53-Year Old Actor Anne Heche Is Dead

A week after being hospitalized for critical injuries resulting from a car crash, Anne Heche has died. In a statement to The Los Angeles Times on Friday, her eldest son, Homer Laffoon, confirmed her death:

“My brother Atlas and I lost our Mom. After six days of almost unbelievable emotional swings, I am left with a deep, wordless sadness. Hopefully my mom is free from pain and beginning to explore what I like to imagine as her eternal freedom.

Over those six days, thousands of friends, family, and fans made their hearts known to me. I am grateful for their love, as I am for the support of my Dad, Coley, and my stepmom Alexi who continue to be my rock during this time. Rest In Peace Mom, I love you, Homer.”

On the morning of August 5, Heche crashed her blue Mini-Cooper into a garage at a Mar Vista apartment complex, drove away from that crash, and then drove her car into a house, which immediately caught fire. It took over an hour for 59 firefighters to extinguish the fire, which destroyed the house and left its tenant Lynne Mishele with minor injuries, and to extract a severely burned Heche from her vehicle. (There is currently a GoFundMe running for Lynne Mishele.) Although Heche was able to speak in the immediate aftermath of the accident, she quickly fell unconscious and slipped into a coma, having suffered an anoxic brain injury from which she was not expected to recover. She remained on life support this week as doctors evaluated the suitability of her organs for donation. Preliminary blood testing “revealed the presence of drugs” and video taken before the crash suggested that she was “under the influence.” More comprehensive toxicology tests are underway.

An hour before the crash, she bought a red wig from a hair shop in Venice. Salon owner Richard Glass said she was “very pleasant” and did not seem to be intoxicated.

SANTA MONICA, CALIFORNIA - MARCH 09: Anne Heche and Ami Goodheart attend the 24th CDGA (Costume Designers Guild Awards on March 09, 2022 in Santa Monica, California. (Photo by Gregg DeGuire/FilmMagic)

SANTA MONICA, CALIFORNIA – MARCH 09: Anne Heche and Ami Goodheart attend the 24th CDGA (Costume Designers Guild Awards on March 09, 2022 in Santa Monica, California. (Photo by Gregg DeGuire/FilmMagic)

Heche began her acting career in the early 1990s, working in soap operas before breakout roles in the indie film Walking & Talking, gangster drama Donnie Brasco, political satire Wag the Dog, the horror film I Know What You Did Last Summer, and Gus Van Sant’s Psycho remake. She has worked consistently since, and her extensive resume also includes roles in TV shows like Ally McBeal, Men in Trees, All Rise and Hung, and acclaimed performances in Catfight (2016) and My Friend Dahmer (2017).

In 1997, Anne Heche met Ellen DeGeneres at a Vanity Fair Oscar Party and subsequently fell in love, their relationship, coinciding with Ellen’s legendary coming out that temporarily tanked her career and Anne’s, whose ability to convincingly play a straight woman in a romance with Harrison Ford in Six Days, Seven Nights, was a hot topic of conversation. In 2000, DeGeneres and Heche worked together on If These Walls Could Talk 2, with Heche directing the segment that starred DeGeneres and Sharon Stone as a lesbian couple attempting to get pregnant. The HBO film, which focused on queer stories in three different time periods, was a sequel to the original If These Walls Could Talk, which focused on the issue of abortion in three different time periods and starred Heche in the 1996 segment with Cher and Jada Pinkett Smith.

This made Heche one of the first femme mainstream actresses to come out, ever, a decision she made without hesitation due to her childhood experiences with shame and secrecy.

Her father, who died of complications from HIV/AIDS when Heche was 13, was closeted and reportedly abused his son Nathan and sexually abused Heche. Following her husband’s death, Heche’s mother became a Christian Therapist and motivational speaker who worked with Focus on the Family to promote gay conversion therapy. Heche and her mother have been estranged since Heche wrote about the abuse in her 2001 memoir, Call Me Crazy. In a 1998 interview, Heche said her father being closeted and an abuser “destroyed his happiness and our family. But it did teach me to tell the truth. Nothing else is worth anything.” Three months after her father’s death, her 18-year-old brother Nathan died after crashing his car into a tree. Heche believed the accident was a suicide. (Heche’s sister Cynthia died in infancy of a heart defect and her estranged sister Susan died of brain cancer in 2006.)

