We’re getting ready for Coming Out Day. “I also passive aggressively came out to my parents by posting a Facebook status on National Coming Out Day sixish years ago? They both liked it….and then we didn’t really talk about it? I introduced them to my then girlfriend about eight months later? I guess I technically passive aggressively came out to a lot of people in that Facebook post…”
“So many people come to the table with preconceived notions about bisexuality — namely that it excludes trans, non-binary and gender non-conforming folks — and if I was out in the world, identifying solely as bisexual, was I coloring how people saw me? Did my definition of bisexuality matter outside my comfort zone?”
Your mom is making this about herself, and it’s not fair to you.
The first draft of The Ship We Built was intended as a valentine for one person. Six and a half years later, The Ship We Built has been released as a novel with Penguin Random House and continues to be a valentine – now for anybody who picks it up.
I’m happy and grateful to be out, but I can’t get past feeling like I have created pain and difficulty for so many people.
I’m not coming out to you as a lesbian, umma, I’m coming out as your daughter. I’m tired of being a stranger to you and I’m tired of tripping over boxes in my living room because you’re incapable of just being vulnerable with me.
Your annual report on how much closer we are to finding out that everyone is gay!
Closets suck, generally speaking, but sitting in mine gave me joy. This is a coming out story that doesn’t neatly fit in the queer community, much less my own mind.
“When I asked my friends from high school if they remembered me ever mentioning my records, most of them had no idea. Just as most of them had no inkling of my queerness before I finally came out.”
We’ve got tips, personal essays (the bad and the good), roundtables, advice, and everything you need to come out as a lesbian, bisexual, queer, trans or whatever YOUR TRUTH may be.
Celebrate National Coming Out Day by taking this trivia quiz! You might even learn a little something.
Here’s to the lesbian, bisexual, non-binary, queer, trans and free-ass-motherfucker celebrities who opened the closet door a little wider when they walked out of it.
I feel the need to do something to the outside of my body to mark the tremendous shift I’ve experienced inside — to somehow match my inner self to my outer self. But I’m not sure who my inner self is anymore.
“I feel like I’m lying to my my parents, hiding part of myself, and disrespecting my girlfriend by constantly avoiding mentioning her or referring to her as my friend when my parents ask what’s going on in my life. Of course, I know coming out can be difficult in general, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for coming out in the context of a toxic family relationship? How can I best protect myself from the inevitable insults, yelling, and criticism while still being honest?”
Rosa’s full coming out on Brooklyn Nine-Nine is rocky and bittersweet, incorporating uniquely bisexual experiences to cement itself as a uniquely historic TV moment.
Checking on your ex, being honest with coworkers, being honest with everyone including yourself, and pulling yourself out of a year-long sad thing! Come help give advice!!
I was a newly minted queer and everything I knew about queerness was rooted in coming out. I’d heard about the relief that came with coming out from everybody. If TV was to be believed, I would feel free even as my parents stopped looking me in the eye.
I wonder why the story of a bisexual teenage boy is the one that allowed me to explicitly consider my identity as a bisexual adult woman for the first time.
“There aren’t as many hairy, feminist lesbians as I was led to believe.”
Should you come out in high school or let them hear about it out later? Can you date a person with a kid if you don’t want kids? How do you take it slow with all these mixed signals?? Let’s find out!