The Starting Place: How an Unlikely Hiker Can Get Outdoorsy

I’m happy when I spend time outside. It’s the one thing I really need to do to feel good.

It’s taken me a full 30 years of my life to get to that realization, but I’m glad I’m here now. After 15 spent ambling through mirror-image suburban wastelands and at least six sandwiched into the urban thicket of lower Manhattan/various corners of Brooklyn, I moved to the Pacific Northwest and started figuring some things out. Right now, I’m figuring things out full-time.

Autostraddle product placement

Autostraddle product placement

For the past year I’d been imagining what it would be like to climb the various crumbly, foreboding, impossibly beautiful volcanic mountains sprinkled throughout the Pacific Northwest. Unfortunately for my mountaineering career, that interest manifested exclusively through obsessive online research, which was more than enough to scare me off. As it turns out, people fall off mountains all the time! Pro tip: Don’t google it.

In recent months, my therapist, well acquainted with my tendency for obsessive over-research, started emphasizing the idea of “showing up” which is exactly as simple as it sounds. Nervous about something? Overthinking it? Just show up and see what happens. So I did.

After stepping away from the Google and into an often immobilizing state of psychological reckoning/imposter syndrome wrestling, I signed up for a mountaineering class put on by one of the oldest, largest alpine climbing and mountaineering organizations in the country.

I was worried there wouldn’t be any other queer people (there are, but not many!) or any other women (there are, but not many!) but I’m really glad I took the steps and did the thing. There’s something to this whole showing up thing.

Crampons: Not what they sound like even a little bit

Crampons: Not what they sound like even a little bit

Some things I figured out in the course of getting ready for the class, mostly by hiking alone and experimenting:

  • Hiking is a radical exercise in being present
  • Hiking poles are a game changer
  • Cotton kills. Wear synthetic stuff and merino wool (When I moved to Portland, a good friend from where it snowed a lot used to always say that and I thought she made it up. Apparently not!)
  • Hiking, even monotonous hiking, can be unboring
  • Hiking in the rain, even hard rain, is surprisingly totally fine if you’re dressed for it
  • When you look at a hike, pay attention to the elevation gain, not the mileage so much. Ideally pay attention to elevation gain per mile!
  • Hiking uphill is a mental game as much as physical — also not boring
Angel's Rest, Columbia River Gorge, Oregon

Angel’s Rest, Columbia River Gorge, Oregon


Being “Outdoorsy”

Taking this class seems pretty much in character for the people who know me now, which is sort of funny looking back. In Portland, my friends know me as outdoorsy, which can mean a lot of things but seems to reflect the fact that I go camping alone, obsessively over-research new places to explore, and likely seem sanest/happiest when outside (accurate!). It feels surprising then that in 2010, I was just a city queer new to the natural wonders of the West Coast (volcanoes! snow-covered ones!) with a vague interest in nature. In retrospect, I have no idea how I lived in New York City for six years without losing my mind, though I guess I did lose it eventually so I packed up a car and drove west with my partner at the time.

Prior to 2012 or so, my most immediate connection to nature was probably the god knows how many hours I spent looking at ground squirrels on Cute Overload or the nature club I founded in the fourth grade when I moved to suburban Houston from Atlanta and made enough friends to found a nature club; apparently you need three. The nature club casually disbanded after one outing to some kind of local conservation place where a regional ranger volunteer showed us a horny toad and a barn owl. I was captivated by the strangeness of natural things, the inability to parse intentions out of their sharp eyes.

In a few ways I’m an unlikely hiker, a term I borrowed from a couple of Very Smart Local Friends who write about hiking. In most ways, I’m not. I’m white, thin, able-bodied for the most part (my own chronic illness ≠ a static physical disability), and financially comfortable enough to take time away from work to figure my shit out, outside.

