Oh Hey! It’s Alyssa #23: Can I?

“Oh Hey! It’s Alyssa” is a biweekly webcomic by Alyssa

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A. Andrews

Alyssa is a totally complete incomplete paraplegic and thirty-something hanky-in-the-pocket cartoonist weirdo! They spent the majority of their young life sketching in hospitals, and experienced their first heartbreak at age 8 during game 6 of the '96 NBA championships.

A. has written 1 article for us.


  1. Omg yesssssss. The hottest. I’ve had several times lately with a new partner where things are steaming up and I’ll ask, ‘what do you like?’ and they’ll be noncommittal, usually ‘I never know how to answer that.’ And I know on the spot that they won’t ask me the same question, and will just try what they expect me to like and not really take feedback or watch how I respond to it. And my body is complicated and recovering from surgery right now, so if we aren’t communicating it probably won’t be all that good.

    So yeah, asking me what I want is pretty much the hottest. That and ‘take your time.’

    Also your comics are beautiful. So. Thanks for sharing them (and yourself) with us – I get super excited whenever a new one posts.

  2. But if either/both/all parties are as aspie as me, def make the questions/responses clear & verbal.

    This is so hot :) great way to break my abstinence period (I’m not sex negative, I just find that if I don’t do all my work before thinking about sex then I don’t get things done and I’ve had a busy week)

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