I’ve been a full-time freelance writer for over three years now, and while I do all sorts of different culture writing to support myself, personal essays are my favorite thing to write, even when they demand more time and emotional energy. At A-Camp, I’m leading a workshop for new writers on how to write and pitch personal essays and get paid for them. But if you can’t make it, I’ll let you in on two of the secrets to becoming a published writer: Write a shit ton and read a shit ton.
Since I moved to New York a year ago, I started reading more nonfiction than ever, drawn in particular to essay collections by young women. I want to share some of the best essay collections and memoirs I’ve read in the past year, all books I feel are particularly useful to creative nonfiction writers in the way they master the essay craft.
I’ll Tell You In Person by Chloe Caldwell
Caldwell is funny and open in her second collection of essays, which vary in scope and style. Side note: I also highly recommend her novella Women, a lesbian love story that features only women and nonbinary characters.
Notable Essay: “The Laziest Coming Out Story You’ve Ever Heard”
A Body, Undone by Christina Crosby
Physical pain is incredibly difficult to write about, and yet it’s at the epicenter of Crosby’s incisive memoir that also touches on gender and sexuality.
Notable Essay: “Masculine, Feminine, Or Fourth Of July”
Redefining Realness by Janet Mock
Okay, if you haven’t read Mock’s memoir, literally stop reading this article and go do it now. Also, pre-order her book about her twenties!
Notable Essay: Read the whole damn thing.
Too Much And Not The Mood By Durga Chew-Bose
Chew-Bose writes gorgeous lyrical essays evocative of Maggie Nelson. This book swallowed me up.
Notable Essay: “Heart Museum”
All The Lives I Want by Alana Massey
These essays blend pop culture and personal narrative, which is pretty much my sweet spot.
Notable Essay: “All The Lives I Want”
Funny In Farsi by Firoozeh Dumas
This was published back in 2003, but I only just read it, and it’s one of the funniest memoirs I’ve ever read.
Notable Essay: “Girls Just Wanna Have Funds”
Goodbye To All That: Writers On Loving And Leaving New York edited by Sari Botton
This collection features 28 essays all by different women, all using Joan Didion’s “Goodbye To All That” essay as inspiration.
Notable Essay: “Home” by Melissa Febos
You Can’t Touch My Hair: And Other Things I Still Have To Explain by Phoebe Robinson
Robinson does such a great job of capturing her personality and voice in her writing, which is very important for writers to do!
Notable Essay: “Casting Calls For People Of Color That Were Not Written By People Of Color”
Where Am I Now? by Mara Wilson
I’m still shook from the chapter about show choir that so perfectly captured my high school experience. Anyway, Mara’s great! She knows your first crush was Miss Honey, and she knows how to write damn good essays.
Notable Essay: “A Letter”
well this is perfectly timed for my life & reading/writing needs. Thank you!!
I am always looking for more books! The “queer section” in my house is growing quickly! Pretty soon, it might take over the kitchen.
OK not technically essays per say but a lesbian memoir/cookbook is “murder in the kitchen” by Alice b toklas it’s so great
Also mara!!! I love her so much!!!
omg, memoirs are my favorite. I want to get all of these that I haven’t read yet. I just read Funny in Farsi this year too!
YES!!! Favorite genre and I’ve been looking for more things to read because I’m in a reading phase currently. This is wonderful!!!
I swear AS writers = psychic. Probably this week I’ll read Mara Wilson’s autobiography. And I was thinking about pitching an essay to a webzine that publishes solely nb ppl about having to ‘dequeer’ my work by using my birth name and hating it.
If I were a trans guy I’d just tell them my names Liam but my gender fluctuates & I don’t feel I can explain that to mainstream publishers.
I love Chloe Caldwell’s writing! We’ve emailed a few times and I had heart eyes the whole time. It’s very easy for me to get lost (in a good way) reading all of her online work. Too Good and Not Enough is next on my to-read pile!
This is so spot on! Thank you! As an Iranian-American, I’m pretty psyched to learn about Funny in Farsi!
So bummed I overslept your workshop! I will now consume all these books.