Remaking Myself and My Desires on the Comics Page
An exploration of how this cartoonist came into her bisexuality by seeing her desires made manifest in others’ art and decided to make herself seen through her own art.
Sex + Relationships
Here’s Your Roadmap to Finding Your Authentic Sexual Self
Guides often suggest a masturbation practice, getting to know your own unique fantasies, or even challenging yourself to watch porn. But there’s no one perfect method; here’s a bit of a different approach!
You Need Help: What If I’m Bad At Sex?
No one is bad at sex.
Anonymous Sex Toy Review: Fun Factory’s Limba Flex Dildo
Although I don’t think the Limba will be a go-to dildo to use with partners, it surprised me by being one of the most powerful G-spot toys I’ve ever used – and I’ve used a lot!
![Illustration of a erotic video site called Fet Tube. A video of a woman lying nude with a microphone pointed down between her legs is in the process of playing. There’s a look of ecstasy on her face and her fingers languidly part her mouth open. A pop-up window is overlaid across her that says “Send me a private message for only $9.99!“. The title of the video below reads “18+ NSFW ASMR - Listen to my BODY & RELAX :) [Adults only vibes]“. The user bio reads “Welcome to my body party. Enjoy the relaxing sounds of my microphones brushing against my leg hairs.” in the sidebar are thumbnails for other porn videos.](https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/slick-wannacyber.jpg?fit=640%2C320)
S L I C K: Wanna Cyber
Mostly I had chalked my ambivalence up to stifling antidepressants and emotional avoidance. Was I gutted of desire or was this a case of under exposure? Or was I supposed to own my simpleton truth and scream from a cliff, “I just want to dim the lights and be pegged, goddamnit!”
Anonymous Sex Toy Review: Unbound’s Puff Suction Vibe
“I thought the suction would somehow mimic a human mouth — well, the mouth of an individual who knows that a little light sucking can go a long way. It’s not like that at all — it’s way better. If there is a human who has a mouth that can do what Puff does, please send them my way as soon as fucking possible.”
You Need Help: Are There Exercises For Better Finger Sex?
Stretching can certainly prevent your muscles from getting sore, but focusing on your posture and form will give you the best finger sex results.
Love After Lockdown: 7 Hot Dates to Make Things IRL with Your Pandemic Crush Post-Quarantine
You and your cyber cutie have probably gone from simple sexting to full-on virtual sex and maybe have seen each others toy or two – but what about exploring something to use together once it’s safe to meet up again? Wet for Her is low key making it hella easy to mix online shopping with your IRL play.
7 Hot Queers and Their Go-To First Date Outfits
The best advice for a first date is always to be yourself; obviously you’re also interested in being the hottest, most unforgettable version of yourself. A good first date outfit does both.
Anatomy Of A Mango: Seed
Because of the positive affirmation I received during sex, I began to believe it was all I was good for. When people wanted me, I assumed it was my job to provide joy for other people. I gave myself to a lot of people in that way. I had to remember that I had a right to pleasure as well.
Get Hot, Stay Cool for the Summer with 8 Sex Toys Perfect for Temperature Play
Whether you’re getting sweaty solo or have a partner in quarantine you can’t keep your hands off no matter how hot it gets, it’s a good time to bring some cool sensations to the hottest and heaviest parts of your life. That’s why all the toys highlighted here are perfect for temperature play, for a variety of types of sensations and bods. With some sweet sweet discounts throughout this post, there’s never been a better time to try bringing some chill into the bedroom.
Queer Horoscopes for September 2020: Virgo Season Brings a Controlled Burn in the Face of Burnout
As Mars turns retrograde, we’re learning how to tend the fires so we don’t burn out.
You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.
Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The CRAVE Duet Pro Build-A-Vibe Experience
Today three different Autostraddle writers review and compare their takes on Crave’s Duet Pro assembled at home via their limited-time Build-A-Vibe Experience. Each were sent Build-A-Vibe kits from Crave and were able to assemble their own vibes at home while hanging out together in a live Zoom workshop!
S L I C K: Jesus Is; A Love Song Part 2
Finally, Danielle and Joanna are reunited are years of radio silence. Will Joanna’s voice still move Danielle as strongly as she remembers?
14 Knuckles: Femme Top Revolution
There’s a difference between domination as a way to take control or claim power over another person — the way certain lovers have done with me — versus domination as a way to provide comfort and care, and to grow one’s power without harming anyone else.
Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: So You’re a Top/Bottom/Switch
How have you defined (or not) your role over time? Has it changed, did you at first think you “were” one thing and now you ID differently? how did that feel and what did it bring up? How do you ID now, and where do you see it as part of that ~ journey ~?
Oh Duck: The Autocorrect Adds You Need for Better Queer Sexting
A spectre is haunting queer sexting — the spectre of “duck.” Here’s how to fix your autocorrect and what to add to your dictionary for better queer sexting.
S L I C K: Jesus Is; A Love Song Part 1
Severed and shamed by their church as teenagers, Danielle and Joanna are reunited years later by the very same song that propelled them into their sexual awakening years ago.
Is That a Secure Attachment or Are You Just Happy to See Me: All About Our Attachment Styles
“Wow I’m making myself sound so fucked up! I promise I got 30 whole percent in secure attachment.”