Sunday Funday Is Gay and Out and Very Happy

Happy Sunday Funday! This week was important because National Coming Out Day happened, and boy was the world a gay place.

Seriously y’all – I have gay people conventions, super-cute gay marriages, a bunch of people saying, “I’m gay” on camera and to concert audiences, and even the Harvard Wrestling Team talking about how cool being gay is. Right here, right now. It’s Sunday Funday. Put on your military boots and be ready for some rainbows.

Gay People in the Military Find Community, Go to Vegas

DADT’s repeal has made life as a gay soldier / student in military school / person a lot nicer. For gay people who have just discovered a life of being out at work or at school, it’s certainly an amazing legal victory. And it’s creating more community and changing life for people from all different parts of military life:

+ On Friday, over 200 military gays came together for the first-ever convention for active-duty gays and lesbians. It was – where else? – in Las Vegas:

“I love the military,” said [Kristy] Wolfmayer, 27, of Bridgewater, N.J., a pharmacy specialist. “I love serving my country, and I love the fact that you can do that no matter who you love.

+ Gay military students at Norwich are finally out of the closet and in the meeting room:

At the inaugural meeting of Norwich University’s post-“don’t ask, don’t tell”-era LGBTQ Allies Club, Josh Fontanez raised the blinds in the student union’s fishbowl-style room. He was sending a message: we’re here, we’re visible, we’re active and we’d welcome your company. 

Harvard Wrestling Team Goes Gay

On National Coming Out Day I updated my status about being a lesbian and commented on a post on Autostraddle with my feelings. But the Harvard Varsity Wrestling team topped my efforts at expanding equality that day. The entire team wore LGBTQ friendly shirts and pins instead of their uniforms on Tuesday:

“Sometimes it’s difficult to be very vocal as an ally,” said Harvard College Queer Students and Allies copresident Emma Wang, “We want them to feel included because they play such an important role.”

North Wales’ Police Respect the (Pride) Flag

Police are hoping rainbow stickers placed on the window of every police station desk in North Wales will make LGBT people in that community feel “less apprehensive” about resporting crime to the police, especially homophobia-related crimes.

The rainbow is, of course, being selected as a “recognised symbol of acceptance.” In other words the gayest thing ever.

A Marriage After 52 Years

These will never get old: with the coming of gay marriage in fits and starts, there also comes the deservingly adorable love stories:

In his Syracuse house on a recent afternoon, he pulled the book from 1959 out of his basement. He was 39. Marvin flips to April 22. Halfway down the page, amid details about his travels, is this: met Ernst Schuh. It was a meeting that would change his life. […]

They have been together ever since. Now, 52 years later, the music lovers with matching hearing aids are getting married.

DIY Project: Got a T Shirt?

I once took all of my really boring, got-these-for-free-at-new-student-orientation tees and cut them into super-gay looking tank tops. But unless you’ve cut all of yours into crop tops, too, chances are you could use a new pillow and you have a t-shirt that, look!, can easily be one:

Craft via Jezebel.

Coming Out on MTV: 10 Years Later

Joel Relampagos wanted to come out to his family – and then he found a casting call for MTV’s “True Life: I’m Coming Out.”

Call it a sign or call it a fortuitous meeting of life milestones and reality TV. Either way, it happened – both on MTV’s accord and his own:

Not long afterward did the crew fly back to New York.  I remember feeling so disappointed, especially since I didn’t want MTV to put text on the screen that read, “Joel tried to come out to his mom but was unable to.” So I took matters into my own hands. I grabbed my home video camera, set it on the dinner table and hit “record.”  At that table my mother and I had our most honest conversation ever.  

“When did you realize you were like that?” she asked. “I mean, your kind.”  

“What’s my kind?” I responded. 

My mother at this point grew angry and said, “You know what I’m talking about.  You’re afraid to say it.”  

“I’m not afraid to say it.  I’m gay.  I’m gay.  I’m gay and I’m happy to be gay.”

Ricky Martin Speaks Out

Religious leaders in Honduras tried to stop Ricky Martin from coming to Nicaragua, and didn’t succeed. So he confronted their opinions on his lifestyle at his concert there:

“Yes, I am a gay man, and I’m looking for my rights,” the 39-year-old Martin told reporters on Friday, Mexican news agency Notimex reported.

Although, “there are two or three people who are uncomfortable by my nature, I have no control over how they feel. I simply want to live in peace and continue singing,” he added.


HBO Planning A Lesbian Drama

The Kids Are All Right – yes, the lesbian moms film – is coming to HBO as an hour-long weekly drama series.

Celebs Work to End Gay Bullying

GLAAD and the American Federation Teachers are working to promote the Amplify Your Voice campaign, an effort to stop gay bullying – and they’re bringing on the celebrities.

Chaz Bono, Amy Poehler, and the Shaq – GUYS THE SHAQ – are all featured in PSA’s for the project. They feature the slogan “No matter who you are, you have the power to make a difference.”

EvOn is Revolutionary

EvOn is a rapper performing at this year’s GFEST – London’s “LGBTQ art fest for all.” And she has a lot of gay feelings about it:

Q: How do you see your own music ?

A: I see my music as a way to relate to others in the lgbt community through personal emotions and beliefs. […]

Q: How would you like yourself or your work to be known?

A: I’d like myself and my music to be revolutionary.

No, seriously.

Little Pig, Big City

You ain’t never seen a pig this cute. And to think – she lives in New York City!

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Carmen spent six years at Autostraddle, ultimately serving as Straddleverse Director, Feminism Editor and Social Media Co-Director. She is now the Consulting Digital Editor at Ms. and writes regularly for DAME, the Women’s Media Center, the National Women’s History Museum and other prominent feminist platforms; her work has also been published in print and online by outlets like BuzzFeed, Bitch, Bust, CityLab, ElixHER, Feministing, Feminist Formations, GirlBoss, GrokNation, MEL, Mic and SIGNS, and she is a co-founder of Argot Magazine. You can find Carmen on Twitter, Instagram and Tumblr or in the drive-thru line at the nearest In-N-Out.

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  1. Are those two soldiers together? If so they are a cute couple. Thanks to Harvard Varsity Wrestling team – that is what being an ally is all about! Congratulations to Marvin and Ernst.

    Not sure how to feel about The Kids Are All Right being a tv series. Will Jules have sex with a different guy each week and then reconcile by the end leaving straight audiences comfortable? Maybe Cholodenko could focus on making the rare movie where a same sex female couple is presented on screen without one of the women sleeping with a guy.

  2. I love it when things go queer, it just makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside!!! I had an awesome time last night at the Queer Youth Awards hosted by Outright Vermont, which is one of the only queer youth focused organizations in the entire country. It was night celebrating a bunch of awesome youth in the community who have done amazing things to share our causes with the state and the country.

    And although it’s next weekend I can’t wait for the Translating Identities Conference which is going to be trans-tastic!!!

  3. That article on the two old men was from my local paper, and is easily the best thing they’ve published in years. Then again, there isn’t a lot of competition. Last month, the big front page story was about the mysterious origin of Thousand Island Dressing. I WISH I WAS KIDDING.

  4. This makes me happy but in a bittersweet kind of way, since right now I’m living in a super conservative country and I can’t be out, like, at all. So all of these happy coming out-related things make me excited for the day when I can go back to California and lez it up.

    also that pig is too adorable for words.

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