Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: I Moved Closer to My Girlfriend but She’s Too Busy for Me
The person who moved shouldn’t be the only person experiencing change.
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You Need Help: All I Want Is a Relationship But I Can’t Make it Past the First Date
“How do I somehow give off that I’m girlfriend material? I just want to be wanted back for a change.”
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You Need Help: I’m Uncertain About Wanting Kids, So Should I Only Date People Who Are Uncertain Too?
I’ve changed my mind about wanting kids throughout life, and that’s okay.
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend Doesn’t Want To Have Sex
To me, both of these things are true: 1. People’s sex drives can change for any number of reasons, at any time and 2. If sex is important to you, that’s valid, too!
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You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife
Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer — her own feelings did that.
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How Do I Learn To Trust Again After My Two-Month Situationship Ended Abruptly?
“I’m a cis queer woman in my mid-twenties, and I’m mourning yet another 2-3 month-long relationship that ended unexpectedly, and this time it’s messing with me in the way the others haven’t.”
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You Need Help: Wanting To Move In Together but Unsure About Sharing Bed With Dog
“My girlfriend has a super sweet lab mix who I love dearly, but I’m very new to the concept of sleeping with a dog in the bed. I thought they made dog beds for this exact reason?!”
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend Struggles With Social Skills
Just because someone operates differently from you doesn’t mean they’re wrong, bad, or need help.
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After 11 Years Together, My Partner Suddenly Wants To Call Off Our Engagement
“I feel like I’ve built a whole personality around accommodating her schedule: apologizing for her absences and filling in for what she doesn’t make time for (cooking, housework).”
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You Need Help: How Do I Make Myself Like My Girlfriend’s Cat?
You already did things right by talking about this before moving in together. Now it’s time to talk some more.
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex — How Can I Still Foster Intimacy?
Sometimes in long-term relationships, our needs shift and/or our capacity to fulfill someone’s needs shift.
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You Need Help: How Do I Date With Devastatingly Low Self-Esteem?
Approach cultivating a friendship with yourself as you would with other people.
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You Need Help: I’m Not Sure I Want To Be Friends With My Ex
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to lean into your gut feeling.
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You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?
I think the topic of Asian desire doesn’t get nuanced attention often enough.
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.
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I Immediately Feel Shame, Sadness After Masturbating
It’s 2024, am I the only one left on the planet who feels enormous shame after self-pleasure?
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You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?
I want to try to hold space here for both: for your (and my, really) pain and for the possibility that you may not feel this way forever.
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You Need Help: I Want to Work on Myself, How Do I Do That?
I have behaviors I notice that spill into my relationship that stem from personal issues. I want to be a better person to myself, and my partner. I want to feel like my cup is full as I am, and then be able to use that to help fill our cup.
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You Need Help: How Do I Ask My Girlfriend To Freshen Up Before Sex Without Killing Our Sex Life?
Your girlfriend is putting a lot of trust in you, and that trust should be honored and celebrated.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Back Into Dating at Age 54?
As a culture, we spend a lot of time talking about all of the ways that dating can suck; it becomes easy to forget how fun it can actually be!