Being gay in public can be daunting, and it is not only because PDA discourse is fraught with questions of respectability and modesty. No, for us in the LGBTQ+ community, it can be a matter of life and death, so I completely understand your confusion and possible hesitance around showing PDA to your partner.
Pandemic haircuts, changing your perception around friendships, do you want kids, do you need to know what you’re looking for when dating, feeling weird about not feeling New Relationship Energy, and more!
“It’s like, I’m hot, you’re hot, pick something on my profile to talk to me about!”
Since coming out as trans, the idea of sex with cis guys has gotten more complicated: can I fuck a straight man if I’m transmasculine?
You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.
Sometimes it takes an outside perspective and an objective read on what’s going on to tell whether it’s healthiest to separate — which is why our team is here to tell you from experience when it’s time to go.
“As a broody, miserable bastard, I’ve obviously spent some time pondering past relationship failures and wondering what a functional relationship would look like for myself in the future.”
How are you supposed to end things with somebody you’re seeing casually or have more of, idk, “a thing” with? Well, no one really has that figured out, but here are some ideas for how to break things off with the person you’re seeing casually based on the nature and length of your relationship.
A relatable icon for adult dating is Real Women Have Curves’ Ana García bringing index cards of conversation topics to her first date.
Be who you are just as hard as you can. Also, be on time.
You may be wondering, do I really have to communicate directly about EVERYTHING? In short… yes! Well okay, in slightly longer: almost always yes.
14 first messages that will have you burning up your matches list (with queer pop culture references!).
Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like and connecting with their life, and you’re halfway to adopting a cat with someone or just sucking their face off, whichever you’re looking for.
The pandemic has made ghosting easier for those who might otherwise act like mortals.
Winter is coming, so we’re turning up the heat with Halloween costumes that are also hot role play costumes. You’re welcome.
Consider this your invitation to stop hiding, loosen your cheeks and let your sphincter siren sing for the one(s) you love.
“How are you liking all this social distancing? It’s cool that you write for Autostraddle”
“Looking for a baby who wants to be pleasured and punished in the most loving of ways. I may look adorable, but I’m quite powerful and will make you shake with joy or fear – if you behave you get to choose.”
Dating Download is a new ongoing series where Shelli, Dani and Drew try out the latest or most overlooked of dating apps so you don’t have to. Today they’re giving you the full download on XO.
No matter how cautious we try to be, we are going to hurt people. The question then becomes: when is it worth it?
What do we feel our sexual IDs “mean” about us as “people”? Do they have overlaps with our sense of self outside of bed? Do we notice others assuming these things about us (or projecting them onto us)? If so, is that annoying or helpful? Do they get at authentic ways that our sexual dynamics are natural expressions of other parts of our personhood?