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Relationships

‘I Want To Flee My Relationship’

“Today, I was talking to a dear friend about the current state of my relationship. They told me that it sounds like I am trapped, and that I am being controlled. Worst of all, they said that my long-term partner ‘basically owns’ me.”

Summer Tao April 15, 2025 7 Comments
TV Show Recaps

‘The Last of Us’ Episode 201 Recap: Brand New Day

The Last of Us is back with new queers, new threats, and more angst than ever.

Valerie Anne and Nic
April 14, 2025 8 Comments
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TV Reviews

The Return of ‘Hacks’ Is Brutally Funny — and Straight Up Brutal

The girls are fighting, and it’s more intense than ever.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya April 14, 2025
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TV Reviews

‘Black Mirror’ Isn’t Worth Its Issa Rae/Emma Corrin Romance

It’s fun to see Issa Rae in a suit. It’s fun to see Emma Corrin put on the cadence of classic cinema. It’s fun to watch them kiss. But are lesbian audiences really that easy? Are we so vapid to celebrate these aesthetic pleasures without asking for more?

Drew Burnett Gregory April 14, 2025 13 Comments
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Quizzes

Quiz: What Lesbian Body of Water Are You?

Let’s be real: All bodies of water are a little bit lesbian.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya April 13, 2025 15 Comments
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Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

What Does the Libra Full Moon Mean for Your Sign?

This Full Moon in Libra is beckoning us towards a re-evaluation of balance. Where are you noticing excess? Where are you noticing deficiency?

G Weaver April 12, 2025 9 Comments
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TV Show Recaps

‘RuPaul’s Drag Race’ Episode 1715 Recap: Suzie With a Z

Rudemptions! Ruveals! Rulying on gimmicks! It’s time for another Lipsync Lalaparuza.

Drew Burnett Gregory April 12, 2025 3 Comments
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AF+ TV Feature

Dykes Discuss Apple TV’s ‘The Studio’

Two dykes discuss Apple TV+’s The Studio, their shared love of Seth Rogen, Chase Sui Wonders on Genera+ion, KATHRYN HAHN, and why Apple is anti-cigarette.

Drew Burnett Gregory and Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya
April 11, 2025 5 Comments
TV Show Recaps

Yellowjackets Episode 310 Recap: Pit Girl, Antler Queen, and Everything In Between

The season three finale reveals who Pit Girl is, who the Antler Queen is, and who killed Lottie.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya April 11, 2025 41 Comments
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AF+

HELP! I’m Trapped in a Fartless Relationship!

Nearly two years of cohabitation and you still haven’t farted around each other?! Also, a reader’s gf might be exhibiting (and triggering) some disordered eating habits.

the team April 11, 2025 3 Comments
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TV Reviews

The Queer Romance on ‘Love on the Spectrum’ Was Worth the Wait

The conversations Pari and Tina have about autism, masking, queerness, and their choices to be themselves in spite of pushback are some of the most poignant in the show.

Nico April 11, 2025 7 Comments
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AF+

Are You Coming to Our ‘Yellowjackets’ Season Finale Virtual Watch Party Tonight?!

Yellowjackets is best watched in a hive, so won’t you join me?!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya April 11, 2025 6 Comments
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TV Feature

Liv Hewson On Collaborating With Lauren Ambrose, Cannibalism and Van’s Queerness: The Autostraddle Interview

“When I imagine Van pre-crash, I imagine somebody who’s getting called a dyke in the hallway and going, ‘Yep. Yes, I am. Yes, sir.'”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya April 10, 2025 5 Comments
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Politics + Activism

How Three Anti-Trans Bills Were Struck Down in Montana

In a rare move, Republican legislators broke party lines to strike down the bills, following floor speeches from Zooey Zephyr and SJ Howell.

Stef Rubino April 10, 2025 5 Comments
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AF+ Movie Features

Out the Movies: Is Gay Sex a Radical Act?

Bruce LaBruce aims to rewrite a classic Pasolini film, but has queer sex lost its bite in this new context?

Drew Burnett Gregory April 10, 2025 2 Comments
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Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)

No Filter: Abbi Jacobson and Ilana Glazer Are Still Out Here Supporting Each Other’s Art

And I’m EMOTIONAL about it. Plus, hot pics from the Hacks premiere party and more queer celeb happenings!

Christina Tucker April 9, 2025 4 Comments
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Identity

Arab Lesbianism Is Not an Oxymoron

The invention of homophobia is an inherently Western, colonialist ideal that was forced upon the SWANA world.

Noor Aldayeh April 9, 2025 5 Comments
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Book Features

How Podcasters Kristin Russo and Jenny Owen Youngs Navigated Their Big Divorce Announcement

Read an exclusive excerpt about Kristin and Jenny’s divorce, followed by a clip from the audiobook.

Kristin April 9, 2025 3 Comments
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LGBT Book Reviews

From Wives to Exes to Friends: ‘Slayers, Every One of Us’ Tells the Tale of Two Queer Podcasters and Buffy

The joint memoir tells the emotional tale of Kristin Russo and Jenny Owen Youngs fighting to keep their labor of love alive through personal struggles, a global pandemic, and a hellmouth opening up around them.

Valerie Anne April 9, 2025
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Lesbian Sex

‘I Am Nervous About Having Sex With My Trans Girlfriend for the First Time’

I would love some insights from other trans women on what to expect when having sex with a trans woman, because I really want her to have a good time and feel comfortable despite my nerves.

Summer Tao April 8, 2025 1 Comment
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