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We thrive on these everyday tiny moments where we both get to be reminded of our agreed-upon power differential.
There is safety in distance, a whole lot of it — distance lets us be different version of ourselves, or to reveal parts of ourselves we haven’t shown to the light before. It allows us to be bold, and take risks.
“What a strange way to end the year. How strange to talk of personal love, right now, as though we can separate it out from love for everyone who is suffering and endangered. But queer love can and must encompass that—what are we here for if not to create new ways of loving, new communities of care, and a world with less repression and hatred?”
“Family and friends tend to recognize her and her boyfriend and pretend that I don’t exist, mostly because they have been together longer and queer relationships are not respected or recognized.”
Obviously, a lot of toys you’d buy for a cis woman are great, but also, let’s be real, trans women have some special needs and desires.
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“Perhaps trust is my biggest kink. That would explain a lot.”
Ease the sting of distance with these mostly practical (but yes, some are sappy… DISTANCE IS HARD, y’all) gifts.
Here’s how a 23-year-old native and Jewish queer trans woman with Cerebral Palsy living in Baltimore and dating a few people does poly.
“When I’m alone, and the world feels like it’s ending, for whom do I do service?”
“I knew she wanted it, I trusted her to know she could take what she asked for, and I wanted to give her what she wanted. But I couldn’t do it.”
“You can just NOT LIE.”
When you tap into your sensitivity, you’ll know immediately when something’s harmful (whether that’s a controlling person or a toxic chemical), you’ll trust what your gut is telling you, and you’ll be able to help others with your insights and awareness.
I started to see submission as less about what happens in play and more about a way to approach the world.
“I’ve written them a letter about feeling like I’m getting the short end of the stick, but I’m afraid that it comes off as a break-up letter and I don’t want to break up with them. I really just want to be happy with them.”
When you want your partner to be strong, dominant, demanding and strict, “What do you need right now? Can I make you a sandwich? Let’s watch your favorite movie!” is not a sexy reaction.
Happy Fisting Day! Celebrate by fisting. Also celebrate by voting no on Proposition 60.
Here’s how a single 20-year-old Latina queer polyamorous femme who works as a nonprofit employee and fetish model does poly.