Results for: be the change
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Is Monogamy Cool Again?
Is the era of polyamory over? Are more queer people returning to monogamy? Or is it just a shift in the cultural conversation?
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How Polyamory Pushed Me to Prioritize My Pelvic Health
Communicating openly about sex and pelvic health with my partners helps me advocate for myself in medical settings.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Can I Make My Primary Partner Have More Fun?
Stop trying to make your vanilla partner more kinky!
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#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How To Deal With Jealousy
This month, jealousy rears its pesky head for one polyamory veteran. Find out how to normalize jealousy, decode your feelings, and reframe jealousy as a gift to point you towards exploration and growth.
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11 Books for Getting Started with Polyamory and Non-Monogamy
Search polyamory and you’ll see the term partnered with words like “sexual revolution” and “on the rise” in several news pieces on the subject. Surely, there’s more to non-monogamy than sex, or the rebellion of joining a fad? What could it take to make being open/ polyamorous/ non-monogamous work? Eleven books and the internet’s idea of a “sexual revolution” bookshelf later, I present to you a list of some major titles relevant to queer women.
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The Elusive Three-Way Relationship: How to Avoid F*cking It Up
A how-to guide to your first polyamorous adventure, from someone who made all the mistakes so you don’t have to.
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How to Navigate Polyamory as a Non-Primary Partner
Always a side piece and never a main piece? We’ve got you covered.
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Six Queers on Polyamory and Identity
“Polyamory and queerness are pretty much inseparable for me in practice.”
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Poly Pocket: Solo Poly Without Hierarchy
“Not leaning into change is a lot like staring at your house while it’s on fire.”
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Poly Pocket: Balancing Comfort and Desire
How a 23-year-old bisexual polyamorous nonbinary femme xicanx in two very loving relationships does poly.
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Poly Pocket: Dreaming of a World With Less Fear, More Vulnerability As A Black Trans Queer Person
“I view polyamory as a structure that’s helpful in me decolonizing my love life and the way I view relationships. Having complete ownership of everything within the borders of my skin, and doing what I desire with it and with whom, is an incredible “fuck you” to the systems of oppression I seek to dismantle (and a fun one!).”
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Poly Pocket: Queer, Poly, Living On A Boat
“Boats have also been incredibly healing for me and have really helped me create better relationships in all parts of my life. They make me work harder to maintain my friendships, be better at communication, and generally just better at existing around all different kinds of people.”
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Poly Pocket: Gray Ace, Bi & Poly
“Being queer, Asian-American, femme, and gray ace — this is my identity and I get to choose what that means to me.”
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Poly Pocket: Being As Direct As Possible
Here’s how a 23-year-old native and Jewish queer trans woman with Cerebral Palsy living in Baltimore and dating a few people does poly.
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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Wants to Date Other People and It’s Breaking Your Heart
Your girlfriend wants an open relationship and you agreed to it, but now you feel terrible all the time. What to do?
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Why We Have an Open Relationship: A Dialogue on Queer Polyamory for Lesbians
Do you have a girlfriend? That’s fine. I also have a girlfriend. But I think you’re cute, and you think I’m cute, and let’s not waste all this cuteness and attraction just because we both have girlfriends. I’m sorry, did that come off a little harsh? It wasn’t supposed to. It’s just what a conversation might sound like in a world where monogamy wasn’t the norm. Contrary to popular belief, monogamy and fidelity are not one in the same. Take it from two lesbians – real lesbians – who have both been in serious relationships, both open and exclusive, and are still trying to figure out what exactly that means.