How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.
I feel nothing and everything when I’m with her and I want that more than I want to protect myself. I know this will hurt me, but pain is part of my life, so I allow it in bursts I think I can control.
Mars helps us assert ourselves. It helps us go after what we want. Mars is our individuality. I want. I need. I desire.
Come for the memes, stay for the advice so honest you might start crying while eating an enormous frozen Costco pie-sized peanut butter cup.
Always a side piece and never a main piece? We’ve got you covered.
In this sex diary: Tinder spanking dates, post-breakup anxieties, sex in a tent, and a lot of thoughts on fucking your friends.
As with so many things in life, the trick to successfully doing this is a combination of confidence, openness, and a willingness to fail or get rejected sometimes — and maybe, if you’re up for it, being the picture of a great butt you want to see in the world.
Venus is asking your partner to tie your tie, and putting on a garter belt and stockings just as they’re leaving for work to maybe make them stay a few extra minutes, and putting on an old thing they got you ages ago that will make them weepy because oh my god, how do you still have it? Venus is call and response.
Make peace with uncertainty in all your relationships, and trust that Virgo season will help you achieve some needed clarity.
Communication, of course, is the bedrock of any relationship — romantic, sexual, platonic. And yet! Mercury gets totally overlooked when it comes to synastry, or the astrology of relationships. Not today, though; let’s talk about how you process!
In this queer sex diary: long-distance FaceTime fucking, a dish rack full of sex toys, feeling sad, feeling S.A.D., and feeling goofy and good.
The moon governs your emotions, habits, and instincts. When it comes to relationships, this is important! Your moon is how you are emotional. It’s how you express your tender little queer heart!
“She kisses me. I hold on to her arms lightly, not wanting to hurt her, not wanting to weird her out, make her uncomfortable. She’s here for me: I’d hired her for exactly that, and she agreed to it, and she’s here.”
An unscientific exploration of the totally uncalled for post-breakup behavior your ex will definitely possibly exhibit based on their sign.
What do you do when you can’t get what you want? If you’re feeling frustrated right now, you’re not alone. How do you keep your heart open?
In this sex diary: a single femme sets herself a masturbation challenge. New sex toys, late-night porn, learning to feel free and more.
June is a time to let some joy and lightness shine into The Struggle That Is Love. Just remember to slow your roll when Mars goes retrograde.
Welcome to A+ Sex Diaries, an A+ feature for Silver & Gold members in which we publish seven days in our sex lives. This week: A single, soft butch writer openly dating multiple people. Lesbian, 32, the American west.
Queer Sex, a collection of interviews with trans and non-binary folks on sex, love and intimacy, is a map to erotic empowerment. In this excerpt, author Juno Roche explores her fears, hopes and erotic potential.
“Polyamory and queerness are pretty much inseparable for me in practice.”