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respect your elders

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Respect Your Elders: Carter Bachmann Came Out as Trans at 64

“Having presented a woman, a lesbian, and then come out as transgender man… don’t be afraid. You’re not alone. We are worthwhile. We are forever. We are everywhere. All you have to do is look for us. Be who you are.”

By Lou Barrett| December 26, 2020 | 2 Comments
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Respect Your Elders: Tea with Trans Playwright and Actress Christine Howey

“After I was about 20 years into my life as a trans woman, I was getting very frustrated by seeing that nothing much was changing. Transgender people were still being assaulted, killed, committing suicide. I felt that since I was a writer, I was a performer, I could put that together and maybe do a show and break down some barriers.”

By Lou Barrett| November 28, 2020 | 3 Comments
72-Year-Old Therapist Antonio Feo
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Respect Your Elders: Zoom With 72-Year-Old Therapist Antonio Feo

“Be present for yourself and others. It’s not asking a whole lot.”

By Lou Barrett| October 24, 2020 | 4 Comments
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Respect Your Elders: Zoom With Lesbian Activist Phyllis “Seven” Harris

“So keep on living. Get on the other side of this. There’s more.”

By Lou Barrett| May 5, 2020 | 1 Comment
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Respect Your Elders: Tea with Trans Lesbian Poet Barbara Marie Minney

Lou Barrett sits down with Barbara Marie Minney to talk about coming out later in life, being a trans lesbian poet, and BDSM.

By Lou Barrett| March 24, 2020 | 3 Comments
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Respect Your Elders: Tea and Trans History With Jacob Nash

Lou Barrett sits down with Jacob Nash to his experiences being out and trans since the ’90s.

By Lou Barrett| February 25, 2020 | 6 Comments
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Respect Your Elders: Tea With Two-Spirit African-American and Haudenosaunee Writer M. Carmen Lane

“Be curious in an intergenerational context, because it doesn’t matter how old you are — if you’re not curious about the other you’re gonna lose some learning, you’re gonna lose connection, and you’re gonna lose the nuance.”

By Lou Barrett| January 28, 2020 | 24 Comments
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