A List of Lesbian Moments from the 2017 Tony Awards

  1. Cynthia Nixon’s dress and win for Lillian Hellman’s The Little Foxes

    She loves her wife SO MUCH!!!!

  3. Tracie Thoms (my root) and Betsy Wolfe as “the lesbians from next door” in Falsettos
  4. Laurie Metcalf looking Mommi as hell in a draped cowl neck dress sitting in a theatre seat introducing a Best Play nominee

    She’s proud of you even though she won the Tony

  5. Jenn Collella in a very gay patterned button-up as a Canadian pilot while being a real life queer polyamorous human who is publically dating at least three people right now.
  6. Close up on Marya and Helene (from Natasha, Pierre & The Great Comet of 1812) making out.

    Happy Pride!!!!!

  7. Paula Vogel
  8. Bette Midler proposing to her lighting designer for making her look 20-30 years younger every night with a simple, “Natasha, marry me please?”
  9. Rebecca Taichmin (not gay) wins for directing Indecent by Paula Vogel (gay)
  10. Whoopi Goldberg dressed as the Babadook


  11. Robin Wright as a silent but intimidating Claire Underwood: Daddy™

    We needed this

  12. Patti LuPone singing while drunk at the end of the show in a white caped mother-of-the-bride dress from David’s Bridal made me feel gayer.


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  1. Alaina, your tweets about Cynthia Nixon’s wife were amazing! and she’s now your twitter cover photo!
    obsessed with your appreciate for the couple.


  2. I was waiting for the word Mommi to make an appearance since the moment I read the title of this article. Was not disappointed.

  3. Alaina she’s so in love!!!!!!! I can’t handle it!!!!!

    Also, Paula Vogel. PAULA VOGEL.

    • i can only dream of a love as pure as theirs!!!! ??? she’s so red and in love i canNOT HANDLE IT

  4. Re: Jenn Colella

    I KNEW IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I saw Come From Away in Toronto over Christmas and I could NOT STOP STARING AT HER. I mean yes, she’s gorgeous, and yes, Beverly Bass’ story is incredible and yes, Me and the Sky is an amazingly powerful and heartbreaking song that I have not stopped listening to since I bought the soundtrack.

    But ALSO, ohmygod my gaydar was SCREAMING at me the whole time! I KNEW IT!

    I feel so completely vindicated right now. Thank you Alaina. This is a great day.

  5. 1st, Awesome list!!!

    2nd, I just have a slight correction: in #8, Bette isn’t referring to the costume designer (Santo Loquasto, who won the Tony himself last night for Hello Dolly’s gorgeous duds). She means Natasha Katz, the lighting designer. It’s a small mistake, but as a female broadway stagehand, I feel the pain of being assumed to be a costumer. What other backstage job could a woman hold, right? Natasha is a giant in her field. She’s been working on broadway since the 80s, and although she didn’t win for Dolly, she has multiple Tonys already on the shelf. I’m sure it was an innocent mistake: costumes make us look great! …but so do lighting designers. And some few of them are women.

    3rd, thanks for being cool. I’ve been lurking the site for years but had to sign up so I could write this comment.

    Sisters in the Brotherhood ftw!

  6. Omg, Patti LuPone singing a lounge tune made me visualize Yellow Diamond at her side gig. :P

  7. I’m still trying to put my finger on what ‘mommi’ is, but honestly I felt like Bette’s entire speech was as close to mommi as I understand it. Someone please tell me if I’m getting it right.

    I started crying when Cynthia thanked her wife and they showed her in the audience and they’re just so happy together and I feel so lucky that I got to see that moment on live television and nothing ruined it and everyone got to be beautifully happy for that one moment and I’m not still crying or anything (and I’m so happy to have other queer people to talk to about the Tonys again)

    Also, three seconds of Robin Wright staring into my soul was worth putting up with three hours of Kevin Spacey hosting.

  8. Thank you for posting this. We need to talk more about queer ladies & lady-types in theatre, and I appreciate the visibility.

    Also, several queer ladies are in ensembles of Broadway shows this season: Great Comet, Hello Dolly!, & more. One of whom made this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tcTPpRad4Y4

  9. tysm for the Mommi drop. it continues to give me life with each published use. visibility. representation. normalization. Mommi.

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