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Golden Curlz and Vivienne Vai in Crash Pad Series episode 273
Morning masturbation can be great for anxiety:
“Masturbation allows me to completely empty my mind. I focus purely on the pleasure and sensation of what I’m doing. For a few minutes, there’s nothing else that requires my attention: no bills to pay, no deadlines to meet, no worries about the future.
Sure, I might occasionally need a little help in the form of toys, porn, or a partner whispering dirty secrets into my ear, but generally I’m only thinking about reaching my orgasm.
After an orgasm, I am also much calmer, and I’ve found that it’s actually a fantastic way to stimulate the brain. In the state of bliss that follows, I have come up with some of my best ideas.”
Erykah Ohms and Tina Horn in Crash Pad Series episode 262
“Within the realms of fashion and beauty, a shift towards diversity in casting means that representation of varied bodies and multiple ethnicities is gradually improving. Within the worlds of dating and sex however, things are more staid; no matter how progressive we seem to be getting as a culture in the way that we view beauty, when it comes to individual desire we are often judgemental and discriminatory,” writes Amelia Abraham at Dazed.
Single, childless women are the happiest and live the longest.
Dating in a new city when it translates to saying yes to new social experiences can be a way to get to know your new home.
Being single is more expensive.
Here’s how to have a summer fling if you want one. Even though some summer flings suck.
What might be going on if you feel inadequate around your partner?
Akira Raine and Valentine in Crash Pad Series Episode 126
Surveillance of women’s bodies has gone to a new low with amateur facial recognition applied to porn and cross-referenced with social media used to allegedly identify over 100,000 porn stars. Some asshole whose name I will not publish has allegedly compiled a database that is, essentially, algorithmic harassment:
“Just as we saw with deepfakes, which used AI to swap the faces of female celebrities onto the bodies of porn performers, the use of machine learning to control and extort women’s bodily autonomy demonstrates deep misogyny. It’s a threat that didn’t begin with deepfakes, but certainly reached a public sphere with that technology—although in the years since, women have been left behindin the mainstream narrative, which has focused on the technology’s possible use for disinformation.
Danielle Citron, a professor of law at the University of Maryland who’s studied the aftermath of deepfakes, also tweeted about this new claim on [redacted]. “This is a painfully bad idea—surveillance and control of women’s bodies taken to new low,” she wrote.”
Daisy Ducati and Ella Nova in Crash Pad Series episode 186
Sex toy wiretapping is a thing now:
“Like many Bluetooth-enabled sex tech devices, Lush can be connected via Bluetooth, through the company’s proprietary Body Chat app. This enables users to control their own, or their partner’s, sensations—or pair two of the vibrators together.
The lawsuit claims that Hytto has been surreptitiously monitoring a wide range of their users’ personal data, such as time and date of the device being used, the intensity and frequency, and then storing the data on their servers—all without informing their customers that they were doing so.”
The refinery single and childless article seems geared more to folks in cis straight relationships. No complaints just realized after I read it and damn that’s sad and not surprising
Question – is there a thing where butches can be dommes and top? I’m bi (I like women and ‘twink’ type men), is that something which can happen in hetero relationships as well as lesbian ones? I’m feeling like I really want to do this but most dominatrixes I see online are in heels and makeup which is really not my aesthetic. I asked a former boyfriend about it and he laughed at me and I’ve never seen it in porn.
This is all theoretical though, I’m not really in a good mental state to be having sex right now.
That anxiety article gave me a sense of relief in a way as I masturbate and think about stressful things in my life. I was worrying I was getting off to my own pain and not in a healthy masochistic fun way but in an unhealthy way.
The porn one is misogynistic bs. I’m guessing these creeps aren’t doing it to male sex workers so ‘both sides of the marriage’ indeed. Let people have their own relationships and deal with things in their own way and butt out, for all he knows these women are single or in poly relationships or have husbands and boyfriends who are ok with it anyway.
Butches can totally be domme tops. I mean, anybody can be anything, and straight men’s /ex boyfriends’ imaginations should be no limit to anyone. And you might’ve noticed, we butches are underrepresented or absent just about everywhere.
For some suuuper strong dominant butch energy, allow me to recommend sugarbutch.net :D
Domme-ing and topping is not about the costume. I have Domme’d in sweat pants. ;)
I’ve seen butch domme material on tumblr. Might be a bit harder to find now, but it’s still there.
“I’m feeling like I really want to do this but most dominatrixes I see online are in heels and makeup which is really not my aesthetic. I asked a former boyfriend about it and he laughed at me and I’ve never seen it in porn.”
Do it. (When you’re ready of course.)
I’ve met a fair number of butch tops in real life. Aside from women who love women (which, naturally there are an adequate supply of lesbian tops), many are AFAB who *tend* to identify near the nonbinary or genderfluid space but cultivate a lot of masculine energy even when they fully identify as female. There’s not *great* representation for butch-leaning, female-or-fluid-identifying, straight-aligned people in the mainstream but it’s *definitely* a thing. That you’re bi and have the attractions that you do would suggest you’d find yourself in good company.
For porn, you’d find more of this in queer porn – I don’t know why there isn’t much in straight cis porn except that ultimately people produce what they think they can sell so they make the most commoditized boring porn imaginable. I have a friend who’s a lifestyle and pro domme and occasional film performer – she can certainly glam up really nicely but she’s a bit of an Amazon as well, so there’s a strong choke you and step on you and wrestle-you-to-the-ground edge to her that isn’t what they’re usually making “Straight CIS Pretty Porn” from, so her onscreen performances are aimed at much less mainstream audiences.
https://hellogiggles.com/news/childless-unmarried-women-happy/
Same article on being single and happy with the mention of lgbtq folk
That porn star surveillance/recognition, I mean why? Apart from “They’re women, we own them.”