“To L and Back” L Word Podcast Episode 403: Lassoed

Rancho Notorious is West Hollywood’s hottest new Girls Night at The Planet. You’ll find Heads Will Roll Kroll on the prowl, Papi with a girl on each arm, many bales of hay, two party promoters unddresssing each other and Shane, a skinny little white girl. But first, stop in on “Tina and Henry’s Mixer for Our Gay and Straight Friends,” a bona-fide disaster party full of honest homophobes and Bette’s intense top energy. Also, Jenny’s still upset about her review, Helena’s bad at jobs, and Nadia has never wanted to kiss anyone as much as she wants to kiss Bette Porter right now!


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  1. I kept wondering if this party scene was the reason everyone thought Angus was bisexual. I never thought that, I thought he was just purposefully trolling the homophobic people for fun. Mostly because this show doesn’t let people be bisexual.

    • I always thought that it just meant Kit was pegging him! That said, I’m willing to opt for the queer/bi interpretation whenever I can (sometimes despite the original author’s intention, I guess). I think, unfortunately, that they let him be bi on the condition that he was also obnoxious.

    • i think honestly i thought that since he mentioned a specific brand of lube that he actually was being serious, and also i think back when i first saw it, the fact that the brand was “boy butter” made me think it was like an inside thing for gay/bi men? lord knows. anyhow i’m sticking to it!!

      also lol: “they let him be bi on the condition that he was also obnoxious.”

  2. Ah season 4, no less offensive but definitely more fun. Also, even though I hate how the rest of the crew are cutting her off from queer stuff, I kind of think Tina should have known better than to arrange this gathering. Have they ever, in the whole history of the L Word, thrown a dinner party that goes well?!

  3. Fun “The L-Word” tie-in re: Bette and Natalie’s relationship- Kate Manning had season-long arc on “Grownish” where she played a professor of Gender Studies (of course) who has a relationship with one of her undergrad students. This is the third student-teacher lesbian relationship with weird issues around boundary and secrecy on TV that I can think of (Natalie and Dean Bette “Benzo” Porter on “The L-Word”, Nomi and Professor Paige Hewson on “Grownish, Ali and Professor Leslie Mackinaw on “Transparent”) and *spoiler alert* they all end up getting in serious trouble/getting fired for it.

    P.S.- I’m so glad that Riese finally came upon the original source material for her assertion that (M)Angus is bisexual. Every time Riese mentioned Mangus’ sexual orientation up until now (almost always in the context of correcting herself or someone else who groups him with other straight cis White dude$), I always thought to myself: “she can only be thinking of that time at Tina’s gay-straight mixer party when MAngus said how great anal sex can feel with the right lube or whatever, but that was just said to shock and confuse that homophobic straight guy” (though enjoying “receiving” anal sex wouldn’t make him bi either way). I’m glad she stuck to her guns though.

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