NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Interrogating Fantasy For Authenticity

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Erykah Ohms and Tina Horn

Erykah Ohms and Tina Horn in Crash Pad Series episode 262

How do we discuss, teach, and understand sex? In an interview with Electric Literature, Tracy Clark-Flory talks about her new book Want Me, being horny on main, normative sexual culture and more:

“I don’t think that there is a pre-cultural self. We’re all the result of cultural and social influence, and our sexual fantasies in particular so often draw upon cultural and social meaning and symbolism. I spent a lot of time interrogating my fantasies for authenticity, but ultimately I arrived at an interest in my own bodily feeling and pleasure as being an important measure of authenticity. The most basic measure being: Does it feel good? Are you in your body?”

Chocolate Chip and Nikki Darling

Chocolate Chip and Nikki Darling in Crash Pad Series episode 152

Wow, remember Tumblr porn? :

“A fast-paced video, a sex scene from a movie? Maybe — GIFs of undulating torsos, panting chests, or fingers hooking underwear to the side were also extremely popular. It could be something from the wealth of amateur porn so many couples uploaded straight to the platform. And because Tumblr is Tumblr, it could also be steamy diary entries, graphic fan art, or smutty fanfic. “Tumblr porn” covered a range of era-specific content that reflected a young generation’s sexual hopes and desires. In 2014 on Tumblr, it could have been anything.

Whatever it was, at the time, Tumblr was the catalyst for many a sexual awakening. Especially for queer people and women, Tumblr porn was a doorway to a world of stimulating content that was far, far away from Pornhub’s ‘uh-huh do you like that’ offerings.”

Beating Hart, C’est La Vie, and Cinnamon Maxxine

Beating Hart, C’est La Vie, and Cinnamon Maxxine in Crash Pad Series episode 308

Love is a practice.

What does it mean to need? What does it mean to want? What does it feel like to use a fucking machine that fills four holes at once?

Here’s one experience of dating during quarantine.

Documentaries about sex work never get it right.

It’s okay if you’re anxious about things opening up more.

Mistress Tom deFun and Blair

Mistress Tom deFun and Blair in Crash Pad Series episode 311

And okay, I still find all the “end of the pandemic” content a little too optimistic especially around new strains etc., but as a thought experiment, it’s interesting to consider post-vaccination boundaries:

“As vaccination continues to ramp up, and restrictions continue to drop, we will be freer to spend time with friends and family than we’ve been in more than a year. There will be many happy, teary reunions, and if Twitter is to be believed, a number of supremely hedonistic parties. The expectation after a year of collective deprivation is that we all want to celebrate its end together. And I think we do, mostly. But maybe not quite as often, or with quite so many people. Some daydream only of a single friend joining them on the very same couch where they spent 2020.”

Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1109 articles for us.

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