Quiz: Which Fictional Gay Mom Is Your Daddy?

In their seminal work “Mommi is the New Daddy,” Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Erin Sullivan laid out the definition of the word “Mommi,” and in doing so, first had to address the concept of “Daddy.” They did so like this: “Daddy, we’ve learned, can be for anything. People can be Daddy. Concepts can be Daddy. A large tree you find appealing can be Daddy. Which is why trying to describe exactly what Daddy means becomes complicated. Its definition seems to best reveal itself through context clues, and so maybe it’s easiest to say that Daddy is a feeling.”

In gay male culture, ‘Daddy’ often refers to a hot older man. Does everyone remember when everyone was obsessed with the Dream Daddy video game?

These are all big questions, and I’m not here to answer them. All I can say is that the self-assigned Daddy for my lesbian kickball team generally brings snacks and makes sure everybody is kicking in the right order (you will get penalized if you let players kick outside of the pre-set order) by yelling, “[player], you’re up!!!” at the player who is up. She also maintains the whiteboard where the score and outfield lineup is tracked, which she made herself. On the back of her jersey, it says “Daddy.” This is Culture.

In the past we’ve invited you to find out who your Mommi is. Today I invite you to answer a series of Dad questions to find out which fictional Gay Mom should make sure you know that you’re up next to kick.

Which Fictional Gay Mommi Is Your Daddy?

You know them as a lesbian mom on television, but when you go home at night, they're daddy





















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Riese is the 41-year-old Co-Founder of Autostraddle.com as well as an award-winning writer, video-maker, LGBTQ+ Marketing consultant and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, lost her mind in New York and now lives in Los Angeles. Her work has appeared in nine books, magazines including Marie Claire and Curve, and all over the web including Nylon, Queerty, Nerve, Bitch, Emily Books and Jezebel. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! In 2016, she was nominated for a GLAAD Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism. She's Jewish and has a cute dog named Carol. Follow her on twitter and instagram.

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15 Comments

  1. I was feeling hmm about all the tie-breaker options (like, why not Peggy instead of Helena Peabody?) but then I got Boomer from Battlestar Galactica, and I’m totally on board with a cylon embodying this mommi/daddy concept that still rather mystifies me.

    A win for humanity!

  2. (Pssssst – in The Birdcage Nathan Lane plays Albert, Robin Williams plays Armand)

    Otherwise, excellent, entertaining, and I’m so old I have no idea who the person I got in the quiz is, but I’ll work on that. :)

  3. The brand name is escaping me, but in the Fosters, Lena told a story to one of the kids once about “rising above” by handing out ice cream in response to people being mean to her in high school? I think they were calling her the name of the ice cream for some racist/homophobic reason? Haha anyway, that came to mind when viewing the ice cream options!

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