex Without Killing Our Sex Life?
Your girlfriend is putting a lot of trust in you, and that trust should be honored and celebrated.
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You Need Help: How Can I Make Penetration Less Painful?
You shouldn’t have pain during sex. If you want to explore penetration, that has to be a choice you’re making for your own pleasure.
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You Need Help: My Partner Says I’m Awkward in Bed
“Sex requires a negotiation of boundaries that’s more explicit than it is in other contexts, so it can be easier to see it when those boundaries are broken. But if people communicate poorly during sex, they probably communicate poorly in other contexts, too.”
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You Need Help: How Do I Explore Casual Sex If I’m Demisexual?
If you’re feeling sexual desire for friends or if you like the idea of a “friends with benefits” situation, then it seems that most widely-accepted definition of “demisexual” still encompasses your experience. But the more important questions here are: what do you want and why do you want it?
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You Need Help: My Ex Got Mad That I Didn’t Want To Have Sex, Now I Can’t Trust Anyone
I have to start by getting this out: “Fuck your ex. FUCK THEM.” You are not to blame.
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You Need Help: I Thought We Were Both Switches, but My Girlfriend Won’t Touch Me
It sounds like your idea of your sexual dynamic with your girlfriend isn’t lining up with the reality of it.
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You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?
You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.
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You Need Help: Are There Exercises For Better Finger Sex?
Stretching can certainly prevent your muscles from getting sore, but focusing on your posture and form will give you the best finger sex results.
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You Need Help: What If I’m Bad At Sex?
No one is bad at sex.
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.
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You Need Help: Quarantine Smothered My Sex Drive
If you use this opportunity to sharpen your communication, your dynamic will be stronger (and hotter) on the other side of a crisis.
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How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?
The lack of sex that resulted from our wildly differing needs has had a lasting impact.
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You Need Help: Is It Possible to Repair a Relationship After a Consent Misstep?
“I’m worried the relationship is ruined before it even really got started. What should I do? Do I have to break up with her, or is there a way to work through this?”
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You Need Help: Getting Kinky On A Budget
You’re in luck — kinky sex requires nothing but two (or more) bodies and a little imagination.
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You Need Help: My Partner Can’t Have an Orgasm
“Release yourself from responsibility. You are not the keeper of your partner’s orgasms. You’re a supporting character. Your partner should play the protagonist in their Great Orgasm Quest.”
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You Need Help: Rebuilding Desire and Confidence in Your Partner
“How can I help her feel confident and in the mood again without sacrificing any more of myself?”
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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Sexual Confidence Back?
You’re at your most vulnerable when you describe how afraid you are of never being desired by another again. Own that vulnerability, because really owning our soft parts is part of what confidence is.