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By Fighting Gender Expectations, My Mother Made Room for Me to Be Myself
“I faced the difficult truth that, despite it getting me through so much, “Black womanhood” alone simply can not capture the essence of my soul, and it does not always feel like a perfect fit.”
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A Gender by Any Other Name: What Does the Term Genderqueer Mean to Us in 2021?
“I feel like people started enacting these borders around it and categorizing it, and that felt so bad and wrong, and the antithesis of everything that it should be. Then, some people also really conflated it with the idea of being genderless or agender, and I’m like, “No…” I feel a lot of gender feelings! I don’t know what they are, or what they mean, but they’re there.”
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We Aren’t Failures: Naming What Was Lost as an Agender Person
“Other people built a gender for me and trusted that I would defend what they built. But what I was handed never made sense.”
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Y’All Need Help #20: First Admit That You Don’t Know Yet
What should you do about a baby’s pronouns, how do you and your girlfriend both propose to each other, and how do you stop holding a candle for an idealized past? Come on in!
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Into The A+ Advice Box #3: Summer Hookups, Bisexual Sadness and Gender Feelings
We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!
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Bottoms Up: Ch-ch-changes
As my gender expression changes, so does who I’m attracted to.
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A Queer African Tale: On Trauma, Gender Transitions and Acceptance
“Dating broken white women became a way to reprise a powerlessness that years of sexual abuse and generations of blackphobia had tricked me into believing in. I drowned this feeling of powerlessness in weed and seeking out relationships in which I could engage in yet remain completely hidden from view.”
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Where Intersex Meets Lesbian
“Not all of my experiences as an intersex person inform my being gay, and vice versa, but the overlap is there and it affects things in ways that are both good and complicated at a time in history when homophobia and intersexphobia are alive and kicking.”
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Rebel Girls: Waiter, There’s Some Theory in My Gender
SPOILER ALERT: Gender is (sort of) a myth.
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25 Things I Do To Make My Body Dysphoria Feel Smaller and Quieter
Everything’s gonna be super duper.
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What Does a Lesbian Look Like?: The Autostraddle Roundtable
What does a lesbian look like? Until a few years ago, mainstream culture was pretty sure they knew the answer to that question, even though they didn’t. The Autostraddle Roundtable tackles passing, why people can’t understand that lesbians can have long hair, and the relationship between gender, style, and sexuality.