Sunday Funday Is a Resilient Handyma’am

Happy Sunday friends! I changed my computer’s desktop background this week, and now I get to look at a rotation of pictures of my cats in the most ridiculous poses and honestly, best decision ever. Have you done something cute and nice for yourself in the past week? You should! Also, it feels like we’re all finally toes deep into fall. I haven’t used my AC in over a week, and it’s been a brisk 60º every morning on the first floor of my apartment. I love it. I feel alive. I hope you too feel alive, and if not, this week’s news is gonna perk you right on up!


??Breaking #GayleyKiyoko News??

+ From Special Hayley Kiyoko Correspondent Mey Rude

#GayleyKiyokoWeek ends with the release of Hayley Kiyoko’s new song and video for the decadently gay fall anthem “Feelings.” Kiyoko directed the clip herself, just like for “Sleepover,” and once again she directed herself opposite a beautiful woman. It’s almost like Kiyoko likes girls or something. While she’s singing “sorry that I care, care, it’s really not that fair” she’s dancing and flirting with Desi, played by Alexandra Rodriguez, through the streets at night. It’s a beautiful neon-lit noir lesbian dreamland. Hayley Kiyoko knows that there’s no time to be coy anymore, singing “I over communicate and feel too much, I just complicate it when I say too much, I laugh about it, dream about that casual touch, sex is fire sick and tired of acting all tough. I’m hooked on all these feelings.” Me too, Hayley, me too. This is the earnest full of feelings anthem for every queer out there who follows their heart. It’s a perfect salve for everyone who’s felt like they’ve had to become extra hard and tough since the election. Princess of the Gays Hayley Kiyoko is coming through once more to remind us that being soft and gay and full of feelings is good and strong and right. Thank you Hayley.


Hardworking Ladies

+ The Handyma’am is a new coverall designed for “women who own their work and their style” and I want one for every day of the week! They’ve got a little under a month left to raise the rest of their funds, help them outfit the lady mechanics in your life!

+ REI hosted the first ever LGBTQ Outdoor Summit. Honestly, everything cool happens in the PNW and I’m kinda jealous.

+ Sally Ride is the first lesbian Lego as part of the Women in NASA Lego kit. Nice.

The Women of NASA set was dreamed up by science writer Maia Weinstock, and garnered more than 10,000 votes on the Lego Ideas site, earning it automatic consideration by the company. Along with Ride, it includes tiny representations of NASA astronomer Nancy Grace Roman, computer scientist Margaret Hamilton, and astronaut Mae Jemison, the first black woman in space. (An earlier version of the set also included Katherine Johnson, the black NASA mathematician featured in the 2016 film Hidden Figures, but Lego was unable able to obtain the necessary approvals to turn her into a figurine.)


Queer Culture

+ Lesbian filmmaker Nicole Conn, of Elena Undone and Claire of the Moon fame, will direct a new movie, Nesting Doll. Her feelings? “I always say I’m the luckiest lesbian alive!”

The Resilience Anthology is “the largest literary collection of transgender women and AMAB non-binary writers” going to print very soon!

+ “Created by a Black queer woman named Briana Lawrencemagnifique Noir is the latest example of Black female and femme creators applying the magical girl genre to the concept of #BlackGirlMagic.


Sunday Services

Amber Cantorna, the daughter of an executive at Focus on the Family, has come out as a lesbian in a new memoir.

Encircle LGBTQ Family and Youth Resource Center in downtown Provo, Utah

+ Stephanie Larsen, a straight Mormon mom, opened an LGBT youth center in Provo, Utah.

We believe that if we can help the family work through when their child comes out as gay, lesbian or transgender, then they can become an affirming family and support this child on their journey. We hope that through the process, we will help change our community. We believe better conversations at Encircle lead to better conversations in the home, churches, schools, neighborhoods.

Our church, the Mormon church, is extremely important in Provo and affects everyone’s life. So instead of pushing against the community, we’re trying to bring the community in and trying to work in their values to help them better understand and love LGBTQ people.

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Ari is a 20-something artist and educator. They are a mom to two cats, they love domesticity, ritual, and porch time. They have studied, loved, and learned in CT, Greensboro, NC, and ATX.

Ari has written 324 articles for us.

