Sometimes it takes an outside perspective and an objective read on what’s going on to tell whether it’s healthiest to separate — which is why our team is here to tell you from experience when it’s time to go.
“As a broody, miserable bastard, I’ve obviously spent some time pondering past relationship failures and wondering what a functional relationship would look like for myself in the future.”
How are you supposed to end things with somebody you’re seeing casually or have more of, idk, “a thing” with? Well, no one really has that figured out, but here are some ideas for how to break things off with the person you’re seeing casually based on the nature and length of your relationship.
A relatable icon for adult dating is Real Women Have Curves’ Ana García bringing index cards of conversation topics to her first date.
Be who you are just as hard as you can. Also, be on time.
You may be wondering, do I really have to communicate directly about EVERYTHING? In short… yes! Well okay, in slightly longer: almost always yes.
14 first messages that will have you burning up your matches list (with queer pop culture references!).
Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like and connecting with their life, and you’re halfway to adopting a cat with someone or just sucking their face off, whichever you’re looking for.
The pandemic has made ghosting easier for those who might otherwise act like mortals.
Winter is coming, so we’re turning up the heat with Halloween costumes that are also hot role play costumes. You’re welcome.
Consider this your invitation to stop hiding, loosen your cheeks and let your sphincter siren sing for the one(s) you love.
“How are you liking all this social distancing? It’s cool that you write for Autostraddle”
“Looking for a baby who wants to be pleasured and punished in the most loving of ways. I may look adorable, but I’m quite powerful and will make you shake with joy or fear – if you behave you get to choose.”
Dating Download is a new ongoing series where Shelli, Dani and Drew try out the latest or most overlooked of dating apps so you don’t have to. Today they’re giving you the full download on XO.
No matter how cautious we try to be, we are going to hurt people. The question then becomes: when is it worth it?
What do we feel our sexual IDs “mean” about us as “people”? Do they have overlaps with our sense of self outside of bed? Do we notice others assuming these things about us (or projecting them onto us)? If so, is that annoying or helpful? Do they get at authentic ways that our sexual dynamics are natural expressions of other parts of our personhood?
Given that so much discourse is spent on bi people in relationships with binary genders, looking at relationships between bisexual people can be an opportunity to look at more expansive perspectives on bisexuality.
Dating looks different now.
You and your cyber cutie have probably gone from simple sexting to full-on virtual sex and maybe have seen each others toy or two – but what about exploring something to use together once it’s safe to meet up again? Wet for Her is low key making it hella easy to mix online shopping with your IRL play.
The best advice for a first date is always to be yourself; obviously you’re also interested in being the hottest, most unforgettable version of yourself. A good first date outfit does both.
Because of the positive affirmation I received during sex, I began to believe it was all I was good for. When people wanted me, I assumed it was my job to provide joy for other people. I gave myself to a lot of people in that way. I had to remember that I had a right to pleasure as well.