I rearranged my “office area” over the weekend, so now I’m facing the wall and my dry erase board instead of the rest of the living room (and my pretty shelf full of green plants that I love so much). In theory, this will force me to stay very much on task so that I’m driven to succeed and thus end my workday and stare at my shelf full of green plants on my own time. I did sneak Fiona Fern back over here, so I’m not totally devoid of green things. What do you think? Should I get a fake ficus for this empty corner or something? Does your desk face a wall or a window or an open room? What do you find is the most productive?
Anyway here are some links for your Monday! There’s so much good stuff in here, I hope you’ve got a few hours.
You Should Go or Do or Give
+ Help Casa Ruby Rebuild Their Center. Read more on Casa Ruby here: Casa Ruby is a Chosen Family for Trans People Who Need a Home.
+ Head on over to Joe’s Pub on February 7 to see Haviland Stillwell sing her face off for you!
+ Swagger Like Us, your queer hip-hop dance party, will be in Oakland on February 12 and you should probably definitely go to that if you can.
Queer as in F*ck You
+ Hood Femmes and Ratchet Feminism: On Amandla Stenberg, Representation and #BlackGirlMagic by Ashleigh Shackelford.
+ Call for submissions! Power & Magic: A Queer Witch Comics Anthology. This is for women of color only and looks rad as fuck.
+ Perhaps you’d like to take this survey titled Sexuality of Lesbians and Breast Cancer Survivors. As reader KatMeow points out below, you aren’t required to have been diagnosed with breast cancer in order to participate in this study, and you’ll get a coupon code for your troubles!
+ Here’s Rory Midhani being the greatest: What Cis People Say to Trans People vs What We Hear.
+ Dannielle Owens-Reid wrote this killer piece that you should read right now: It’s Time to Let Go of Your Abusive Mother.
There is no good reason to keep someone abusive in your life. If my mother were my partner, people would tell me to leave. If my mother were a friend, people would tell me to cut them out of my life. If my mother were my boss, people would tell me to quit or turn her in to HR. If my mother were an estranged uncle, people would tell me I didn’t have to answer texts, who cares. But for some reason, people (including members of my own family) have a hard time understanding when you need to let go of an abusive parent. I’m here to tell you that it’s okay. More than okay, it’s necessary. It has greatly improved my quality of life to step back from my relationship with her as well as other relationships similar to it.
+ Mari Goldman is a 16-year-old black girl and Donald Trump is afraid of her.
+ Do You Ever Survive the Journey Whole? by Sonia Guiñansaca. That’ll split your heart wide open.
+ A Person Can’t Be “Diverse”: Why advocates are backing away from a theoretically helpful term that’s being misused in ways big and small.
There’s also a linguistic-logic problem here. If one black woman is a “diverse person,” is a group made up 100 percent of black women automatically a “diverse group”? By the more commonly understood use of the word, it’s not one.
How, then, to refer to people of color and women? How about … as “people of color and women”? If you’re talking about other categories—LGBT people, certain age cohorts, nationalities—name them. Or there are other terms that, while perhaps not super-catchy, can work. “Underrepresented populations” is one.
+ Zika Virus Isn’t the First Disease to Spark a Debate About Abortion by Jasmine Garsd.
+ Black and White Photos That Show the Disturbing Side of Being a Teenage Girl by Anastasiia Fedorova. Oh damn I love this so much.
+ Coaching Vacancy: Women Need Not Apply by Lindsey DiArcangelo.
Mary Dague lost both her arms in Iraq. Thanks to a million-dollar Indiegogo campaign, she’s now starring alongside other ex-soldiers in “Range 15,” a zombie movie that wants to show the funny side of being an army vet.
+ Obama Announces Executive Action to Crack Down on Companies That Pay Women Less Than Men, so we’ll see how that goes I guess.
+ Nobody Catcalls the Woman in the Wheelchair by Kayla Whaley.
+ Autostraddle is in some great company here, thanks Luna Luna! 8 Women-Run Magazines We Read Every Day
Saw This, Thought of You
+ How Do Festival Apps Monitor Your Behavior? I still use the paper maps! :paper map dance:
+ Excuse me this has fucked with my mind greatly: The Countries Where People Are the Most Emotionally Complex by Julie Beck.
+ In this case, it wasn’t so much that I saw it and thought of you, but saw it and thought of me: Why Are Some People Habitually Late?
Chin talk? Talk of chins.