“If you like to be on top during penetrative sex but you’re by yourself, the Moody and some ingenuity plus quad strength could be your solution.”
In the spirit of gathering our strength and resisting the living hell out of these next four years, I bring you our sweetest installment to date — along with some notes for the revolution.
“I really really want to like going down on her, but I don’t. It feels overwhelming — the smell, the taste, the trouble breathing.”
In the beginning checking in all the time was useful. But after six months of it, Sarah was getting annoyed.
“For me, as a Black Trans Woman, to find her body not only as something worthy and magnificent (as it is), but to find someone to share that magick with, may very well be one of the only moments she has to enjoy a trying and very taxing life — one that’s always trying to kill her.”
This book is a must for college students, sex nerds, and activists alike — especially if your Trump resistance involves sex education, sexual assault prevention, or reproductive rights.
How a newly-into-ladies 32-year-old multiracial cis queer lady in a big blue city in the deep red American South does poly.
As my gender expression changes, so does who I’m attracted to.
This month, we’re looking at your coming year in queer love: how you’ll be able to grow, where you’ll be able to heal, and where you can hold the faith and keep the dream alive. Here’s your roadmap to how to love yourself better this year, and show up for the ones you love — whether that’s your committed life partner or your an international network of queer communities.
“But when we changed the game a little, and added just a few little things, our play soared to new mountain summits I hadn’t even known we could reach, or let alone want.”
“I view polyamory as a structure that’s helpful in me decolonizing my love life and the way I view relationships. Having complete ownership of everything within the borders of my skin, and doing what I desire with it and with whom, is an incredible “fuck you” to the systems of oppression I seek to dismantle (and a fun one!).”
As I grow more into the submissive I want to be, I grow to love myself more.
Within D/s relationships specifically, protocols are explicit, negotiated with the needs and best interests of everyone in mind, subject to change based on reflection and consent.
Here’s how a 32-year-old Japanese American queer polyamorous Southern Californian does polyamory within functional monogamy.
“Holistic masochism recognizes that I’m not just a sex machine, but a whole person who has to exist before and after play.”
Searching for that perfect combination of versatile sex toys? Here you go.
We thrive on these everyday tiny moments where we both get to be reminded of our agreed-upon power differential.
There is safety in distance, a whole lot of it — distance lets us be different version of ourselves, or to reveal parts of ourselves we haven’t shown to the light before. It allows us to be bold, and take risks.
“What a strange way to end the year. How strange to talk of personal love, right now, as though we can separate it out from love for everyone who is suffering and endangered. But queer love can and must encompass that—what are we here for if not to create new ways of loving, new communities of care, and a world with less repression and hatred?”