You Need Help: Am I Really “Over Them” Enough to Date New People?
There is no quantifiable metric for being over someone. If you’re ready to date, you’re ready to date.
Sex + Relationships
It’s Time to Put a Butt Plug Directly Into Your Butt
Check out these better butt plugs and toys for Butt Week! Our picks come in confetti, hardwood, stainless steel, tie dye (!) and more.
Anonymous Sex Toy Review: Njoy Pure Plug
“Nothing, and I mean nothing, feels as nice as stainless steel on your asshole.”
Every Opening Line I’ve Received and Sent on Tinder Since the Pandemic Began
“How are you liking all this social distancing? It’s cool that you write for Autostraddle”
Take Me Home Tonight: Which Wet for Her Toy Are You Swiping Right On?
“Looking for a baby who wants to be pleasured and punished in the most loving of ways. I may look adorable, but I’m quite powerful and will make you shake with joy or fear – if you behave you get to choose.”
You Need Help: How Can I Be a ‘Good Ex’?
Relationships change. Relationships end. It’s not inconsiderate to move forward; sometimes being a good ex means maintaining boundaries.
6 Queer-Owned Sex Shops You’ll Vibe With
As we stock up on toys and lube for winter, we can put our queer money back into queer-owned sex shops!
How to Curate the Perfect Sex Toy Collection
Whether you’re a newbie or a sex toy savant, these tips will help you curate the sex toy collection of your dirty dreams.
S L I C K: Duckling
First I became a cloud-woman. Min had always liked watching them as a child, one of her only good memories from that period. I lifted up my skirts, let her lap up my water. Her mouth was covered in dew when I kissed her.
Dating Download: Three Lesbians Try the XO Dating App So You Don’t Have to
Dating Download is a new ongoing series where Shelli, Dani and Drew try out the latest or most overlooked of dating apps so you don’t have to. Today they’re giving you the full download on XO.
Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: Power Dynamics Are in the Eye of the Beholder
What do we feel our sexual IDs “mean” about us as “people”? Do they have overlaps with our sense of self outside of bed? Do we notice others assuming these things about us (or projecting them onto us)? If so, is that annoying or helpful? Do they get at authentic ways that our sexual dynamics are natural expressions of other parts of our personhood?
Queer Horoscopes for October 2020: What Was Planted in March That You’re Sowing Now?
Six months into the global pandemic, Libra energy is here to help us find balance in an unbalanced world.
Ten Maximalist Sex Toys to Add to Your (Toy) Box
Looking for big, bright, maximalist sex toys? You’ve come to the right place.
14 Knuckles: Always A Fistee, Never A Fister
My acceptance of my own pain allows me to have the kind of sex that is rooted in the specificity of my body. I don’t love the idea that I’ll never fist, but I do love the idea that every act of sex I engage with is collaborative. Queerness reminds me that there is no standard way to fuck or live.
S L I C K: The Cunt
Powdered hemp cutting into soft, bruised flesh. Jax tries to hook a finger between rope and skin and finds there isn’t room. It excites them.
Nine Minimalist Sex Toys to Keep Forever
Minimalist sex toys are foundational sex toys that can keep you coming over and over.
Oh Cool, Me Too: What It’s Like for Bisexual People to Date Each Other
Given that so much discourse is spent on bi people in relationships with binary genders, looking at relationships between bisexual people can be an opportunity to look at more expansive perspectives on bisexuality.
Remaking Myself and My Desires on the Comics Page
An exploration of how this cartoonist came into her bisexuality by seeing her desires made manifest in others’ art and decided to make herself seen through her own art.
Here’s Your Roadmap to Finding Your Authentic Sexual Self
Guides often suggest a masturbation practice, getting to know your own unique fantasies, or even challenging yourself to watch porn. But there’s no one perfect method; here’s a bit of a different approach!
You Need Help: What If I’m Bad At Sex?
No one is bad at sex.