16 Comments

  1. Looks like Legos are back on the holiday wishlist! (but let’s be real, were they ever NOT)

    And maybe it’s just living in Utah that’s made me bitter about this very specific subject, but I am so fucking tired of Straight Mormon Moms and Their Gay Sons being the entire LDS/LGBT Conversation.

  2. “Veteran lesbian filmmaker, Nicole Conn has announced the cast of her latest endeavor, “Nesting Doll” a story about three broken women whose lives intersect at a lakeside community and who are forever changed through their shared love of a boy with special needs.”

    WHAT? HOW? WHY?

    Did Nicole Conn sign a deal with the devil promising to produce sketchy 90s-style lesbian film scripts until the end of time? How is this happening in a post-Carol world?

  3. That article on reconciling Catholic and queer identities reminded me of some readings I did in a Christian women and spirituality class which BLEW MY DAMN MIND. If y’all want a little light reading this Sunday on feminist spirituality, let me recommend this article by Sr. Sandra M. Schneiders, from the anthology Women’s Spirituality: Resources for Christian Development. Caveat: I’m no theological scholar. But here’s a taste:

    Catherina Halkes is probably correct in locating the origin of feminist spirituality not in religion or even in the critique of religion but in the realization by feminists that women’s estrangement and oppression are fueled not primarily by sex role polarization but by the dichotomy between spirit and body, with the former assigned to the male and the latter to the female, which is intrinsic to patriarchy. In other words, male control of female sexuality, as it developed over the centuries, led eventually to the identification of women with their sexual/reproductive function and their consequent identification with the realm of the body which led to their gradual exclusion from the realm of the spirit. This spiritual realm, presided over by the male God who reigns in heaven, was opposed to the realm of nature which was relegated to the once universally powerful but now discredited Mother Goddess, the feminine divinity who was finally dethroned and definitively banished by the triumph of patriarchal monotheism.

    Feminist spirituality is the reclaiming by women of the reality and power designated by the term “spirit” and the effort to reintegrate spirit and body, heaven and earth, culture and nature, eternity and time, public and private, political and personal, in short, all those hierarchized dichotomous dualisms whose root is the split between spirit and body and whose primary incarnation is the split between male and female.

  4. I have stubbornly refused to buy Lego sets because I believe they are extremely overpriced, which meant I never ever got one as a kid and always had to play with my friends’ sets, and even though I always told myself I’d buy one for myself as an adult, I’m still bitter over the loss of Lego enrichment as a child (I blame my total lack of architechtural creativity that causes my anxiety about even attempting to play Minecraft, which is an otherwise amazing-looking game), and so I refuse to participate in such ruthless capitalism/highway robbery that excluded kids like me even though the company will not even slightly feel the impact of me not buying them but it’s the principle of the thing, but by golly I am breaking for the women of NASA set goddamm it.

  5. I have stubbornly refused to buy Lego sets because I believe they are extremely overpriced, which meant I never ever got one as a kid and always had to play with my friends’ sets, and even though I always told myself I’d buy one for myself as an adult, I’m still bitter over the loss of Lego enrichment as a child (of which I blame my total lack of architechtural creativity that causes my anxiety about even attempting to play Minecraft, which is an otherwise amazing-looking game), and so I refuse to participate in such ruthless capitalism/highway robbery that excluded kids like me even though the company will not even slightly feel the impact of me not buying them but it’s the principle of the thing, but by golly I am breaking for the women of NASA set goddamm it.

  6. FEELINGSSSSSS!!! Omg I love her new song and video so much!! Super amazing and omg yes so many feelings and so relatable!! #GayleyKiyokoWeek was the best week on Instagram ever. <3

    Also yes for lesbian Lego!!

    There's just so much great stuff in Sunday Funday today. <3 <3 <3

  7. Loved the article on reconciling Catholic faith and being part of the LGBT community! I am Catholic, an active one at that, and get so much blow back from BOTH sides for the other that it is tough. Finding a decent community is so key.

    For the longest time I was not out at my church, and stayed away from conversations about religious beliefs around my LGBT supportive friends because they couldn’t believe that I loved something so “archaic” among other things.

    I went on this retreat and met some really cool people who were actually living the faith and out in their parishes and knew that that was exactly what I needed to do… not to figure out how to walk both sides of a fence, but help show people that there ISN’T a fence.

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