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You Need Help: How To Date While Dealing With Mental Illness
Dating has often felt like a game I don’t know how to play. “An elaborate puzzle,” as you say. One where the pieces are sharp as knives that cut to the core of my deepest insecurities.
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You Need Help: How Do I Deal With the Inescapable Sexism in My Industry?
Ultimately, your question is about how to find hope in the midst of the inescapable bigotry that defines the working world.
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You Need Help: How Can I Date When I’m So Scared To?
Dating requires so much vulnerability, and a fear of rejection can be such a roadblock. So, what can we do to confront that roadblock?
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I’ve Changed, But My Kinks Haven’t
It’s okay to live a life where your interests overlap with the result of trauma.
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You Need Help: How Do I Convince My Girlfriend That I Care?
It sounds like she’s looking for something you just can’t give her, and that’s okay. Your life is very full at the moment. It’s not too full for the right relationship, but it may be too full for THIS relationship.
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You Need Help: Should I Try Again To Turn a Friendship Into Romance?
You have to evaluate if you can experience the friendship not as a consolation prize or a waystation for your ultimate destiny of romantic partnership with them but as a gift that is exactly what you want.
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You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?
You can’t control other people’s reactions to your coming out. But you can create for yourself a network of people who unequivocally support your bisexuality/queerness and who understand the specific joys and challenges we face.
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How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?
The lack of sex that resulted from our wildly differing needs has had a lasting impact.
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You Need Help: I’m a 16 Year-old Lesbian Asking ‘What Is Love?’
“How do I get myself to understand what love can really be, after the initial sparks fade?”
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You Need Help: On Dating During a Health Scare
I am sending you and your person all my love and wishes for competent and compassionate medical care, swift healing, and fruitful conversations in the future about your growing relationship.
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You Need Help: How to Feel Good About Getting Older
You already escaped the lies of the patriarchy. Now — now! — you get to live.
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You Need Help: How Will I Know When My “Real Life” Has Started?
However you end up deciding to live your life is up to you. As long as you create your own path toward happiness and fulfillment, none of the other stuff matters!
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You Need Help: Trying To Live Through the Pandemic Is Destroying My Mental Health
I want you to hold this: Even though the world is kind of terrible, your life is precious and valuable, and you are loved.
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You Need Help: What If I’m Lying to Myself About Being Queer?
I absolutely remember this feeling. “Am I crazy? Am I just making this up to complicate my life?” The answer is, no, you’re not. You’re not making it up. It’s real, and it’s fine, and it’s gonna be amazing.
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You Need Help: Your Partner Won’t Give You Space
She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.
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You Need Help: Is It Normal To Be Happy In a Relationship and Still Think About an Ex?
Time won’t necessarily “fix” it, but the more distance you have from the relationship and the more time you invest in healthy coping mechanisms, the less destabilizing these thoughts will feel.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #12: Bisexual Marriage Blues, Sexting as a Bottom, and More!
Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #9: Supporting Your Local Bisexual, Getting Your Girlfriend to Talk to You, and More!
First of all: Clean your sex toys! Also: homophobia at your day job, supporting your friend when they leave an abusive relationship, and how to start dating when… you’ve absolutely never dated before.
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You Need Help: Three Classic Bisexual Questions, Now with Bisexual Answers
Today we look at a panoply of questions, which, while the situations of their querents are specific and concrete, encompass three of the most common questions we hear in relation to bisexuality: Am I actually bisexual or not? Am I pansexual or something else within the bi+ spectrum? How the fuck do I let people know I’m not straight?
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Y’All Need Help #29: What to Wear, When to Quit
Impress your tattoo artist, confront your braggy woke friend, leave your fiancee, plus two HR questions get answered by a real professional!