100% can't feel my feet

100% can’t feel my feet

Knots and How to Tie Them

I didn’t grow up hiking or Girl Scouting or skiing or anything like that. None of the stuff that functional families seemed to do together. Here in the Northwest, it can feel like everyone hiked or downhill skied or extreme sport I’ve never even heard of out of the womb. I still have a tinge of jealousy about the functional, non-abusive family dynamics that must make things like ski trips possible, though I’m sure class and race are way bigger barriers to the Great Outdoors that continues to belong to some and not all of us.

Living in the Southeast, when I did end up in the woods, everything looked the same to me—humid, lush, and one shade of green in summer or leafless, brown, and still in winter. And when I went there, usually it was to get away from my family not to spend time with them. When I moved back to Texas, before I had friends, I’d spend whole days in the woods behind my house unfurling imaginary worlds that I wish I could conjure in my adulthood.

To his credit, my dad tried, sort of. When I went to college, my dad conveniently popped back into my life in a meaningful way and we forged a fragile, fraternal sort of friendship (the paternal one was rockier; we only saw one another a few times a year). When I was 19, he casually mentioned that we should go snowboarding “up in West Virginia” (that sounds funny now) which would have been a lot of intensive time together and a pretty big departure from our new relationship. It didn’t happen, but it did feel like he’d vetted me for friendship and I’d made it through the first round, for what that was worth. In the summers prior, we went car camping a few years in a row to the same place, a lush pocket of Appalachia with a lake that seemed to attract a thunderstorm as soon as you jumped in, but it was more of a new backdrop to string vodka tonics over than a particularly present outdoor experience.

Growing up as awkward a tomboy as they come, I wanted to know all of the stuff my dad seemed to have ambiently absorbed and taken for granted or even resented. Making a fire, knives, compasses—the stuff guys just knew about. As a blonde boy squarely in the middle class, the son of two good Southern Baptists who lived through the Dust Bowl and worried a lot about keeping their kids involved, the gates of father-to-son style knowledge transfer were flung wide open for him. I resented that he didn’t open those doors to me, while he resented me for being like the son he secretly wanted but still not quite right. When I was 10, in an apparent compromise, we went to the downtown Atlanta REI before a Braves game and he bought me a tiny, forest green swiss army knife which quickly became my favorite thing ever.

After my dad died, I slept in his childhood bedroom surrounded by light pine bookshelves full of worn copies of The Wolf Cub Scout Handbook and Knots and How to Tie Them. Now, those books, their 70s primary color palette covers fraying, rest in a long, low fir shelf below a window that opens into the rose garden behind my house.

A couple of my dad's old boy scout books

A couple of my dad’s old boy scout books

Before my first mountaineering class lecture began, the room roared with 200 men excitedly swapping summit stories with anyone who’d listen. When we split up into smaller groups, they showed off the knots they just knew with deft hands so quick I couldn’t follow.

The rest of us fumbled through, starting from the starting place.


Originally published on Out Lab. Republished WITH PERMISSION MOTHERF*CKERS.

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12 Comments

  1. Okay, wow. I just love this so much. I often feel like an unlikely hiker too, mostly because I’m easily scared of situations where you can only count on yourself/your body and because I have a physical disability that prevents me from doing many outdoor activities. I need it, though. I need to swim fast, to lose myself in the woods and to climb mountains, despite what my father says.

    So thank you. <3

    • Taylor! Thank you for the shout out, friend. I love this article and I found it because of the lil traffic signals on my blog. You rule! Also, I’m writing about poles right now because you know I’m trying to spread that gospel.

  2. Yes yes more hiking/outdoorsy posts please! Love this so much. I too am an east-to-west transplant (Ontario to B.C. in my case) and didn’t climb a mountain or put on a ski until I was in my 20s, but had always loved animal-y/nature-y stuff and used to climb trees when I was feeling upset (wherever I could find one amongst the concrete). But the first time I set eyes on the Rockies, on a cross-country bus trip, I knew in my heart I had to come back and make my life here.

