Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: I Live With My Partner and Their Ex-Girlfriend and It’s Getting Hard
“I’m a lesbian in my early twenties and I have been in a relationship with my enby partner for a year and a half. We share a flat with several other (queer) people in Copenhagen, one of whom is my partner’s ex-girlfriend.”
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You Need Help: Am I Her Best Friend or Am I Being Emotionally Manipulated?
It’s possible your needs and views when it comes to intimacy are incompatible.
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You Need Help: Am I Still Into Non-Monogamy or Not Really?
How do I navigate not knowing for sure whether monogamy or non-monogamy is for me? And how do I communicate that to my partner and my sexy friends?
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You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?
Our present selves can’t make promises for our future selves. Your partner is telling you what she knows about herself today. Is that enough?
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Heart Whisperer: How I Found My Way to a Love That’s Lasted 45 Years
In the autumn of 1977, I met the partner of my dreams, and we’ve been sailing through life together ever since.
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How Polyamory Pushed Me to Prioritize My Pelvic Health
Communicating openly about sex and pelvic health with my partners helps me advocate for myself in medical settings.
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You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Really Attracted to My Partner?
Humans can sometimes be unreliable narrators of our own lives.
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You Need Help: My Trauma is Activated When My Partner Masturbates to Porn
Your feelings are deeply understandable, even though your partner isn’t doing anything wrong. If you haven’t already, it’s time to seek trauma therapy.
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You Need Help: I Feel Like I’m My Girlfriend’s Second Choice
I want you to start 2023 feeling like your own number-one pick. That way, when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready and confident to be her number-one pick, too.
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Dykes on Dates: Parents Weekend
We went on a bunch of double dates with my parents, and it made me realize our relationships are more similar than I thought.
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend Has No Queer Friends, Is That a Problem?
This is very clearly your problem, not your girlfriend’s problem, and resolving it will be your work, not hers.
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You Need Help: Should My Relationship Really Be This Hard?
Moving through your relationship as carefully as you currently are is going to be unsustainable in the long-term. Your partner is enacting a sustained pattern of behavior that needs to stop.
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What The Pandemic Taught Me About Healthy Queer Love
To live out a love that is healthy, queer, non-mongamous has been a source of deep personal transformation.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Can I Make My Primary Partner Have More Fun?
Stop trying to make your vanilla partner more kinky!
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You Need Help: How Do I Be a Good Partner to My Trans Girlfriend?
Being too eager or too worried about saying the right thing can be just as alienating as disapproval.
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Asking My Fiancée Questions I Don’t Know the Answers to a Month Before Our Wedding
“Have you ever called someone the wrong name during sex?”
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You Need Help: Trusting Yourself After Leaving an Abusive Relationship
The first thing I want to say is that I’m so sorry you had this experience with someone you loved, who you trusted. You deserve to be treated with respect and honor and grace. Remember that when you feel yourself doubting your heart and mind in the future.
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You Need Help: What If My Mom Hates My Girlfriend?
Of course you’re being thoughtful about if, when and how you’ll introduce your girlfriend to your family — given your mom’s previous actions, there’s a chance she won’t grant you and your girlfriend the respect your relationship deserves.
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Is It My Partner’s Mental Illness Affecting Our Relationship – Or Abuse?
If you feel like a relationship is taking you away from yourself, if it’s making you sad and anxious, if it makes you doubt yourself… that information is more important than any diagnosis ever could be. Your first and most important relationship is the one you have with yourself, and your diagnostic criteria for staying or going is whether you are acting in integrity with yourself.
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So You Wanna Have Sex With Me And My 3 Medical Devices?
Being self-conscious was my entire personality back then, wondering who around me might find me unattractive and why. The port under my skin felt like an obvious answer.