If you’re feeling sexual desire for friends or if you like the idea of a “friends with benefits” situation, then it seems that most widely-accepted definition of “demisexual” still encompasses your experience. But the more important questions here are: what do you want and why do you want it?

Advice for coping with a parent who’s an addict, being accountable to people you’re dating, and more!

From how to have a first lesbian experience to how to be horny and demisexual! If you’re thinking hmm these queers seem to know what they’re talking about then go ahead and send in your own question!

I’ve been thinking about it almost every day lately.

Pandemic haircuts, changing your perception around friendships, do you want kids, do you need to know what you’re looking for when dating, feeling weird about not feeling New Relationship Energy, and more!

We’re always coming out. As an: anime fanatic, manga-collecting Pokémon plushie hoarder; as a giddy, youthful ray of sunshine and not just the dense, American Dream-deprived immigrant, prompted over-thinker — I realize I am more than any of these individual rooms at all times.

Every asexual person has a moment when the recognition sets in. Those moments would come a lot easier if asexuality was more prominent in pop culture.

You are telling me one thing, which is that your wife and you communicate well and she cares for you, and then I am seeing something different, which is that your needs are continuously deprioritized in the relationship, and that seems to be how things play out when it comes to your wife’s actions.

As a queer, demisexual Libra, I was made to love, to be loved, and to make love (under certain conditions).

While using knowledge about one’s attachment style to build lines of communication with a partner and to manage conflict can be super helpful, letting yourself hang onto false hope because of attachment theory is not going to help you.

“I just want to say, I know that this woman is supposed to be from Kansas City — and that’s actually a personal attack on me.”

Where does the Autostraddle community stand on pressing criminal justice issues including bail, incarceration and police brutality? Here are our findings, based on the Autostraddle Reader Survey and Politics Survey that readers most recently took.

Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an organizing coffee or a COFFEE coffee??

We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!

Where did you go on your summer vacation? These queers went all over the place and everyone is very cute (but you already knew that). Your latest community gallery is here!

Here’s how a 28-year-old Arab-American queer demisexual cis woman living in the urban Midwest does ethical non-monogamy.

In which I talk to my asexual brother about what they wanted and what they did when they first came out as ace.

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey — and some of them might surprise you!

The competition setup is simple: Whoever finished their pumpkin pie first wins an award of $100 cash. No hands allowed or forks allowed; you had to put your face in the pie to win.

“We used a lot of different toys in the beginning, and I think that was because I personally had a lot of toys that I wanted to share with you to be like, ‘Is this cool?’