“At the cultural level, in the US at least, when you say someone is bisexual, the image that automatically generates is of a cis bisexual person. The double erasure of bi+ trans people is something that really hurts and also makes a lot of sense.”
“What does it mean to *be* the bi+ community? Does anything unite us? Can we find what we share and ignore all the bullshit and live into that?”
Given that so much discourse is spent on bi people in relationships with binary genders, looking at relationships between bisexual people can be an opportunity to look at more expansive perspectives on bisexuality.
“So many people come to the table with preconceived notions about bisexuality — namely that it excludes trans, non-binary and gender non-conforming folks — and if I was out in the world, identifying solely as bisexual, was I coloring how people saw me? Did my definition of bisexuality matter outside my comfort zone?”
Given that identities are often assumed based on the gender of a person’s current partner(s), how do bi+ folks navigate longterm relationships? What effect does being in a longterm relationship have on a bi+ person’s understanding of self? How does their bi+ identity interact with intersecting identities and those of their partner(s)? How do poly and monogamous relationships differ for bi+ people? All those questions and more are explored in these fiction and non-fiction books about bi+ people!
“You know, I was never annoyed that you were gay! I was just glad to know you. If it were the 1940s maybe we would have had a lavender marriage.”
I will never again cultivate a romantic relationship with a cis person on purpose, not in this life. I have been hurt too badly, too often, by too many people. T4T only. Inscrutable genders from outer space to the front, those that can be best described as “smell of campfire” && “a great pink shape.” && those best described as “a single chandelier earring dragging across your chest while we fuck.”
Dancing around his apartment with a bottle of Dom Perignon in hand, I learned I couldn’t speak for anyone but myself.
When we’re open to it, giving ourselves honest space to roleplay can be pretty powerful stuff.
Donzell and I had so much fun shooting this sketch that I turned to him and said, “I want to write a series of bizarre and inappropriate situations that our characters are faced with and have to overcome.” I created #TMI: A series that’s like the beautiful queer love child of a throuple including Noah’s Arc, Insecure and Sex in the City.
An exploration of how this cartoonist came into her bisexuality by seeing her desires made manifest in others’ art and decided to make herself seen through her own art.
“I know we don’t ever get to stop thinking entirely about the annoying issues we have to keep re-litigating over and over, but I do want us to get to move the conversation forward. And I want us to be able to have it on our terms – not as a reaction, not as a defense or a justification, but a conversation amongst ourselves about ourselves that lets us connect with and affirm each other.”
Stigma isn’t easy to overcome this. To a large extent, we can’t do it alone: we are social creatures, and we depend on developing and maintaining relationships with each other in order to survive. But it is possible.