Playlist: We’re Finally Dating, Everything is Wonderful

I moved into a big wooden house with my friends in August of 2010 and months, weeks, day, hours later it was finally April of 2011. And this really incredible thing was happening:  I was crazy about someone. I made an iTunes playlist called “this is how i feel.” It was a love story in 12 tracks. I listened to it every day on repeat.

I started picking dandelions every day, because she liked dandelions and I could pick them on my way to school, or work, or home. I picked them and left them in a cup in my room. I picked them smoking cigarettes on the side of the road. I picked them all by myself, just me and a love story in 12 tracks. The perfect soundtrack. The perfect weather. The perfect feeling.

It was a really beautiful time to be alive. You know what I mean. Like this:

And I needed 12 tracks to talk about it for me because I was kind of at a loss for words. I was busy picking dandelions.

I want to share this playlist with you because I heard this is how your girlfriend makes you feel, too. Welcome to a beautiful time to be alive. Cherish each second. (I know you already are.)

40 Day Dream – Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros
Debate Exposes Doubt – Death Cab for Cutie
Maps – The Yeah Yeah Yeahs
Bloodbuzz Ohio – The National
Toothpaste Kisses – The Maccabees
Can’t Take My Eyes Off Of You – Lauryn Hill
Knock You Down – Keri Hilson ft. Kanye West and Ne-Yo
Love is Here – Sophie Ellis-Bextor
Please Stay – Summer Heart
Do You Realize? – The Flaming Lips
Five Years Time – Noah & The Whale
At Last – Etta James


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  1. WHAT maps is on both this playlist AND the breakup one? How is that possible? Imma have to check that shit out.

  2. It sounds a little silly, but I really like “Bandaid” by Pixie Lott. It gets me every time. I think it’s the guitar riff at the start, it makes me think of love and love in the shower.

    Also, cheesy, but you gotta love “You and I” and “The Way I Am” by Ingrid Michaelson.

  3. This playlist describes how I’ve been feeling the past few days perfectly :) Things are definitely going well in life right now

  4. This playlist kind of makes me ill. I am in a new relationship and would only pick one or two of these songs. Of course if it makes you happy, more power to you!

  5. I’m listening to my “D loves F” playlist right now… it’s a lot longer than 12 tracks though! Falling in love and being in love are basically the best feelings ever.

  6. 40 day dream is my absolute favourite, definitly guilty of listening to that one on repeat for ridiculous amounts f time. Also “Carries On” by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros and “I Want You” by The Tallest Man on Earth (Bob Dylan cover)would be perfect for this.

  7. Bright Eyes -First Day Of My Life
    Plain white t’s -1 2 3 4
    Ingrid Michaelson-The Way I Am
    Cafe tacuba- las flores
    Fobia- el microbito
    Jose Gonzalez – Heartbeats
    Shakira-dia de enero
    No Doubt – Underneath It All

  8. You’re My Favourite Book- Stars
    Transatlanticism- Death Cab For Cutie
    Keep Me Warm- Ida Maria
    Happiness Writes White- Harvey Danger

  9. Nice playlist! :D I understand how you feel when you simply can’t put into words all those beautiful, gushing feelings when you’re in love *koffkoff*

    Here There and Everywhere by The Beatles ruined all love songs for me. :)

  10. Do You Realize?-The Flaming Lips is perfect….and thank you for the 500 Days of Summer dance number!! Cheers me up everytime! ;)

  11. I’m not a huge Colbie Callait fan but I’ve been skipping around singing “Brighter Than The Sun” for weeks now. Yes, weeks.

  12. Heart Skipped a Beat – The xx
    Always Where I Need to Be – The Kooks
    In the End – Ida Maria
    You Are The One – Matt Hires
    The Girl – City and Colour
    What I Need – Allison Weiss

  13. when i get up – tegan and sara
    miss independent – ne-yo
    if this isn’t love – jennifer hudson
    what makes you beautiful – one direction
    daisuki da yo – ai otsuka (it’s japanese…basically translates to ‘i love you’)
    of course right now i don’t exactly like all of these songs because i have a crush and i think it’s mutual but i’m too much in an uber-insecure/depressed state to do anything about it :/

  14. carmen,

    thank you for this playlist. it’s been a bright dope ray of sunshine in my grey little world. i’ve been listening to it all day with a smile on my face. loveyouloveyou and your taste in happy love music.


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