  3. While I was at uni I had largely forgotten how good outdoorsy stuff makes me feel, largely because there wasn’t any ‘wild’ feeling landscape near there, just (admittedly pretty) parks and formal college gardens.

    Last year I started dating someone outdoorsy, and remembered how much I love camping and long walks and being in a forest or on a hill or on a beach in the wind. We’re no longer together, but I’m really glad that I rediscovered this about myself, and I am extra doubly glad that I now live somewhere (Edinburgh!) that allows me to get out into beautiful wild landscapes really easily.

    I actually work part time now at a stables, from the top field of which I can see mist on the Pentland Hills, gorse in bloom on Arthur’s Seat and the sea glimmering to the north of the city.
    Roaring around the paddock on a quad bike on a sunny day takes some beating, as does knowing that I can take a backpack and tent to work with me and get a good hike and camp in (long northern summer days!) and still be there bright eyed and bushy tailed the next day.

    I rambled a bit there, but basically I was really happy to see this article as I love content about rural and outdoorsy queers, given that so many of us are urban (as concentrated population centres = critical mass of lgbt folk and enough for organisations, groups etc).

    Thank you Taylor!
    p.s. i really feel you on the obsessive over researching of spots, I have about 5 tabs of maps and geograph pics open rn!

  4. I saw the picture and thought crampons on AS? worlds colliding!

    But then I read further and it all looked v v familiar… I also took BCEP this year 🙂 I hope we bump into each other on a mountain!

  5. I’ve always wondered, but never researched what makes something a hike versus a walk.
    Always figured it’s officially hiking when it takes an hour or more and might kill you if you’re not careful or prepared.
    How correct or incorrect is that thought?

    The father-tomboy daughter feels tho.
    The significant tomboy gift my father gave me was a set of metal files and drill bit canister that belong to his stepfather who retired from decades at sea to earn his wage in the Avondale shipyard, who was more of a father than his dad ever was.
    His Skipper as my father called him was one of the 2 biggest influences on me as child and who I am as person.

    My father and I do not really understand each other as people in a lot of ways.
    Not in the same way as you and your dad, but I get it.

  6. To my mind, a hike is any walk primarily on “single-track” – natural ground path, often with mud, irregular tree roots crossing the trail, rocks, etc. Hiking poles can help if the footing is tricky. A walk is on a graded path clear of obstacles. Skip the poles. Both can clear the head. I enjoy the natural-environment hikes more, because I try to learn a little natural history along the way (What’s that bird? Orange mushroom? Fossil? Geology?).

    I am deficient in the knot tying category, and don’t know a lot of the Boy Scout build-it-from-scratch stuff. But building a fire with branches and kindling – I have lived in houses / dorms with fireplaces, and know how to arrange the materials so they burn efficiently. For starting fire – a match. For starting fire in the woods – a “waterproof” match found at camping stores. You don’t need to know much to go on day hikes. I have picked up some useful info from the local outdoors sports store, from people on the trail, from Backpacker magazine. I am a nut for the hiking trails and camping guides specific to a state or region in the state – it is fun to try new trails, and the guides give directions to the site, estimated length and difficulty, etc. I am working my way through “60 hikes within 60 miles of St. Louis” – this is a series with at least 20 cities by now.

  7. I’m preparing for my first multiday solo hike at the moment and I’m so excited:D This makes me even more excited! Being on the track is the best feeling, it’s so rewarding getting to the tops of mountains or seeing waterfalls or getting your first hot shower after five days hahah. I’m going to outback Australia to do the Carnavon Track, so it’ll be desert and the pretty sky for days (im an astronomy nut, so the night sky should be amazing so far out from civilisation!)
    It’s really cool to see other women (especially other queer women) who go out on hikes alone, I never hear much about that so sometimes I’m a bit put off. Particularly because whenever I tell anyone I’m going for a mere walk in the park they’ll be all ‘shock horror’ a woman alone in the woods!! Don’t know how I’ll break this multiday solo hike to everyone ahaha

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