“Ellen represented everything that my father never was,” Heche told ABC News in 2001. “She was free. She owned her sexuality. I had connected everything with my father and my abuse to the fact that he was not allowed to be the homosexual that he was. So here I met a dream, a person, who was changing the world with her openness about her sexuality and embracing it in herself. And that, to me, was stunning.”

Julie Cypher, Melissa Etheridge, Anne Heche, and Ellen DeGeneres (Photo by Jim Smeal/Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)

Julie Cypher, Melissa Etheridge, Anne Heche, and Ellen DeGeneres (Photo by Jim Smeal/Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)

Anne Heche has spoken openly about her mental health struggles, many of which stem from her childhood trauma and include an alter-ego she created to separate herself from her psychic pain. “I was a perfect hider. I was raised to hide,” she told Larry King after the publication of her 2001 memoir, Call Me Crazy. “I was raised to pretend. I was raised to always tell everybody that everything was fine, and even though I was in therapy for years I never told anybody that I had another personality. I never told anybody that I heard voices and spoke to God. I never told anybody any of it.”

Heche and DeGeneres broke up in 2000. Although they were not legally married due to that not being possible at the time, she said of it later, “my relationship with Ellen is no less significant as a marriage than my relationship to Coley.” Coleman “Coley” Laffoon, was a cameraman for Ellen’s tour who Heche dated after her relationship with DeGeneres. Heche and Laffoon had a son in 2002 and separated in 2007. Heche also had a son with her Men in Trees co-star James Tupper in 2009, before their separation in 2018. This year, it was rumored that she was in a relationship with costume designer Ami Goodheart.

Heche currently has a number of projects in production, including the TV show The Idol with Hari Nef and Troye Sivan and the film Full Ride with Deront Mulroney. She has also been co-hosting a podcast with Heather Duffy, “Better Together with Anne & Heather,” which is dedicated to “celebrating friendship” and the belief that “we can create more joy in the world by sharing our stories, stumbles, and triumphs.”

She is survived by her two sons.


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10 Comments

  1. I’m so sad by this. I think she deserved better, but the demons of an abused childhood can be relentless. I hope her children have the love and help they deserve.
    As someone who was a teen in the 90’s, she was one of the few women out, and one of the few that identified as bisexual. I will always be grateful for that, for her courage to be who she was.
    RIP.

  2. I am very saddened by this. Anne was only 53,same age as me. I don’t want to wish her peace in death, I don’t know what that is. I wish her alive, being happy, sad, frustrated and angry like the rest of us and walking away from the self destruct button.

  3. Thank you. Some of us came of age during the Ellen/Anne, Melissa/Julie years. The photo helps underscore this for those who weren’t there for it… but for those of us that were- they were A Very Big Deal. In my view, Anne was ostracized similarly to Tammy after it all was over… and the damage to both their careers was done. It goes without saying that an innocent victim’s life has been forever changed as well. I’m glad you added the Go Fund Me. Not all articles did.

  4. I was a teenager in the late 90s, coming to terms with my own sexuality, and Anne (and the few other women who were out at the time) was an incredibly important public person to me. I haven’t really thought about her in years, but I find myself incredibly saddened by this – she was someone who meant a lot to me at a difficult time in my life. I’m thinking of her loved ones.

  5. Thank you for this gentle memorial. I’m another who was a teenager when Anne and Ellen came out, and it was such, such a big deal. They changed the world just by existing truthfully. This hit me harder than I would have expected, but that’s why.

    I didn’t know about Anne and Ami either, and I hope Ami is surrounded by love right now too.

    And yes, thank you for the GoFundMe link. It seems like the right thing to do. <3

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