Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: How Do I Flirt When I’m Worried About Coming On Too Strong
I’m black and masculine so I’m worried that if I tried to make a move it would come off too strong, which I know I really shouldn’t but we live in a world.
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You Need Help: My Crush Is Dating Someone Else and I Feel Very Jealous
You don’t always get the girl, and that’s okay.
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You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?
You can’t control other people’s reactions to your coming out. But you can create for yourself a network of people who unequivocally support your bisexuality/queerness and who understand the specific joys and challenges we face.
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You Need Help: I’m In Love With My Straight Best Friend
There will come a time when you see someone at the grocery store or in class and think “oh wow, they’re cute!” And then you’ll know: the hard work has paid off.
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You Need Help: How Can I Deal With My Own Sexual Shame?
I want you to know that your shame is not uncommon and you’re not alone in feeling it. While it does take a long time to undo, you’re on the right track by acknowledging it verbally.
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You Need Help: I Feel Like I’m My Girlfriend’s Second Choice
I want you to start 2023 feeling like your own number-one pick. That way, when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready and confident to be her number-one pick, too.
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend Has No Queer Friends, Is That a Problem?
This is very clearly your problem, not your girlfriend’s problem, and resolving it will be your work, not hers.
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You Need Help: I’m a 16 Year-old Lesbian Asking ‘What Is Love?’
“How do I get myself to understand what love can really be, after the initial sparks fade?”
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You Need Help: My Ex Got Mad That I Didn’t Want To Have Sex, Now I Can’t Trust Anyone
I have to start by getting this out: “Fuck your ex. FUCK THEM.” You are not to blame.
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You Need Help: I’ve Matched With the Same Person Three Times on Tinder
We started chatting, and it was going well until she abruptly stopped replying.
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You Need Help: Do I Owe a Girl From My Past an Apology in the Present?
Treat people better than you did in your early twenties, and eventually you’ll realize that you have nothing to feel guilty about anymore.
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You Need Help: You’re New to the Queer Dating Scene, Do You Need to Change Yourself?
One person is worried being femme and bi will stop her from dating. Another is worried being fat and having no experience will. Good news! None of that will stop you!
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You Need Help: Should My Relationship Really Be This Hard?
Moving through your relationship as carefully as you currently are is going to be unsustainable in the long-term. Your partner is enacting a sustained pattern of behavior that needs to stop.
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You Need Help: I’m a Trans Woman Looking For Affirming Lesbian Content
The point is this: it sucks that we still have to struggle with inclusion in lesbian community, your feelings are valid, and I hope you’ll be OK whether or not you can find enough trans lesbian-specific content online. Now, with all of that bluster out of the way, here are some recommendations.
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How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?
The lack of sex that resulted from our wildly differing needs has had a lasting impact.
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend is So Annoying, Should I Break Up With Her?
Your feelings about her are a great big neon sign spelling out the word B R E A K U P.
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You Need Help: I Keep Getting Yeast Infections When I Receive Oral Sex
I’m obsessive about the way I treat my vagina. Is this kind of annoying? Honestly, yes. Is it more annoying to get a yeast infection? Also yes.
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You Need Help: I Can’t Get My Exes Out of My Head
We don’t need to be friends with our exes. One more time for emphasis. We don’t need to be friends with our exes.
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You Need Help: I Just Turned 65 and I’m Questioning My Sexuality
I think everyone in the queer community knows this but I think we need to say it more explicitly and more often: Queerness is a journey.
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You Need Help: How Can I Learn To Enjoy Gay Clubs?
Try to let go of the need for perfection on the space and on yourself. Instead let that bliss find you whenever it’s meant to find you.